- Username
- Coul.C
- Date posted
- 3y ago
it could be hard, due to people talking about them and making references but i guess it could happen
So you think I could live my life that way?
Doesn't sound like that would be a happy life...
But is it possible?
@Coul.C If you want to live as a recluse, I suppose it's possible. But if you think your mental health is bad now, just imagine it isolated from the world. I don't think you comprehend what it is your contemplating. I've been in a similar mindset as you and this doesn't end well...Please don't go down this road.
@Ben84 I completely comprehend it Ben im kind of offended that you think I don’t. At points i would little just stay in my bed all day and not go out at all because i was afraid to do a compulsion. Not eat just stay in bed sometimes in the same position. Now i cant do that everyday but i have done things to that extent i was just wondering if it were plausible because there’d be no point in me going down that route if it didn’t hold.
@Coul.C I want to say though i know youre saying this out of a good place and dont mean to offend me. I just have contemplated it and it came off condescending when you said otherwise
@Coul.C My apologies. Do you recognize that what you're asking to do is avoidance? Do you realize that if you give in to this avoidance, your OCD will likely take things even further?
@Ben84 Apology accepted. Sometimes i dont see it as that honestly but i do know that it probably would go further in the future. I find it like not avoidance but protecting myself? But i guess thats where the disorder comes in...
@Coul.C A part of the reason I'm concerned is because the kind of thinking you're exhibiting helped land me in the psych ward. I'd like you to avoid that if possible.
@Ben84 Thats a little triggering to hear ngl.
@Coul.C I was afraid it might be and yet it's something you probably needed to hear if you hadn't considered the possibility. Know that I care about you.
In my opinion, time is a fleeting thing. However cliche or trite this may sound, it is somewhat of an illusive construct. The past is gone. The future has to come. The only thing you can exist in is the now, which is both constant and every changing. Does that make sense? Lol 🤷🏻♂️ I am not sure why you ask, though. Why wouldn’t you wanna watch old pieces of media? There are so many amazing films, albums, and classic works in literature, and such. As Ben suggests, if this an avoiding compulsion, I recommend you try an exposure around that. Best of luck!
*future has yet to come
@Coul.C Of course! I’m glad you could be of help, if you need any suggestions on movies, books, albums to listen to, I got you
@Make the most of everyday ✌🏼 Oh please do!!!
@Coul.C Yeah, okay, I LOVE Scott Pilgrim vs the World—it. is. HILARIOUS! These are new personal favorites, but some of these are Rated R. So keep that in mind, if you don’t watch that Other somewhat recent movies: Book Smart Lady Bird Once Upon a Time in Hollywood Hunt For the Wilder People Jojo Rabbit Sorry to Bother You Shows: Insecure Lovecraft Country Dave Atlanta Community The Office I can give more suggestions, if you need it... As for albums, what kind of music do you like?
@Make the most of everyday ✌🏼 Oh so you’re into comedy huh?! Haha i like all music but country tbh. Do you have any books youd like to recommend as well?
@Coul.C Also i wanted to avoid it because im afraid due to my negative thoughts or thoughts of things that i fear contaminating things around me and making them cause those things to be true. Some people say it’s magical thinking but its been true for me so many times before
@Coul.C Although I don’t have that form of OCD, I can understand how that may be distressing. I don’t wanna make it worse with reassurance, so maybe it is or isn’t true...What I can say is, coincidences happen so often that’s why they have a word for it. We, as humans, sometimes have a tendency to give meaning to the meaningless. I get it, though, I have ocd myself ahaha 🤣
@Coul.C Also, I wrote another message, but it did not @ you
@Make the most of everyday ✌🏼 This piece of advice... also hit home. Thank you so much.
@Coul.C Of course! I hope I can be of great comfort, encouragement, and help you in this journey of yours. Best of luck!
