am i the only one that doesn’t have any attraction to the opposite gender

thank you. i thought i was the only one

omgg thank you

you honestly sound the best. i thank you for understanding so much. i know it’s hard but thank you. your daughter is very lucky

@animal35353 Do you feel the same ? You look at your current crush and wonder —- hmmm why don’t I like him as much anymore ?

@rachel1219 Yesss! so much

@animal35353 My daughter came home today and she said she is feeling uncomfortable around guys and that she is only has one active crush and still wonders about him but I do believe ocd gets in the way of your crushes too

@rachel1219 it really bothers me

thanks. i’m just scared

@animal35353 What scares you

@rachel1219 Even I growing up can confidently say that I had periods when I had no crushes on anyone - not one person.

@rachel1219 i get that. but i find it scary because it kinda feeds into the thought “your gay. coz you don’t like *whoever* anymore”

yes i am the same as your daughter. and it’s very distressing. it’s making me think i like women of all ages. and i don’t want to

that’s exactly how i felt when my mum told me it’s okay to love who i want. it made me worse

thank you so much. my mum doesn’t understand as much as you. i rlly appreciate it

i think it’s more likely the hocd. i haven’t felt even butterflies in my chest like i used to. i don’t like it. my biggest problem atm is looking at a girl and feeling like i want to be with her and i just want to cry once i’ve felt that

@animal35353 My daughter goes through the same same things

thank you. i really hope so. does your daughter have an ocd therapist

nope. just for anxiety. but i haven’t been able to see anyone in AGESSS because of the pandemic and i’m on a new waiting list

no not really. i don’t really like talking about it to someone who doesn’t really understand

i don’t often talk to her. i just don’t feel like she would understand. i just tell her it’s not been a good day in my head

@animal35353 Understood. I am always here if you need to talk sometimes the feelings feel so real

@rachel1219 thank you so so so much

yep. i feel that

@animal35353 It’s hard but you will push through

@rachel1219 i really really really hope so

@rachel1219 can i talk about something that’s bothering me that happened when i was younger. i’ve told my mum about it but it’s a reaccuring worry and she’s fed up of hearing About it ?

when i was younger. like 8/9/10 (not sure) me and this friend that’s a female also. we played these games that involved kissing and getting to know bodies. my hocd (if that’s what i have) is telling me that that’s the proof that i am gay from a young age. i liked doing it at the time. it took me years to realise that i didn’t like it. i always say “what if that didn’t happen. all would be fine”

it still really really worries me. it’s a reaccuring worry like every year because i’m for some reason convinced that i raped them and that the police are out to get me

i don’t want to. i’m too scared

thank you. i feel for your daughter. i have extreme anxiety as well but the meds helped tonnnns

yeh. i really hope so

@animal35353 Hey! I’m seeing your comments quite frequently, I know that you’re extremely anxious right now and in the deep throws of OCD, but what you’re doing is engaging in compulsions. I know how hard it is to resist, but although it feels good to get reassurance it is making your OCD expenentionally worse. I think you need to do a lot more research on OCD so you know what is happening and how to deal with it! Go onto YouTube and look into OCD videos. PureOChrissie does numerous videos on this theme, and there are various different qualified OCD therapists that speak on this. OCD is OCD regardless of the theme, so researching OCD itself is a very good way to understand yourself. This may be reassurance, but it’s important you know this - childhood sexual exploratory behaviour is ENTIRELY normal and healthy. It isn’t a reflection of sexuality. It happens in virtually all children and is expected. OCD will try to find anything to prove itself. It’s the same as health OCD in many ways - ‘I’m scared I have cancer... someone I know died from it, if they could, then so could i, oh no, I feel light headed’ etc, etc. Please, PLEASE stay off of this app until you know more about OCD and your theme. You won’t regret it. I had this theme, and I recovered. The one thing that was holding me back the most was engaging in behaviours like this. It keeps you STUCK, it does not help you move forward. I’m sending you my love. Start making steps to recovery. I wouldn’t advise you to start the ERP on this app until you’re more aware of what it truly is you’re experiencing. You’re not doomed to this, I promise you - I can speak from my own experience! Educate yourself. I can link some videos if you would like

@Ellie thank you sm !

@animal35353 You will be totally fine !

@rachel1219 thank you i rlly hope so

@animal35353 My daughter is going through the same thing- it’s hard ... I can understand

@animal35353 My daughter told me that the attraction to the opposite gender is going down

@rachel1219 I feel like you’re not talking about your daughter, I have a feeling you’re talking about yourself. If that’s the case, it’s okay to admit that this about you. So many of us have/are experincing this.

@Ellie Absolutely not- this is regarding my 13 year old daughter - 100 percent

ERP and education on OCD, just heed the advice I’ve given you! Start with the OCD research and then look into an ERP therapist!