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Yes my 13 year old daughter . It is so sad. I want to help her.
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It's really hard, because this is the thing we fear the most, thie actually coming true. I don't even know if i'm in denial or it's just in my head
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I’m sorry . It’s hard. I can understand . She relates every cute girl to a sexual intrusive thought. It’s very hard sometimes . Very very hard . I spent the first two months not knowing even what was going on. That was the worse. It’s still not too much better but we are coping.
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I'm sorry, especially if she is so young, it must be so confusing. What triggered this for her?
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A TikTok video of two girls . After that she just spiraled and that’s all she thinks about
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And when did HOCD hit you? How are you coping ?
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3 months ago, but it feels like i've had it since forever. Sometimes it's better, other days i feel like i want to kill myself, i just want this to end.
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Sometimes it seems like HOCD sometimes it seems like denial.
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What kind of false attractions do you deal with? Because with my daughters HOCD it seems so real sometimes and it’s scary.
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Yes, it seems so real for me too. I get triggered by all the beautiful girls on instagram, by all of my girl classmates, by my best friend, by actresses or singers i always loved..lgbt girls, girls with short hair, that look masculine..now i think i like a girl in my class that i always wanted to be friends with, i just think she's cool and smart, but my brain tells me: you like her, you are just in denial and i feel so baf
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Same with my daughter.
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She believes her attractions are very real too
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How old are you if you don’t mind me asking ?
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17 in two months
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Can you take her to a doctor?
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How did you get triggered
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During quarantine, i was watching and reading porn. Once i've read about two girls having sex and i felt disgusted and all, and two days after that my teacher started saying bad things about lgbt, and a lot of my classmates supported her, and i was like, if i were like that all of the world would hate me..i also talked with my best friend about that, and i asked her: if one of your friends were gay, what would you say..and she said: do you wanna tell me something, and i laughed but soon after that i started looking on youtube: signs you are bisexual, and one comment said: the first sign is that you are watching this..so this kinda triggered me the most
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It’s hard - were you actively having crushes on boys before rhis ?
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Yes, of course, i've actually had a huge crush on a boy for three years, and it kinda dissapeared since this all began..
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@Anonym1l It all disseapeared for my daughter and she still gets shy when she sees this guy but she doesn’t believe it’s a crush anymore she is completely convinced she is gay. It’s so hard
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@rachel1219 I'm sorry, i hope it'll get better, this is the worst thing i am going through and i know how bad it can feel. Did you try going to a therapist, psychologist?
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@Anonym1l I did try. Therapist for her and the therapist said “it doesn’t matter who you are attracted to ... you don’t need to know that right now “.
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@rachel1219 She wasn’t a therapist for HOCD .
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@rachel1219 That made my daughters feelings even stronger
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@rachel1219 Yes, it's so annoying because we want to know for sure and it feels like it's the most important thing right now, like i can't live with the doubt
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@Anonym1l My daughter says “I don’t know anymore who I am” first when I use to envision marriage I use to envision it with a guy and now it’s replaced with a girl . She gets anxiety sometimes and sometimes not - so then it gets me even more worried but I just can’t Phathom how you can be total boy crazy one day and then just think your gay all of a sudden
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@rachel1219 Yes, i know, it feels horrible. I start to doubt if i even liked those boys before, i think i was lying myself all my life
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@Anonym1l Do you have any advice ? Something that can help her - since she is so young
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@Anonym1l It’s so hard honestly . I wish I could give her some advice that would help her
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@rachel1219 I want advice too, actually. But i think she should try to focus on something else and do things she like. She should try to ignore the thoughts, stop doing compulsions. I know it's hard. Also if she is so disturbed by the thoughts, it means she is not gay, if she was gay, she would like the thoughts
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