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Your very brave for coming on here and you are totally ok. Please dont be so hard on yourself you are only human. Wether you enjoy fantasy’s or not does not define you. Your a lovely person and I’m sure you’ll find a lovely partner someday. Work on your ocd I believe in you.
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Thank you so much. I'm just trying to figure out if my fantasies are normal. I have a hard time to understand if my "desires" are ok or not. Obviously, I'd never do anything against a person's wishes but me wanting this.... Is it wrong? (sighs) sorry. I'm babbling too much.
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No need to be embarrassed or apologize. I think that what you’re explaining can be categorized as sexually intrusive thoughts if they make you feel this way. Are you in therapy at all?
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I don't know if this can be categorized as intrusive thoughts because... Well, I'd like to do this one day. It's not an urge... More like a desire? And I do not know if this is ok or just plain wrong... I know I'm not supposed to look for reassurence but everything I "wish" for (sexually, in this context) feels evil and I don't know if I'm indeed an awful person or think I'm an awful person for wanting this.
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Think of an actor having a criminal role. They enjoyed their role it was fun, interesting being that ex. Does that make them a criminal? Did they satisfy a desire of theirs? Are they going out to do crimes?Nope it was just a fantasy it was a role they played and fantasies don’t devalue a person and don’t make them who they are. Humans are very curious it’s almost pure in away. How many kids went up to me and said “I’m a big monster and I’m going to eat you!” It’s adorable but what they said does sound pretty morbid. In the end it’s just a fantasy with no deep meaning. No one thinks of this kid being wack for thinking about being a monster eating people alive. In the end we have so much creativity and wonder and do so without harming a soul. Ps(I don’t care if this is reassurance I’m just a bean)
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Everyone has sexual fantasies, like everyone! I fantasise about women too, that doesn’t really mean I’ll do inappropriate things with them. Our actions define us, not our thoughts!
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Hey, I'm not totally sure the best way to answer your question, H, but know I'm thinking of and praying for you. I know it's hard right now ... I think just do what you think is right and feel good about for right now
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18+ people with this thread please. I just want some advice from people who have experienced this. Its been almost 2 years since my real event and i can confidently say that i feel a bit better about that and my thoughts. (We still have bad moments but we recover.) but, ever since then and before, i feel nasty and gross whenever i engage or interact with adult content. Like this nasty guilt or feeling like i cant interact with it because then my ocd says “this proves that your thoughts are true and your perverse” and after i always feel empty and disgusting. Besides things like that, i read adult fan fiction sometimes or even write stories for my original characters. And yesterday i shared these stories with a close in person friend of mine. (Were both in college) and they were fine about it we laughed about it but then after i felt guilty-my brain was telling me “you traumatized her she just doesn’t wanna tell you” obliviously this isn’t true but im having a hard time believing it and this morning i woke up with a deep dread that i hurt a friend and im horrible. I can say that they’re more positive about these things then me and i think thats why we got into the conversation and i felt comfortable to share these stories but i just can’t get over it. I have a strong urge to ask for reassurance but i know it wont help. I literally have no one else to talk to about this. Ive spoken to my therapist about this guilt with adult content and we have yet to expand on it especially how it goes hand in hand with my asexuality. My therapist tells me its human to feel things like this and its ok to perform self care like that and again-im a human person its usually normal for 19 year olds to be like this especially for someone my age but i dont feel normal. I feel nasty. Does anyone else feel this way? How did you confront this guilt and how did you feel comfortable again interacting with these feelings and actions again? I dont really have a desire to do s*xual things often (im on the asexual spectrum) but when i do i dont want to feel like this. Especially when my ocd types effect it. Advice is needed and appreciated thank you for your help.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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