Does anyone else get anxiety when kissing their SO even though they really wish they could enjoy it?

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@Anonymoe I can’t even quite figure out why it causes me so much anxiety and that’s the part that bothers me. Like.... It just feels gross? If that makes sense. Even though I am attracted to him and love him it still feels gross? Makes me feel crazy

@Anonymous I feel like you’re reading my mind. It feels too like I’m almost being taken advantage of too. Which is crazy!!!

@Anonymoe Me too!!! And I have no reason to feel that way because my SO has been so patient with me throughout this. Glad to know I’m not alone in this. Does anything help you?

@Anonymous No. I don’t know what to do. Awaken into love (find her on YouTube and Instagram) has helped a bit with it. Because she felt almost repulsed at one time too and she’s so much better now.

@Anonymoe Thanks! I’ll look her up

@Anonymous It’s just called relationship anxiety

I was trying to do that but I could last very long.

@Anonymoe That’s okay! You can also work your way up. Start with a peck. When you get good at resisting all compulsions for that, make it a full kiss. Then eventually a make out. It’s okay to start small and it’s usually better because it helps you build confidence along the way.

@pureolife All I can think about when I kiss my partner is how gross it feels and I don’t nessicarily know how to identify the compulsions

@Anonymous Some compulsions to look out for: - mentally reviewing the kiss to figure out exactly how you felt and why - cancelling out the gross feeling with some sort of positive thought about your partner - avoiding kissing your partner - mentally checking yourself for feelings of disgust when you kiss - repeating a words or phrase to get rid of the feelings/thoughts of disgust You WILL have feelings/thoughts of disgust when kissing your partner. That is to be expected right now because of your theme. Your job is to let those be there and still kiss without mentally reviewing, checking, avoiding, or neutralizing those thoughts.

@pureolife There’s no compulsions to it, it’s just like anxiety that makes me cry

@Anonymoe I see. I think there could still be some sneaky compulsions happening, but it might be more effective to challenge the thoughts you have about this feeling. When you have this feeling, what are you thinking? Why are you crying?

@Anonymous Hey! Do you want to email? I would like to talk with someone who has ROCD to see what it’s like for them.