Asking for a friend, I have gone through therapy on the NOCD app and it has helped tremendously. I guess I just want to rant a little and see if anyone feels the same. I was just wondering if anyone that experiences ROCD can relate to this. I find myself constantly comparing my relationship to others and of course questioning if it is a good one at all. My boyfriend supports me through all my endeavors, especially with supporting me through my OCD and I love him dearly. That is why I guess these thoughts cause so much distress.. it is hard to trust myself because I was in a very toxic and abusive relationship before this one and I thought it was perfectly normal. I have dreams where I’ll date other guys and wake up mad at my boyfriend for either not doing little things like buy me flowers (which is dumb compared to the love he has for me) or I’ll wake up and be spiral into thinking about if I love him why would I be having these dreams. It’s like my OCD loves to keep me in the loop.

Thanks for responding! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, and it’s always been so lovely. But if he doesn’t do something small to show me he cares it feels like the end of the world. I broke up with him once because I made a huge deal about him not doing the small things for me and I was convinced I had feelings for someone else. I of course feel guilty for it and it doesn’t make this situation any better. My boyfriend knows about it and forgives me fully. My OCD just won’t let it go most times. I feel so irrational when I say these things to him when he does the world for me. I don’t think I have realized it is ROCD until recent. I have struggled with OCD for a long time and didn’t know ROCD was even a thing.

Yea me too, the one thing that worries me is the classic thought of “what if you actually feel this way and it is just easier to think you have ocd so you don’t have to go through heart break”. It’s the one that makes me stuck in all my subtypes of ocd. We just have to learn to sit with it. Have you tried meditating to help with ur ocd? I am trying to get into it and it seems to help with just letting thoughts go.

Me too. I know what makes me feel better but I struggle a lot with helping myself stick to it, I can’t help but think it’s because my OCD doesn’t want me to get better. Haha I don’t know if that makes any sense. But I know once I start to get better it tries it’s hardest to stay

I did a bit. But we focused mainly on contamination ocd because it was my biggest struggle. Now that is has gone down I notice other subtypes becoming more prevalent

@bean123 Well you’d address these themes the same way you did your previous ones. And it may be a good idea to reconnect with your therapist for a check in if you feel confused about how to start ERP for this.

@pureolife Thank you!