can y’all pls help? when i get an intrusive thought about something sexual i don’t want to like, i immediately get turned on or i think to myself without forcing myself “that sounds nice.” like my immediate reaction is i like it. then i have to reason with myself or convince myself i don’t like it. i just feel like if my natural thoughts are that i like it, then isn’t this the real me?

Sexual Orientation OCD

helpme22

Date posted: 4y

I think (at least in my case) my sexual thoughts is my subconscious telling me how needy of love I am and it creates those scenarios as intrusive images with people around me family , friends etc. Doesn't mean I want to touch them or I find them attractive it's a signal of my brain warning me that I want to fall in love and marriage. Using the image of people around me out of context because they are intrusive thoughts .The same thing happens to harm thoughts the other represents ourselves something we are not happy with and we hate it that Its more easily to hurt somebody than imagine hurt ourselves. The covid-19 lockdown made feel so lonely that I doubt about who was me. My beliefs , my sexuality, my dignity etc. I'm finally understood that shit after 7 mouths of hell.

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

When you don’t simply accept the sensations without making judgments and without performing compulsions, you’re likely to get more intrusions, like thoughts that you “like” the stimuli when you don’t. Stop trying to convince yourself you don’t like these feelings. Don’t argue with that thought at all. Just accept that it’s there. And that you can’t be 100% sure why or what it means and you don’t need to argue with it. Let the sensation pass on its own. Do the same with any new intrusive thoughts that try to get your attention or get your to perform compulsions.

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

why is it that compulsions will make u think u like it, shouldn’t avoiding the compulsions be harder?

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 Compulsions lead to more intrusions in terms of frequency and severity. Your ocd is throwing whatever it can at you to get you to do compulsions. It knows that if it sends you this type of thought that you’ll likely feel like to “have to” perform the compulsion and engage.

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@pureolife When you first start resisting compulsions, it is harder. Your ocd usually throws and fit and tries to send you more thoughts. But as you practice resisting and it learns that you won’t react with compulsions, the thoughts become less frequent and severe.

lmaocd🍓🥰

Date posted: 4y

@pureolife but what if i’m resisting thought sthat r indicative of my true sexuality?

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 You dont and shouldn’t try to resist thought from happening. That’s thought suppression and it doesn’t work. But you can choose to resist compulsions like trying to convince yourself a particular thought or feeling isn’t true. Whatever your true sexuality is, resisting compulsions and accepting the presence of your thoughts will still be good advice for getting out of the ocd cycle. You don’t have to like or agree with the thoughts, but you should accept that they are there without engaging in them.

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 This is my favorite article about accepting uncertainty: https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/mistaken-beliefs-uncertainty-acceptance-ocd

pureolife

Date posted: 4y

@lmaocd🍓🥰 And this is my favorite article about the fear of denial in ocd: https://ocdla.com/doubt-denial-ocd-5342

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