Oh, yes, you can tell😅...But, definitely, I love comedies lol. my philosophy is, I am always in the mood for a good laugh. And okay, I mostly listen to bedroom pop (Rex Orange County, Clairo, etc), rap (Kendrick Lamar, KiD LAROI, TOKYO’S REVENGE, Lil Wayne, Lil Uzi Very, and so on), R&B (Joji, SZA, BRENT FAYIEZ), but you if like country...I love Kacey Musgrave, LANY, Morgan Wallen! Books (mostly recent reads of mine): 100 Years of Solitude Lovecraft Country The Handmaid’s Tale Pride & prejudice I Am Legend Beloved To Kill a Mockingbird
The past year I’ve been dealing with OCD about free will, consciousness, and instincts. The latter two stem from the free will problem, but basically I’ve been having anxiety and OCD about having no control over my life on a biological basis. It all started because I watched a YouTube video called “Why we Don’t have Free Will and why that’s OK” from a health channel called “What I’ve Learned” about a year ago. After the video, I started panicking and thinking what if I have no control over my life? What I really am just a product of my environment and I have no freedom? I went and scoured the Internet for counters to these questions and actually found some really good stuff, but my search for answers kept leading me to other topics that threatened the idea of free will. This is where consciousness and instincts OCD come into play. From this research, I found out some scientists say that a lot of our actions are unconscious, but luckily however I did more research and found out that a growing number of psychologists don’t think the unconscious mind actually does not even exist. As for instincts, it all started because I saw a Quora questions that asked “Why is human instinct generally considered to be overriden?” I thought I would get more answers about how human have free will, but instead the top answer was the complete opposite. That answer to this question talked about how humans always act on instinct and that the reasons we give ourselves for acting a certain way are always an illusion. He claims to have done 20+ years of research on human instincts to further his business. The guy doesn’t have a bio degree or anything. I want to be suspicious about these thoughts, but I STILL think about the possibility of him being right about how humans might not be as free as we think. All my research and counterpoints to my own existential crises are nice to know, but I still haven’t been able to shake the thoughts “What if all these people are right? What if we really have less control than we think?” One thing I try to still tell myself is that pretty much everything we know is not a certainty. There is so much uncertainty in the world, and we shouldn’t try to find certainty all the time. I want to just live my life without thinking about all these existential things and just enjoy it. Please let me know if any of you have had similar thoughts or experiences. I’d love to hear your tips, tricks, and anything that can help. Thank you, and have a great day, wherever you are.
Hey guys, I'm really scared, someone PLEASE reply (POCD 18+) Okay, so tonight I was beginning to feel better about my obsessions and began to feel like maybe I was actually making progress. But I feel terrified rn, I'm scared because I used to watch hentai and cartoon stuff when I was younger, I'm 19, I would look up certain anime stuff or cartoons, but I started feeling happy that I probably stopped when I was 15. But now I'm terrified, I used to watch the tv show Big Mouth on Netflix but stopped after I started feeling uncomfortable with the show since it is really graphic. But I'm scared that I may have watched porn about the show while I was watching it. I don't really have strong memories about it but I'm terrified because that would have been when I was 16. I'm so scared, my friend said that "worst-case scenario, say you did, it's just a drawing at the end of the day" but I'm really scared. I'm really grossed out, I don't know what to do, I was just starting to maybe feel better but I don't even know anymore, I'm terrified, what do you guys think???
Okay, so for the most part, if you have harm ocd/intrusive thoughts, you’ll understand (hopefully). If you haven’t seen, everyone is talking about the Netflix documentary “Dahmer”. Most harm ocd sufferers (myself included) that I’ve gotten to know all struggle with fears of being evil in any way (like a sociopath/narcissistic, etc). Do we need to make ourselves watch it? Even some of my friends without OCD say they couldn’t do it. The reason I don’t want to watch it is because I’m afraid it’ll trigger me. I’ll look for any common traits (this is what I do) and it’ll send me into a panic attack. But aren’t we SUPPOSED to on purpose watch things that bring us distress? The series has everyone talking about mental health and it SUCKS because OCD is considered “mental health” and I feel like it lumps us all into a giant category. Everything true crime triggers my harm ocd. I don’t even want to know humans are capable of such things because then it reminds me “it’s all possible”. I don’t know if I explained it well, but does ANYONE understand where I’m coming from 🥺🥺🥺🥺
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