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i think you should just tell ur man what u want or need during sex tbh aside from everything else bc you’re completely normal most girls do the same things but yeah def tell him what u want
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I will. You gave great advice about that, seriously thank you. I guess it’s hard when as a girl you’re never really told you get a say in sex? That may have just been my upbringing though
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@wellwellwell oh girl my mom always taught me that the girls needs come first. and every time i’ve told a guy what i want they LOVE it even if you have to teach them a little at first
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i really do not think you sound bi. who told you that?
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A lesbian woman on reddit. I don’t know, I’m losing my mind. I have no idea which way is up anymore. OCD really is like mind numbing at times, you know?
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@wellwellwell i do, i understand. i’m sorry she said that. if it makes you feel better, I just got the thought that saying i’m “queer” would feel right.
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@doloresguppies Yeah, I’m trying to get used to “it’s okay to not be 100% straight”. And that some attraction to women is not abnormal or bad.
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@wellwellwell that makes me so anxious. i don’t want to be “queer”. i don’t want to have ANY attraction to women
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@doloresguppies Literally me neither, but I’m hoping that writing this down will desensitize mr
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@wellwellwell Like they say that’s what erp is supposed to be right?? So if I say it enough I’ll eventually be like screw this, I don’t even believe this
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@wellwellwell I get it though, having those thoughts pop up like “oh this feels like I’m queer” are TERRIFYING
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@wellwellwell i saw that tilda swintom came out as queer, and I was like “that would feel right for me” and it felt true i’m so scared
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@wellwellwell can this start at 11??
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@doloresguppies What helped me is remembering how I was before this. Before this happened, would you read that and ever think like that? No. OCD is making you think you feel this way. That’s why I’m trying erp, I just want this stuff to ens
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@wellwellwell Mine started at 13, so I definitely think so
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Yeah you have to tell your husband how you want to have sex for you to enjoy it just saying. I mean I have a lot of respect for women too but I like to think of myself as a good boy in the streets but a freak in the bed haha. I mean if you like sex a certain way I don’t think it should be a problem for your husband to accommodate you unless your husband is a really good dude through and through then I would suggest doing some reading on how to talk with your husband about your sexual wants and needs. I mean if it’s meh right now then it can only go up.. haha. Just talk with him.
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I read the master doc and use it as exposure, ocd tries to tell me how I felt when I was younger and flip it on me forcing my attractions for men instead of it being genuine. It uses the things on the list and said I did that or felt that way, although it causes me major anxiety and feel like I have to try to remember it perfectly I can’t and have to sit with it the best I can. I wouldn’t read it as reassurance though, it’s only a compulsion.
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I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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I am very depressed right now. I really feel like maybe I’ve always been a lesbian and never knew. I never questioned my sexuality when I was young, never wanted to explore, I just was straight and didn’t think anything about it, that’s just what it was. I had my first soocd spiral in late high school but didn’t have a name for it, just that I was having intrusive thoughts and it was killing me that maybe I was gay. I can’t exactly remember how I got out of that but I continued to have crushes, talking stages, and dated. It went away and that was that I guess. Looking back now I definitely was still avoiding content and certain people, and still had intrusive thoughts but didn’t think I was gay. I guess they were less sticky. Something about me is that I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’m a virgin. I’m very shy and romanticize things like I love the relationships and scenarios I read about or that I see in movies or the thirst traps online haha. So I want that irl but am disappointed when that doesn’t happen. I have a very interactive daydream (started when I was 13 and still continued that fantasy world now too) with a boyfriend, friends, and a prettier version of me. I enjoyed making up scenarios about sex or romance in those daydreams and fantasies, but when it came to real life, I would get shy or scared when things were starting to get serious with men. I thought maybe this was an avoidant attachment style but now I’m not sure. I never considered female fantasies and I still don’t want to right now. I want to test and see which one I like better, but I’m afraid I’ll find that I’m a lesbian and I really don’t want that. Ive always imagined myself with a man but now I’m worried about comphet. I’m really depressed and I can’t tell because yes, I find some women attractive whether it’s their makeup, face, body, aesthetic, but I never thought that meant I was attracted to them in a sexual or romantic way until this spiral. Now I’m afraid of masc lesbians and pretty women because it triggers me. But I’m also afraid because I feel like I can look at attractive men, but I don’t feel the same way anymore. I can’t even daydream about them bc then my brain inserts a woman. I’m really scared that I’ve lost myself, because I truly feel like I have, but I don’t want to explore with women, I just want to like men, I’ve always liked that idea. But so many lesbians talk about liking celebrities, fantasy men, or just attractive men. Sorry for the rant but I’m struggling a lot right now. I feel like all my memories, even the ones that directly contradict being a lesbian, can be explained away by comphet, internal homophobia, denial, suppression, etc. When I do try and accept uncertainty, sometimes it feels ok, but then something will trigger me and I’m back at square one. I’m afraid if I take my meds I’ll discover something about myself that I don’t want to because I’ve always been depressed and avoidant of life because it never lives up to my expectations. My sexuality is on my mind 24/7! I can’t take it!
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