For people who suffer from ROCD: What's your relationship with avoidance? how do you cope with avoiding seeing your partner/talking to them, etc?

Yeah you got it right, it's about that, I also feel like I'm ruining it too, but we can always change our behaviours, just like we can fix things, I think the first step is to stop avoiding things, conflicts are supposed to happen, so I say to myself to not worry to much about them

@Bunny I hope you are able to fix it.💪 I sadly think my relationship has suffered so much that its beyond repair. But at least I'll use it as motivation for beating this thing. OCD has stolen so much from my life.

@asdfghj I personally believe that if you need someone and someone needs you, you can move on from everything you both have been through as people change, forget, forgive and feel new emotions, which help them to move on. I used to be afraid of the thought that I felt so many bad feelings and thought of so many bad things that I wouldn't be able to just feel happy again. But I do feel a lot better. Of course you know your situation better, but still

@Daria Alexandrovna I'm glad to see that you're doing better! That's amazing. I do believe on what you said, and that's what keeps me going

@b4682j Oh 100%, I have been devastated, absolutely no happiness in life, felt guilt, anxiety, a lot of what ifs, 24 obsessing and ruminating, mental compulsions non stop, figuring it out... but slowly I got better, without a therapist but with some light calming pills and a lot if new activities, communication + understanding ROCD

I do the same lmao, I talk to my gf sometimes to reassure myself that we're fine

@Bunny Ahah I used to cry all evening and then sit for an hour just waiting for this call bc after talking to him I felt like I loved him and it's all shitty thoughts. Sometimes I am scared of kisses and intimacy nowadays bc I want it but at the same time I do too much of mental chrcking so I don't feel as good

@Daria Alexandrovna I feel so much, going through the same thing

@Bunny feel you* oops

@Bunny Generally I am a lot better and I am no longer thinking 'do I love him', though I started thinking 'why are you so confident about it? are you lying?' but still I am better. Do you have any guestions for me maybe to help you?

@Daria Alexandrovna Well, I still have the obssession that maybe I'm lying to myself and that things will end one day without much effort, I still don't know how to deal with that so I'm going into the avoidance compulsion, y'know?

@b4682j Oh then I think the mai thing for you is to stop avoiding so you can see bright colors besides dark and feel happiness and not only this feeling of Ying

@b4682j lying *

@Daria Alexandrovna yeah, probably ❤️ thks for the advice :D