Therapist talk- So id like to make a comment. Im happy to start tackling my ocd head on but my therapist seems very cut and dry? We had a 90 min session but she wanted to end it 30 mins earlier. She didn’t really seem sympathetic to much of anything going on in my life. And interrupted me at times. I do like how she is active in erp though.

"Pure" OCD

artsygirl

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Maybe try more than one session BUT I will say if you are promised a certain amount of time and are paying for it, make sure you are getting what you agree to. 90 minutes does seem a bit long but maybe that was just for the first session.

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

It is a long time haha

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

I felt similarly after my first session. They have to do the assessments and it can feel impersonal. Also OCD therapists aren't going to "get in the weeds" as much as a talk therapist might. When she interrupted you what did she say? Did she ask questions? What stuck out most to me was the first session ending so early. This isn't necessarily a "bad" thing, but you have the right to get clarification on it. You could text her like I did and just indicate that the session ending much earlier than scheduled raised doubts and anxiety for you. You would just like to know why it ended so early. If she's a good therapist, this won't bother her at all.

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

Did it end early for you as well? And ok that makes sense i guess.

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

Ok but i sent her like three paragraphs and all she responded with is I understand?

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

@Coul.C It didn't end early, but I did have a concern about his attentiveness. We got it worked out and have had success since.

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

@Coul.C You could try asking "Is this something you could help me with during our next session?"

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

@Ben84 Oh ok so it went the full 90 minutes? And she was responding fine and then only responded with asentence. Idk

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

@Coul.C Yes, about the full 90 mins. She was responding fine? Had you given her similar information before? Were you repeating yourself a bit?

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

@Ben84 I read the question wrong so the first three paragraphs were about that. The last paragraph answered the question which we talked about on that other post... idk

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

@Coul.C Hmm...I'd recommend seeing what happens during your next session. Like I mentioned I didn't feel great about the first one either. "I understand" can feel like a terse response. That's a downside to texting or forums like this. That's why I often use emojis ☺. It makes my intention more clear. Some people communicate better in writing (like myself) and some don't. I'd say give her a chance.

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

@Ben84 Ok ben I’ll see with her on Monday i guess. Just not great especially since my magical thinking was telling me it wouldn’t be

Ben84

Date posted: 4y

@Coul.C Based on what you've told me, I can see why you're feeling cautious. However, I don't see any definitive red flags. For what it's worth I think you're doing great ☺. Be honest with your therapist about your concerns. A good therapist will admire someone who advocates for themself.

Coul.C

Date posted: 4y

@Ben84 Thanks Ben i also asked my cousin to go and she said she would want to but the timing sucks. I suggested the weekend and she said she would ask her mom. Now i feel like if shes says no its rejecting me and my whole trip id feel like a reject. Im worried i messed up my trip before i started :(.

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