Hey. So I am at a friend's house right now. With bad religious ocd right now. And so I have had these friends for long time now. I stopped having sleepovers with them when my OCD got really bad. Now, I am hanging out with them again. They keep making slightly dirty jokes and inappropriate jokes. It is really triggering. It's starting to make me even more depressed as I am here because my OCD is just so confused. Makes me feel like I can never hang out with them just because they are triggering me. I am just so confused. If that makes sense. Someone help. I know what I said was probably confusing. I am trying to do ERPS.

Religion & Spirituality OCD

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

Thank you all!! Will be taking your advice when I see them!! Have an amazing morning/day/night! 💝

Madison the ...

Date posted: 4y

Those triggers are good exposures. Sit with the uncomfortable feelings and ride the wave of distress, with NO compulsion, and it’ll pass.

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

You're right. I think I am just very upset because I was excited all day to come here.

Madison the ...

Date posted: 4y

@hvtwirler28 I know how you feel. OCD likes to ruin moments in which I’m supposed to be happiest. It’s okay! The distress will pass, you just have to wait it out.

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

@Madison You're right! I will keep that in mind as I calm down. Thank you.

babbie

Date posted: 4y

Telling your loved ones what’s going on with you can be really freeing (as long as it’s not part of a confessing compulsion). But asking them to stop joking would be unfairly controlling to them, and unhelpful for you in the long run. Is there a way you could let them know how you’re feeling while also making it clear you don’t want them to restrict their speech around you? Something like, “My ocd acts up really badly around some kinds of topics, so if I look stressed or step out of the room for a minute, that’s why! I just wanted to let you know what’s going on, I love you guys!”

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

Thank you!! I am actually home now. I cried for a little bit with them and decided to come home. Which is okay! I feel better now which is good! And you're right! they do know about my OCD. And you're right I shouldn't tell them what to say or not say or do or not do. I try to not do that. I mentioned how some things they do trigger me. But I was trying to say it in a nice way. it was just a little difficult because since they don't have OCD they don't really understand what's going on. Which I guess was what made me upset that they couldn't relate or anything. But they are being very helpful!! And thank you btw!

babbie

Date posted: 4y

@hvtwirler28 So glad you have your friends’ support! 💜

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

@babbie :)

Sully0421

Date posted: 4y

Would you feel comfortable telling them that their jokes are making you uncomfortable?

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

I would. But are you gonna give me reassurance?

Sully0421

Date posted: 4y

@hvtwirler28 I’m not sure if giving reassurance is the best thing because that could be helping your pattern of complusions which could interfere with ERPS but if they are friends worth keeping they will stop making jokes that make you uncomfortable- I’m sorry I know me not being able to give reassurance is difficult I just don’t want to make anything worse in the long run

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

@Sully0421 You're right. Sorry my message was kinda confusing. I was asking because I didn't want you to give me reassurance. But you're right, thank you for not giving me reassurance! ❤️

hvtwirler28

Date posted: 4y

Hey!! So I just realized that I had totally misread your message when I replied lol. But thank you for helping me out!!

Sully0421

Date posted: 4y

@hvtwirler28 No worries I’m glad I was able to help anyway

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