Hello everyone I would like to ask a few questions that are really troubling me I don’t want this to be seen as me asking for reassurance but at the same time there is a few thing I want to ask to see if anyone else is experiencing what I am going through. I’ve been battling what I believe to be hocd for around three months now and well my path to recovery seemed to be going in the right direction I’ve been doing gradual exposures such a looking at attractive men online sitting with that anxiety and bring it down I’ve also been doing a guided visual exposure around the same topic which has been helping slightly. My problem is I still can see these attractive men and find them attractive though I have to admit not sexually I’ve never had an erection while seeing the individual but I can find them attractive to look at if that makes sense? This is a problem as it links to my lack of attraction of women anymore which I used to have fully. Though I girl I know recently sent me a picture (which I admit I didn’t ask for) and I was able to get a 75% erection instantly but it quickly fell. This leave me in a depressed back and forth I can’t currently see my self getting a girlfriend again and even if I did I fear I would be secretly lying to myself and being unable to satisfy. I feel sick and my mind keeps telling me I’m going to be in this loop of sadness until my mind convinced me I’m actually gay and have to live that life. Does anyone have anything that I can use to help myself or calm myself. All responses welcome.

Sexual Orientation OCD

need help

Date posted: 4y

I understand how you feel. I’ve always been able to get an erection merely by looking at attractive girls (until hocd made me question all of this) and I had no shame in saying a certain dude was good looking because it was never sexual or anything just human nature. Recently, with hocd, the combination of diminishing attraction to girls has made me anxious as hell whenever I see an attractive man or scared that it would turn me on, which it has never once done in the past. I’m here w u on this and lmk if u needa talk

jami3_fletch

Date posted: 4y

Thanks man a talk would be good

need help

Date posted: 4y

@jami3_fletch You got an email?

jami3_fletch

Date posted: 4y

@need help Yeah jamiejackpond@gmail.com

NoRuminations

Date posted: 4y

I have the same issue. Stop mentally checking if you’re attracted. I’ve gotten a little better, but my biggest thing has been automatically checking to see if I was attracted. That’s what caused a lot of my anxiety, because it seemed as if I felt more attraction towards men. Just stop mentally checking if you have attraction.

jami3_fletch

Date posted: 4y

That’s a huge problem for me, for example even today when I was watching a show on tv I looked at every single person to see how I felt some guys I thought were attractive but the girls just felt like a brick wall which makes my problem worse but I can’t not check like I do it without thinking and when I try to stop I may see a guy and think oh he’s a good looking guy and then instantly look at a girl to try and see if I feel different without thinking out it. Got any tips on how you stopped?

NoRuminations

Date posted: 4y

Yeah same here!!!! It’s hard when it’s something that happens automatically. I still haven’t stopped yet🥴 I’ve gotten a LITTLE better to where I don’t do it to every single person. I’m just being more conscious with myself when I do it. And noticing how much I do it. It’s helped me not to do ALL the time but I’m still working on it.

jami3_fletch

Date posted: 4y

Thank you for the advice I’ll keep it in mind

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