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- lolashewas
- Date posted
- 3y ago
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- NoRuminationsNoRuminations
- Date posted
- 3y ago
First , you should stop checking what turns you on and what doesn’t. That is going to do nothing but make it worse. The brain does not know you orientation. Anything can turn a person on. Your brain looks for dopamine, especially in pornography. Your brain tends to like things more taboo. Sometimes your brain likes the anxiety that comes with it. I can’t stress this enough, but STOP checking. You will never find what you’re looking for.
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- holleyholley
- Date posted
- 3y ago
so you’re saying fantasies and taboo things don’t mean anything about sexual orientation and that that’s just the brain and the actions are what matter right?
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- NoRuminationsNoRuminations
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes, So I was addicted to porn. And I was so confused why I went from watching straight porn to gay porn. But yeah there is a lot of research on it. There are so many people who watch things that they don’t identify with. It becomes an addiction and something you brain looks for. There are a lot of people who have start having HOCD becuase or it too. That’s why i recommend people to stop watching porn. Especially us with HOCD.
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- nGfloatnGfloat
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Have you gotten any better man? I’ve done so many checking compulsions that I honestly can’t tell anymore.
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- NoRuminationsNoRuminations
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@nGfloat So from when my HOCD first flared up, I have gotten better. Not watching porn has helped me, because it became a constant checking of what aroused me more. And we know how that goes🤦🏽♂️ I am trying to break the habit of constant “checking”. It became so automatic to check if I was attracted to someone of either sex, and it would always let me down. I’m trying to get to the point where I don’t care. It doesn’t matter and shouldn’t matter. This is my life, and I don’t want to be controlled by my thoughts and feelings that are unwanted. Do your best to break the “checking compulsions”. It has been the hardest thing for me to break, I have still been doing it constantly. But hey any progress is progress. I can 100% say if I never started watching porn, I don’t think my HOCD would have flared up like this. There was an article i read before. It mentioned if you were to live on the farm with no internet, phone , or TV your entire life, do you think your HOCD would still be there?
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@NoRuminations same! my hocd would’ve never started if i never watched porn.
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- nGfloatnGfloat
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@NoRuminations I still struggle man. I had the most intense feeling I think I have ever felt in my chest and it felt like I wanted to be gay with every ounce of my being, but now I’m confused and can’t tell if I like it or not.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
this is research based, but the female brain can literally get turned on by ANYTHING sexual. no matter what. i wouldn’t worry tbh
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- lolashewaslolashewas
- Date posted
- 3y ago
please someone respond
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- holleyholley
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i can’t give you reassurance but if it makes you feel any better i’m scared the reason i’m not being bi is bc my bf got mad at me when i came out to him. he’s not against it but he just hates when i say it bc he knows it’s not me. and of course me fearing abandonment i wanna be with him so i’m scared of that.
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- holleyholley
- Date posted
- 3y ago
i genuinely cried after i told him and not a happy cry it was a compulsion.
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- Tolly537
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Ok I have a question for y’all. After you have a good moment with a guy, like when you think about him and want to be with him and it feels good, does anyone get the intrusive thought “what if I’m romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to women?” Because that just came up for me and it is not fun and very worrying. Because I have been aroused by lesbian porn (I did this before my HOCD intrusive thoughts started) and now I’m worried because I was aroused by that I can only be sexually attracted to women ?
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- Idk
- Date posted
- 5y ago
This is ridiculous, now I feel like I’m truly questioning my sexuality. I’m 15. Never had a crush on a girl, don’t think I have. Touched myself to lesbian porn mostly, turned on by sexual images of women but still I never questioned what I felt for boys. I knew I would crush on them, I knew they were feelings. If anything maybe I could be bisexual. But still that doesn’t seem right. I’m just completely lost. Maybe I’m just thinking to much. It shouldn’t be this hard right? I read bisexual people immediately knew. Most of them I think, they realized all their crushes and Fantasies they wanted in real life. I never fantasized about a women, or any girl. I remember crushing on a senior once, I felt excited to see him at school. And fantasized about him. And with my Boyfriend he was just so innocent, and cute and sweet, and when we do sexual stuff I like it. I get uhm .. wet. Sorryyy. I recently got advice to look out for any girl crushes. And I’m really scared about that now. Maybe I can crush on a girl and maybe I can’t. I don’t know anymore. I feel completely unsure of everything. Im not sure if I’m straight or not. I recently started to take quizzes again. I either got straight or bisexual. And idk can anyone give advice? Thanks for reading through all of this if you did.
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- holley
- Date posted
- 3y ago
a little concerned. i’m not gonna freak out and come on this app all anxious and nervous i’ve made that mistake one too many times. but, i was watching tik toks and there was this one that this girl said she would rather scissor with a girl and i genuinely got turned on and in my head i was like (TMI 18+ AT THIS POINT)… “yeah i want that omg” and it turned me on but at the same time made me very anxious. i just don’t believe that runs through straight girls’ minds if they see stuff like that. any advice? on like how to handle this? no one ever really talks about genuine arousal all that’s ever talked about it “groinals”. (which i do in fact believe are a very real thing)
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