my doctor said to me yesterday “ you know it’s ok to my gay or bi but u don’t know that “ that really hit me hard but now all i can think about is i think being bi is wrong and i’m scared to come out and i’m just in denial. i hate it so much?

Sometimes I wonder if our minds are just not busy enough, so they choose a random topic that makes us uncomfortable and start ruminating about it... The problem is that we attach meaning to it even though there's no point.

@maybe It’s not a bad thing to be bisexual to people struggling with HOCD, it’s just the fact that sexuality is such a significant part of one’s personality and it involves a lot of uncertainty, which is horrible for people with OCD. As a result, their brain latches onto it and they panic. @nicolep123 I think doctors and others may say these things because society has become more accepting of people who identify as LGBTQ+. It used to be a taboo thing to talk about, and those who were actually gay or bisexual or whatever were afraid to come out about it because of the rejection they might face. I’m sure your doctor was not coming from a place of trying to cause a spike in OCD symptoms for you; they probably just didn’t realize that this is an obsession for you and not something you need to actually be concerned about. You are not bisexual, but your OCD will convince you otherwise and this is why we have to learn to manage it. I hope you feel better soon - you don’t deserve this :) OCD sucks.

Why would it be such a bad thing to be bi?

Mhm... I don't have any experience with this topic, but you probably need to accept the possibility of being bi. That doesn't mean you are, you just accept that you cannot be certain. Obviously that doesn't happen overnight... Keep trying not to fight these thoughts, they only end up stronger.

ok i just hope that all of these thoughts have absolutely nothing to do with me and they have no meaning.

ok thank you:) right not my OCD is really trying to tell me the only reason i don’t want to be bi is because i’m scared to come out and be accepted. this makes me scared and worried why i worry about this. but i’m telling myself to agree with the thoughts and accept it as OCD

The very fact that the thought of being bisexual makes you anxious is proof that you aren't. This is besides the point though... If you want to rid yourself of these thoughts, accept the idea that it's possible. Sit with it, accept it, and eventually your anxiety will lessen and your brain will realize how ridiculous the thought was in the first place.

Sorry if that's a stupid question, I'm just trying to understand why so many people struggle with hocd.

nothing, i just don’t want to and i don’t understand why i’m having these thoughts. iv been straight my whole life and never had a crush on a girl. ofc girls are beautiful but i don’t know why i keep worrying about this. it just came out of nowhere

ok but i just fear that i’m in denial and scared to come out. like i don’t even like girls that way so why would i worry about this?