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- 4y ago
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- 4y ago
First , you should stop checking what turns you on and what doesn’t. That is going to do nothing but make it worse. The brain does not know you orientation. Anything can turn a person on. Your brain looks for dopamine, especially in pornography. Your brain tends to like things more taboo. Sometimes your brain likes the anxiety that comes with it. I can’t stress this enough, but STOP checking. You will never find what you’re looking for.
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- 4y ago
so you’re saying fantasies and taboo things don’t mean anything about sexual orientation and that that’s just the brain and the actions are what matter right?
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- 4y ago
Yes, So I was addicted to porn. And I was so confused why I went from watching straight porn to gay porn. But yeah there is a lot of research on it. There are so many people who watch things that they don’t identify with. It becomes an addiction and something you brain looks for. There are a lot of people who have start having HOCD becuase or it too. That’s why i recommend people to stop watching porn. Especially us with HOCD.
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- 4y ago
Have you gotten any better man? I’ve done so many checking compulsions that I honestly can’t tell anymore.
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- 4y ago
@nGfloat So from when my HOCD first flared up, I have gotten better. Not watching porn has helped me, because it became a constant checking of what aroused me more. And we know how that goes🤦🏽♂️ I am trying to break the habit of constant “checking”. It became so automatic to check if I was attracted to someone of either sex, and it would always let me down. I’m trying to get to the point where I don’t care. It doesn’t matter and shouldn’t matter. This is my life, and I don’t want to be controlled by my thoughts and feelings that are unwanted. Do your best to break the “checking compulsions”. It has been the hardest thing for me to break, I have still been doing it constantly. But hey any progress is progress. I can 100% say if I never started watching porn, I don’t think my HOCD would have flared up like this. There was an article i read before. It mentioned if you were to live on the farm with no internet, phone , or TV your entire life, do you think your HOCD would still be there?
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- 4y ago
@NoRuminations same! my hocd would’ve never started if i never watched porn.
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- 4y ago
@NoRuminations I still struggle man. I had the most intense feeling I think I have ever felt in my chest and it felt like I wanted to be gay with every ounce of my being, but now I’m confused and can’t tell if I like it or not.
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- 4y ago
this is research based, but the female brain can literally get turned on by ANYTHING sexual. no matter what. i wouldn’t worry tbh
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- 4y ago
please someone respond
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- 4y ago
i can’t give you reassurance but if it makes you feel any better i’m scared the reason i’m not being bi is bc my bf got mad at me when i came out to him. he’s not against it but he just hates when i say it bc he knows it’s not me. and of course me fearing abandonment i wanna be with him so i’m scared of that.
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- 4y ago
i genuinely cried after i told him and not a happy cry it was a compulsion.
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- 25w ago
Hi everyone, Lately, I’ve been feeling confused and anxious about my sexuality, which has been challenging to navigate. I’ve always identified as straight and am currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend. However, I’ve recently started questioning if I might have some attraction to women, which has caused me a lot of anxiety. To be clear, I’ve never experienced romantic or physical attraction toward women in real life, but I have watched lesbian porn in the past. Now, I can’t help but worry that this might mean I’m attracted to women after all. On top of this, I’ve noticed a decrease in my sexual desire for my boyfriend, which only intensifies my concerns about both my sexual orientation and my relationship. This confusion is something I’ve never dealt with before, and it’s starting to take an emotional toll. If anyone has experienced something similar, I would really appreciate any advice or insights on how you worked through it. What helped you find clarity? Someone mentioned that my anxiety might be OCD-related, though I’m not familiar with OCD in this context. I’d love to hear from anyone with experience in navigating these kinds of thoughts or anxiety. I’m open to any personal stories, resources, or guidance on how to approach this situation, both for myself and in communication with my partner. I want to better understand what I’m feeling without being overwhelmed by fear. Thank you in advance for your support!
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- 24w ago
Does anyone with so ocd get scared or feel like they r just going to suddenly realise they r gay. Like all of a sudden you’ll be like omg I’m gay and then I get scared like ong it’s happening to me Can any relate to this
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 23w ago
The thoughts still exist. For the last couple months I’ve been able to say I don’t care and lean into the comfort of being uncertain. Im having a tough time with some things personally right now and guess what decides to show up… Anyways, I’ve been trying to get used to the fact that maybe I’m bisexual with a romantic preference for men (I’m married and love my husband) but when you start going through your compulsions it’s soooo easy for everything to blur out. To my knowledge I’ve never had a crush on a woman but I’ve most definitely watched same sex porn and have thought women are hot and beautiful, then come the thoughts about comp het and how I’ve never been an overly sexual person so that MUST mean something. Ugh idk, just looking for someone to chat with I guess!
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