emma
- Date posted
- 4y
BigGyro09BigGyro09
- Date posted
- 4y
All depends on how you look at porn alone and how you want the relationship. If you don't want him doing that, then you can talk to him about that. Me personally, I don't think it's mostly ethical having a partner watch porn when any sexual fulfillments can be worked out with a partner instead of something fake on a screen. It's all up to you since this is your very own relationship. I wouldn't say he's a monster for that, not at all. But if that bothers you, you can let him know that.
carliecarlie
- Date posted
- 4y
No not even a little bit. It's natural to masturbate. But if you feel the need to worry there could be other issues I dont know. So I'd say he is in no way bad for watch pornography, but if does something like make you watch it too even though your uncomfortable than tha can be an issue.
emmaemma
- Date posted
- 4y
he dont
carliecarlie
- Date posted
- 4y
@emma Then I would say that he is not a monster. But that in no way means you have to watch it just because he does. And if it bothers you it could be a compulsion on you end over pornography. But I am not here to assume anything and this could just be a non ocd related experience or anything. Anyway I hope you can work it out.
Mmj97Mmj97
- Date posted
- 4y
Usually people who watch porn a lot are okay with their partners watching porn.. if you don’t watch porn then you will always think it’s wrong. So maybe you are gonna have to accept his behavior and start to focus on why it makes you uncomfortable other than him seeing naked woman. When he watches porn look at yourself naked and compare you to her. You won’t see a lot of difference. Look at others relationship too. If a guy has a girl that looks like she can be a porn star and yet he cheats on hers. Then looks and seeing a hot woman naked..isn’t enough for a man. It’s who you are and if he doesn’t treat you right. He won’t treat the other girl or even a porn star right.
purekookainepurekookaine
- Date posted
- 4y
youre allowed to take issue with someone you love watching porn. the "anti porn" movement is a very old one that people (men and women) have been part of for many different reasons: being against the abuse rampant in the industry, being against how it can worsen sexual dysfunctiin, etc. It also wasnt as accessible and mainstream and accepted as it is now before the internet, so mnay women were against their bf using porn. you should identify what ur issue with it is, and talk to him about it.
purekookainepurekookaine
- Date posted
- 4y
my point is: worrying about this isnt necessarily JUST your ocd talking. but as carlie said, it's good if he doesnt pressure YOU to watch it, or to act out things he has seen, etc
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