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- 4y
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- 4y
I deal with the same thing. I constantly question if I love the person I’m with or if there is someone better. I realized it’s quite a normal thing but ocd takes it to a new level. I found instead of worrying about if I love the person or not just accept the uncertainty that it’s possible I don’t love this person. As time goes on you realize it is just ocd tricking you and you’ll truly realize how special the person is standing in front of you.
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- 4y
It’s scary though... I know i need to beat this but I’m scared I really don’t love my partner anymore....I still cry about it so I feel it has to be ocd still...I feel like I lie to everyone.... 😞 I feel like I am in denial. He’s a fantastic boyfriend. He cooks cleans helps buy food has been patient with me... why do I have to feel this way I have someone who truly loves me and I feel like this.... 😞😞 I know I need to think differently but I feel like if I do I am gonna find out it’s me....
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- 4y
I encourage you to take action.
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- 4y
For a long time I felt really bad and denial. I’m still in a bad place with ocd but I’m working on it. I think the key in determining if it’s ocd or not is if you have strong doubt in something and are constantly questioning it. I’ll be having a good day with my girlfriend and notice I’ll think “what if I don’t really love her” which will spiral into a depressive feeling. I realize all of my thoughts that really cause me doubt with anxiety and depression are rooted in OCD not reality.
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- 4y
I’ve been very very depressed for a long time now... 5 or 6 months of it... I’ve been so unhappy.... I’ve dealt with ROCD for years but this is the worst it’s ever been... I’ve had small happy moments but it was ruin bc I started panicking... last night I felt semi happy. But now... I don’t. My friend wants me to be positive again... she wants me to be happy but it’s hard to feel anything but depression.... 😞 I miss being with my partner like before I miss wanting to cuddle wanting to kiss him and wanting to make love with him..... I wanna cry right now about it... 😖 I’ve almost harmed myself over this.... 😞
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- Date posted
- 4y
I would start with a therapist to get properly diagnosed and treated. Personally when I go through this I get really bad self doubt and depressed. I’ll constantly observe my reactions and feelings. But when I start questioning if it’s ocd or just my feelings is when I know it’s ocd. It’s just one of ocd’s tricks.
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- 4y
i feel this too a lot but it’s apart of my bpd too
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- 4y
What’s bpd?
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- 4y
@Mandy7710 borderline personality disorder
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
If not already I would try NOCD therapy. I started it and it definitely helps a lot. I’m not a doctor I just deal with the same sort of feeling and thoughts on a daily basis so I’m just offering small things that help me. A therapist trained in OCD would be your best route. If things get worse I would not hesitate to go to an emergency room. Just remember better days will come.
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- 4y
It’s just I’ve felt this way everyday for 5 months... 😞 how can I be so sure it’s ocd...
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- 4y
@Mandy7710 You cant be sure. OCD is literally about not being sure. All you can do is make an educated guess. You can continue suffering or you can take a chance and get help. You get all people on here to take part in your compulsions.
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- 22w
hi! I broke a short period of doing well without compulsions because I got triggered again. Before this, I had about two calmer days where I didn’t spiral so much, but now everything feels worse. I’m scared that I don’t love my boyfriend as much as I used to, or that this relationship is making me feel stuck or sad. He’s a wonderful person, and I hate thinking this way. I smelled a perfume that used to make me feel calm and in love, and now it just makes me question everything. I spent hours last night searching Reddit, especially on r/ROCD, trying to see if someone is like me or if anyone has answers. I keep rereading posts, hoping I’ll feel certain about what I should do. But I just feel more confused. I keep thinking, “What if I heal and then realize I don’t love him?” or “What if I’m only staying because I feel safe with him or I’m used to him?” I feel numb sometimes, or like I’m pretending, and I hate it. I want to feel love and clarity again. I don’t know what’s real or what’s ROCD anymore. I just feel lost and afraid. I talk to hi. now and i feel so strange like i dont want to force myself i want to like him i dont understand what i feel i feel so weird in my chest
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- 20w
I’m really anxious because I know my ocd is really bad right now so I shouldn’t try to figure it out cause my thinking is a mess but I’ve been having feelings of like I’m not sure if I love him anymore or worrying that I haven’t felt a lot like numb (a lot because ocd has been getting worse and worse) and thinking of like how I’ve been focusing on the negatives and only been looking at him through that lens and analyzing and also feeling like I don’t want this anymore. Basically just like negative thinking in feeling like I’m really scared it’s that it’s I don’t love him cause I don’t want it to be over and the thought of having someone replace him makes me ill. But like it feels like I’m not seeing him how I used to and it makes me upset. Today I was near someone I was like oh this person is cute and then I was thinking that the possibility of meeting someone new sounds exciting and now I’m freaking out because this in combination with feeling like maybe I don’t love him anymore is bad. Also my thoughts keep changing. and like sometimes it feels like I don’t care at all and this has happened but like worst it’s ever been and then other times I’m like I do care I do still feel. I’m just really anxious has anyone else felt this before and it was still ocd? 😭😭
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- 19w
I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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