Does anybody else find tiktok extremely distressing? Like when people talk about comp het and like saying that everyone is a little bi or they feel bad for straight people etc. I just don’t want to be with a woman but am I really in denial and I actually do?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Clementine

Date posted: 4y

Yes. I see so many videos about ‘if u liked this movie you’re definitely bi’ and loads of things that pretty much anyone could relate to but it’s still upsetting because I manage to convince myself that if I relate it must mean I’m bi. Also a lot of people calling straight people names and stuff and I find myself just randomly agreeing (when I don’t want to agree because I don’t think we should be intolerant of anyone). But yeah it’s not a fun place to be a lot of the time, shame it’s so addictive.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Do you think it would be avoidance if I like stayed off of it for a bit? I just really can’t deal with some of the stuff like saying if you did this as a kid or watched this music video you are definitely gay now. It’s so frustrating

AdversWarrior

Date posted: 4y

@Anonymous Maybe you coule use it as exposure? But I would still agree that it is very triggering, maybe you can start changing ur algorithm by 1. Not interacting with the videos and 2. Blocking and or putting the "not interested" option on the users and videos, that way your tiktok will become much more pleasant

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

@Busybee Thank you this is great advice! Just when I see triggering videos I feel like I have to rewatch them to check which is probably why I get them so often. Also like afterwards I’ll be like why did I rewatch it lol its such a vicious cycle!

SonicBoom

Date posted: 4y

I hate TikTok. I believe it’s what triggered my HOCD. I wish I had never stepped onto that app. Videos of women who left their marriages because they’re gay to videos of attractive lesbians and commenters say things like “I think this just made me bi.”

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I know it really is triggering like that’s probably my worst fear finding out I am lesbian when I am like older and in a relationship

AdversWarrior

Date posted: 4y

I find tiktok annoying for this as well, also with the fact that it has a lot of triggering rethoric for ppl with OCD especially surrounding trans obsessiones and sexual orientation based obsessions as well

pluralines

Date posted: 4y

absolutely

Mads

Date posted: 4y

Yes!! It can be so triggering for me, especially because I have videos in my feed that reference “straight-tok” as if it’s completely separate from what has shown up in my feeds... my friends and family send me videos all the time and I feel bad that I don’t react to them right away because I just kinda avoid the app when it gets too much for me to handle

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Yeah I totally understand! I am glad that tiktok is a safe space for so many LGBT users but I think the population of people who identify as LGBT is a lot less in reality than on tiktok or even in tv shows which is like super triggering. But then like I feel bad because there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay so I don’t know ocd is just torture

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