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- 3y ago
i think you should just tell ur man what u want or need during sex tbh aside from everything else bc you’re completely normal most girls do the same things but yeah def tell him what u want
I will. You gave great advice about that, seriously thank you. I guess it’s hard when as a girl you’re never really told you get a say in sex? That may have just been my upbringing though
@wellwellwell oh girl my mom always taught me that the girls needs come first. and every time i’ve told a guy what i want they LOVE it even if you have to teach them a little at first
i really do not think you sound bi. who told you that?
A lesbian woman on reddit. I don’t know, I’m losing my mind. I have no idea which way is up anymore. OCD really is like mind numbing at times, you know?
@wellwellwell i do, i understand. i’m sorry she said that. if it makes you feel better, I just got the thought that saying i’m “queer” would feel right.
@doloresguppies Yeah, I’m trying to get used to “it’s okay to not be 100% straight”. And that some attraction to women is not abnormal or bad.
@wellwellwell that makes me so anxious. i don’t want to be “queer”. i don’t want to have ANY attraction to women
@doloresguppies Literally me neither, but I’m hoping that writing this down will desensitize mr
@wellwellwell Like they say that’s what erp is supposed to be right?? So if I say it enough I’ll eventually be like screw this, I don’t even believe this
@wellwellwell I get it though, having those thoughts pop up like “oh this feels like I’m queer” are TERRIFYING
@wellwellwell i saw that tilda swintom came out as queer, and I was like “that would feel right for me” and it felt true i’m so scared
@wellwellwell can this start at 11??
@doloresguppies What helped me is remembering how I was before this. Before this happened, would you read that and ever think like that? No. OCD is making you think you feel this way. That’s why I’m trying erp, I just want this stuff to ens
@wellwellwell Mine started at 13, so I definitely think so
Yeah you have to tell your husband how you want to have sex for you to enjoy it just saying. I mean I have a lot of respect for women too but I like to think of myself as a good boy in the streets but a freak in the bed haha. I mean if you like sex a certain way I don’t think it should be a problem for your husband to accommodate you unless your husband is a really good dude through and through then I would suggest doing some reading on how to talk with your husband about your sexual wants and needs. I mean if it’s meh right now then it can only go up.. haha. Just talk with him.
I read the master doc and use it as exposure, ocd tries to tell me how I felt when I was younger and flip it on me forcing my attractions for men instead of it being genuine. It uses the things on the list and said I did that or felt that way, although it causes me major anxiety and feel like I have to try to remember it perfectly I can’t and have to sit with it the best I can. I wouldn’t read it as reassurance though, it’s only a compulsion.
This is ridiculous, now I feel like I’m truly questioning my sexuality. I’m 15. Never had a crush on a girl, don’t think I have. Touched myself to lesbian porn mostly, turned on by sexual images of women but still I never questioned what I felt for boys. I knew I would crush on them, I knew they were feelings. If anything maybe I could be bisexual. But still that doesn’t seem right. I’m just completely lost. Maybe I’m just thinking to much. It shouldn’t be this hard right? I read bisexual people immediately knew. Most of them I think, they realized all their crushes and Fantasies they wanted in real life. I never fantasized about a women, or any girl. I remember crushing on a senior once, I felt excited to see him at school. And fantasized about him. And with my Boyfriend he was just so innocent, and cute and sweet, and when we do sexual stuff I like it. I get uhm .. wet. Sorryyy. I recently got advice to look out for any girl crushes. And I’m really scared about that now. Maybe I can crush on a girl and maybe I can’t. I don’t know anymore. I feel completely unsure of everything. Im not sure if I’m straight or not. I recently started to take quizzes again. I either got straight or bisexual. And idk can anyone give advice? Thanks for reading through all of this if you did.
Hi All, I (22F) have been suffering from HOCD for the past three months. I am engaged to the man I want to be with. However, I can't kick OCD. I was recently aroused when looking at a model in lingerie. The lingerie was objectively sexy and I briefly thought about how she was posing for a man with her breasts out. Likewise, I thought about how sexy it would be if I wore that. But, now I'm terrified. If I can get these responses from the female body-not the male body-that must surely mean something. Likewise, I have trouble orgasming during sex and I don't always love making out. But, I really don't think I'm a lesbian? Long story short, I need help getting over this. I'm in college and I can barely study. All I do is worry. I can't even enjoy my engagement at this rate because I'm convinced I'm in denial. This sexual arousal gives me incredible amounts of anxiety, especially considering I have been turned on by stuff like this in the past. If anyone has any helpful words, please let me know. I am not seeking reassurance, but I felt this backstory was necessary to explain why this fear has been so potent. There may be some real attraction here, which terrifies me. I don't know what to do. I want to enjoy life and improve sex with my fiance but I'm feeling hopeless. If anyone has any words of advice, it would be deeply appreciated.
[NSFW] hocd or denial? I'm lost and confused... I (m18) have been straight my whole life. I fantasized about girls, only got hard to them, masturbated to them... I've had a girlfriend for almost 2 years now and she is the most wonderful person ever, and I am attracted to her both romantically and sexually. So, all of it started three years ago. I saw a movie with a gay sex scene and I thought that it must feel pretty good to be at the bottom. Since then, I sometimes (but not often) thought about being on the bottom when masturbating. Although I felt kind of aroused by the thought, I thought it was a simple fantasy or fetish that I have. I tried some stuff to myself down there but I never liked it. I never had a crush on any man, nor have I ever had romantic interest in a man. About 3 weeks ago I really thought about it and I started thinking I was gay. I thought I was gay because I got kind of aroused by thinking about gay sex like this. I thought I wasn't gay because I was never interested in a man and I always had crushes on women but then I thought I was gay because I was aroused by the thought of gay sex. I started to check myself in my head by thinking of gay sex and straight sex to see if I would be aroused, and I looked at some straight porn - and once even gay porn - to see if I would be aroused. I got a bit hard from the gay porn which made me panic. I feel less aroused in general and it feels like my libido has crashed. Now, when I try to masturbate, I sometimes only think about gay sex, which makes me panic more. It feels like I'm losing my love for my girlfriend, and it feels like I'm less attracted to her, both romantically and sexually. It feels like I don't love her, but I do, and then I question everything. I feel like it's harder for me to get aroused by women. I used to imagine snuggling with my gf and falling asleep with her, which usually made me aroused, but now I don't get aroused by that. Worse, if I try to imagine doing the same with a male, I don't get aroused either. I sometimes feel like this isn't hocd (I don't know if I even have ocd, I don't have a therapist) and that I'm just in denial. I feel like I'm only not leaving my girlfriend because I don't want to harm her, and I don't love her, but I do, I love her very much and I always imagined spending my future with her. It feels like I love her and I don't at the same time. I don't know what is going on. Am I gay? Bi? I don't want to leave my girlfriend, she is amazing and wonderful and I want to stay with her and I love her, but I constantly doubt that as well. Am I gay or bi if I fantasize about gay sex and get kind of aroused? Again, I never thought about having a romantic relationship with a male, and I only ever wanted to be with women. The thought used to disgust me but thinking about it now doesn't make me feel anything, but then again, neither does thinking about the same with a woman now, which is making me afraid as well. What should I do?? I'm lost and confused and I don't want to be gay or bi, but I constantly doubt myself. I don't want to leave her, but I question even that thought - do I not want to leave her because I love her or because I don't want to hurt her - which makes me even more lost.
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