Anonymous
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- 4y
danny02danny02
- Date posted
- 4y
I’ve had ocd since I was 14 and I’m 32 now. I have lately been realising with erp and mindfulness that running away from thoughts and feelings is not possible. Scientifically it’s not possible. We can’t control what goes through our heads or what we feel. And if you notice we get anxiety because of fear. We fear noticing that guy or we fear admiting to our selfs that we find a guy attractive or that he may have a good body because we are scared of what it might mean. In our case we are scared to let our guards down because we are scared we will be gay. I’ve had Awsome days we’re I could just let go and not care if I was gay or straight and what I found was that everything started to go back to normal. As I’m typing to you now I have had a ocd flare up and I have caught myself trying to get that feeling of relief again or trying to NOT notice that guy or that picture. This makes the ocd worse. We realy need to let go and just feel what we feel see what we see and get to the point we’re it just doesn’t bother us anymore we need to stop trying to get anywhere as it’s not getting us anywhere. The thoughts will always be there and wierd feelings but they have no meaning or weight anymore. So we can’t get certainty but we will get clarity. Learn to not fear the thoughts and anxiety and doubt by just letting them be there. It’s not easy but it’s definetly achievable and I can see it in my progress. I’m also married with 4 kids 😬😁👍. Watch a guy called ocd mindful on you tube he is a hocd sufferer like us. You can do it man! Let me know how you travel with it
rachel1219rachel1219
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- 4y
Wow you have had HOCD since you were 14? How did you overcome it? How did your parents help you? My daughter is almost 13 and she has HOCD but she is completely convinced she is gay that she refuses to believe even the male crushes she crushes on. It’s just sad. How can I help her? I tell her to sit in the anxiety with the thoughts. How did you get the power to overcome this in your teen years and date and get married ... etc . Sorry if I’m being too personal
danny02danny02
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- 4y
@rachel1219 No it’s ok I’m happy to answer! I’m still struggling with it but nothing like I was since I’ve been doing the treatment properly in the last month. When I was young they just put me on a very high dose of Zoloft but I was not taught how to deal with it. So when I would feel better I would come off the Zoloft and relaps as I had no idea how to handle the anxiety. This would become a common problem with me being on and off the meds. I have struggled with a cancer theme of ocd also and it felt just as bad as the gay theme. I was literally convinced I had cancer and that I was dying even though I had blood test after blood test a gasostropy a colonoscopy ct scans mri the whole works. And I still believed I had cancer. This was 3 years ago. What triggered it was I noticed I lost weight unexpectedly and it all snowballed from there. there is no logic with ocd it’s a very annoying and frustrating thing but she needs to except the uncertainty of what she fears as there is literaly no point arguing with the ocd. It takes great courage to sit with the thoughts and feelings and not try figure them out! I just decided I had enough of the games and rumination and decided to do somthing different and that’s just learn to except the feelings and thoughts and anxiety and not run from them but sit with them not reassuring myself to feel better. We need to learn to tolerate all feelings as I found with me I became a junky for the just right feeling or the feeling of certainty. I’m also catholic and my faith definetly helps me persevere! I also have a great wife and family that are always there. But as hard as it can be don’t try reassure your daughter. If she asks you do you think I’m gay or straight don’t answer it for her as she is just looking for relief as she wants to run from the anxiety. Is she seeing a speacialist?
danny02danny02
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- 4y
I do this. It’s one of the main things that annoys me. You are noticing men because you don’t won’t to notice them. So just notice them without judgment and with out trying to figure out why you notice them. Maybe your gay or maybe your not but what you resist persists. I just accept I notice them and learn to sit with the discomfort without trying to figure it out
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y
Wait that uncertainty kinda triggered me!!... u mind sharing ur story?
danny02danny02
- Date posted
- 4y
Sorry to trigger you also bro 😬.
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