doloresguppies
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- 4y
stop.stop.
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- 4y
You need to work on accepting uncertainty and not relying on responses. You are looking for reassurance in our responses and most of us won’t give it to you because we want you to get better. There’s only so much we can say without giving reassurance. Sometimes it’s easier to not respond and let you sit with the uncertainty. Don’t let what you do with not responding to people impact how you view people who don’t respond to you. It’s not in the range of any of our rights to assume anyone is in denial. We wouldn’t want it done to us, so why do it to someone else? We want to help you. It’s just hard to keep responding without reassuring especially considering none of us are in the full mental space for it.
DanjaminDanjamin
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- 4y
Probably the perfect response you could give
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doloresguppiesdoloresguppies
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- 4y
yeah but sometimes i don’t respond to posts bc i feel like they’re in denial and everyone must feel this way too
DanjaminDanjamin
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- 4y
Honestly if I was you i would take a break from the app if your using it as a compulsion. Also I would recommend getting some professional treatment as soon as possible, looking for reassurance is a compulsion and is like lighting a fire, sit with the uncertainty and your anxiety will beging to decrease.
ruminating_redheadruminating_r...
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- 4y
To me, I’ve seen a lot from you in the past hour or so begging for a response, that is an ocd compulsion. I know because I have the same issue. I would google the same question for hours and hours. You feel you need an answer instantly to release some of the anxiety, but truth be told, it will only make it worse and strengthen your obsession at the end of the day. I can tell you to just try to accept the possibility of whatever it is you’re fearing. Sometimes I remind myself it’s ocd. (I’m good at recognizing when I’m having and obsession at this point) if you just try to accept and not react with mcompulsions, eventually the anxiety will simmer down. I promise!! 💕
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- 8w
I need some advice
So I haven’t been on this app in a while. But I just want advice on how to overcome this. I’m now 18 and I’ve been trying out dating apps. I’m not gonna lie I’m kinda picky when it comes to dating only because I plan on dating to marry…so I take it a bit more seriously. But for some reason it’s so hard to click with people on these dating apps. So my friend was helping me through this dating apps process. I told her that I wasn’t interested in this guy I was texting anymore because of the way he was responding to my messages. And she says maybe you’re gay…this is honestly the sixth time (I’m definitely over exaggeration but this isn’t the first time someone had said this to me) someone has ask/said this. Every time someone says this it literally sends me down this spiral of are they seeing something I’m not seeing. Despite never having a crush on a girl my mind goes down this loop of overthinking. And when I say I don’t want that lifestyle or I don’t really find pleasure in being apart of the lgbtq community my mind is like in denial. I just wanted to have a fun teenage dating experience and now every time I open the app I always think what if I really am gay and I’m just in denial…or what if the reason why I’m not connecting with anyone is because I’m really into girls. Since i’m also religious, my mom wants to go what you’re denying who we are because of your religion. And I tried to reassure myself by saying I would know if that was the case like I would feel deep down who I’m truly attracted to and know that I’m trying to cover it up by dating men. This whole thing is so mentally taxing because I was going through this all throughout my senior year of high school and I’m not going into my freshman year of college so. Like I literally felt so much anxiety next to one of my classmates who was gay and a masculine presenting. I feel like if I would’ve told this to anyone, they’d say of course you’re in denial. But ig reply if you can relate
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