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Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me. I really needed this. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
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Your welcome I totally get what it is like, ocd sucks! Take care
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hi, I legit almost cried when I saw this because I’ve been struggling with the same thing for two days now! Agh! It’s a horrible feeling! I love my boyfriend till death and I know I wouldn’t ever hurt him but my brain tells me I did cheat on him and can’t remember!!
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It’s so tough. We will get through this <3
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@Anonymous So random but would you be ok if we spoke more about this? I’m trying to meet girls that are going through similar situations as me so we can help each other out! I have an Instagram but idk if I should put my username on here lol 🤪
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We all make mistakes or do things maybe we wouldn't do now. OCD is torturing you and making it seem like you cant do anything wrong or you are the worst person. It does the same exact thing to me. If you guys worked it out and put it behind you, your ocd is compulsively picking it up again and saying let's analyze it and make sure it's ok to let go. But, you can let go now. Also just because this may have been a theme that's bothered you, it's still just thoughts. It's not the same as you having an actual affair and of course the ocd is going to look for evidence though in your behavior to prove either way if you've done anything wrong. Also I'm sure your husband has done things that have upset you too. All we can do is just do our best and work through issues the best we can! You can live in peace now and don't have to wait on OCD. Hope you feel better I know it's hard ❤
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I feel this so hard. My mind randomly told me one day that I cheated on my boyfriend when we first started seeing each other and he said he would break up with me if I did that but my mind is so convinced i did ! I feel like I can’t remember if I did or not for a reason too and it eats at me everyday. The best thing for us to do is accept the thought and move on. It sounds soooo hard but ruminating makes it even worse. That’s why I think I am so far down this rabbit hole. You are not alone!
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Thank you so much for responding. It’s so tough.
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Hi. I am going through something really hard right now, and I could use some insight, especially from others who deal with OCD and morality-based spirals. There was a time during a really emotional conversation with my boyfriend when he said something incredibly painful. He said something like he only felt lust for me but did not feel love anymore. I was completely crushed. It felt like everything I believed about our relationship was ripped out from under me. In that moment, I told him that what he said felt like rape. I want to be really clear. I knew even then that it was not a good or accurate comparison. It was not assault. I was trying to express how emotionally violated and broken I felt, and that word came out. I even labeled it directly, not just compared it, and that is what has been haunting me. I feel like I kept going along with it, not because I wanted to lie or manipulate, but because I felt like if I backed down from it, he would not understand the depth of how hurt I was. He didn’t seem to understand any other way. Later, when we tried to be intimate again, I told him not to touch me. And even though a part of me did want closeness, I still felt like I had to react that way, like I had to follow through with what I had said earlier. I wanted so bad for him to understand the impact of his words. That part is killing me. It makes me feel like I was not being authentic, that I was performing a reaction instead of living it. I feel like I acted like a survivor when I was not one, and I hate myself for that. Now, OCD is eating me alive over it. It keeps telling me I am a liar, a manipulator, and someone who cannot be trusted. And it feels so real. But I also know I was hurting. I was not trying to deceive anyone. I was just overwhelmed, desperate to be understood, and probably influenced by years of invalidation from my family over almost everything. I have talked to my boyfriend about it and apologized. He told me he understands and forgives me. But I cannot forgive myself, and I do not know if what I did is forgivable. Has anyone ever been in a similar place? I feel so so awful this was 3 years ago. Now I feel like I can’t trust any of my emotions. I’m analyzing every reaction, past and present, trying to decide if it was “real enough” or if I was somehow dishonest. It feels like OCD has completely hijacked my sense of self. Please help :(
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I have false memory real event ocd, I’ve been married 13 years and I used to constantly bring up past mistakes from when we were dating and it RUINED our marriage, but I got medication and therapy and things got better untill a few weeks ago where everything crumbled. I have a memory that is 13 years ago of me being intimate with my husband (than boyfriend) while being intimate I have a memory of sending a text to a male who obviously liked me but I didi not while my husband was under the covers . And I keep thinking over and over how disgusting and inappropriate it was to do that especially doing it in the middle of being intimate 😞. I have confessed this to my husband last year and he didint believe me saying it’s probably a made up memory and would are not a slut and wouldn’t do that. Now i have guilt all over again for weeks and it’s taking such a toll on me it’s all I think about and try to remember every detail I’ve thought about it so much I don’t even know if it’s 100 percent true. But I can vividly see it when I close my eyes. How do I get over this guilt without confessing? Confessing would absolutely destroy my husband.
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I have this deep fear I’ll accidentally cheat on my long term partner. This fear was initially triggered a couple years ago after being at a bar with my friends where I enjoyed the attention of being flirted with by a stranger. Because of my enjoyment of receiving verbal attention, I began spiraling about what if I accidentally cheat. Since then I have made multiple confessions to my partner to seek reassurance, replayed events over and over in my head, spent hours googling/looking at reddit threads, and now I dread “bar like” situations where I know my partner won’t be around. Today I was triggered and have wasted about 4-5 hours of my day ruminating. Does anyone else with relationship ocd struggle with this fear and have any tips?
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