I’ve noticed that i genuinely don’t care if i was a lesbian, I dont want to be with a woman at the moment (even though i feel like im lying to myself). But what terrifies me is that I won’t end up with a man and will end up with a women and it makes me so sad cause that’s not what i want :( Idek at this point man im so lost and confused and yeah:/ This is just attacking my identity to the core and i can’t even fantasize about a guy anymore without being triggered And girls just make me uncomfy and scared and i don’t like those thoughts and dont wanna like them because it’s just not me then im scared it is me and im just lying to myself🙃 And the opposite with guys 🥲

I feel this too. I dont think reasoning is the best tool in this scenario since OCD tends not to follow and be satisfied with logical reasoning. For me the most helpful part is saying "maybe I am, maybe I'm not" and sitting with the uncertainty. Bottom line you don't have to have an answer right now. OCD will demand that you come to a conclusion but that just doesn't work. In order for OCD to go away you have to learn to be okay with not knowing for sure. It's hard but you'll get there.

Wow...this is totally me girly. Ok ok first of all...lets get rid of the gay part. Say this to yourself, you will never like girls only you will always enjoy men. So thats a logical reason. Now you are gonna start fighting if you are bi or not. Im worried that i might be little...but its ok to say you dont care because your brain is working so hard to try and get rid of them they keep coming back and you physically and mentally feel exaughsted. I found that logical reasoning helps. I had a problem for a quick minute with TOCD i quickly combatted it with well if i wanna have kids i need to be a woman to do that. Immediately they went away. I worried about not having a husband. But i realized i wanna know what having sex feels like making real true love with a man feels like. And i need to remember that i cant have sex before marriage so now that doesnt make me worry. You also need to stay in the present to get rid of the present to not worry about the future. I know im a straight woman. But i finally made a logical reason. I will always like men more anyways so theres nothing to worry about. Boom immediately they left. And i combated it with if you worry so much nothing will change. I genetically have ocd so this HOCD is genetic i have no control over that. Once you say that logical reason of you will always like men more anyways itll go away. Keep reminding yourself itll go away. Your not lying to yourself. Your brain saw something as a virus and its trying to protect you from it so it begins hitting you with these thoughts to hopefully get rid of them quicker anything your brain thinks i finally realize is not you. If you say the most bi thought its ok let it pass you still like me wanna be straight so you will be. You dont wanna be that you wont. Once you stop giving a shit and saying eh whatever im not worried and smile about it. Itll then flow out. Ive delt with obsessive thoughts before and trust me they passed now i look back and realize how stupid it was. This will only make us stronger.