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- km113456
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I get this so bad the last 6 weeks or so, its hell isn't it? And I dont feel any love because I guess I'm too caught up in constant stress and worry and then it makes it feel more real. X
Yeah 1 million percent, but then I remember feeling all good feelings before I got caught up in the OCD, we will get through it!x
Exactly, this is my 3rd bout of this type of ocd now, its actual hell. I dont know why my bf puts up with it because I don't even want affection or anything atm because then I question my reaction to it. This is the longest bout yet but got my first session on Tuesday so fingers crossed. Hope you're OK xx
You’re thoughts are ocd just telling you you’re biggest fears over and over again, if you question it’s ocd than it most likely is, try not putting things on forums like this because it’s a form of reassurance seeking, which reinforces the negative intrusive thoughts, just let the thoughts sit and let them be, don’t do anything that acts as a compulsion (eg. reassurance seeking, researching online, checking and comparing your relationship to others). This is one of the hardest things to do but it needs to be done, believe me I’ve been there, just let them be, it causes anxiety but the anxiety is what needs to be normalised, you will be okay and see the light at the end of the tunnel, try and find a therapist specialised in ocd x
Everyone feels like it's real. 10/10 real, like. But you are doing words by trying to figure it out, it's not going to work, trust me. This way you just tell your brain that 'yeah, there is danger, because I am trying to escape it. so give me more thoughts so I don't get caught up in this danger' when you don't engage, your brain still thinks there is a threat and you are ignoring it. So it is making you even more scared than before, so you would perform a compulsion like you would usually
Yeah that makes sense so hopefully if I stop doing the compulsions eventually the thoughts will calm down, I’m pushing myself to do a workout and spend time with my dog so I’m not ruminating
That's very good. It's going to feel more real and the thoughts will flood you at first, but just resist
It's really hard but this is how you recover
Fingers crossed x
Yeah I’m having my first proper session next week at the moment I’m trying to focus on stopping ruminations that’s what I got told on the intro session x
Hope you’re okay to x
It feels so real cause I’m not even trying to reassure myself that it’s my OCD I’m just trying to not do anything but it’s making me think it’s real feelings I need to act on and it’s making me super anxious and guilty and upset
It just feels so hard when it feels so real :( and then I get anxious I somehow need to act on the feelings and get guilt etc but Thankyou I’m going to try let it pass x
You wouldn’t be worrying or questioning if you live your partner, if they’re attractive enough, if the relationship is good etc if you really felt those things. These are just your biggest fears getting into your head because ocd is horrible like that. You will be okay x
Yeh it does feel so real it’s horrible, I’ve been there, things will be okay soon x
Thankyou x
No ‘what ifs’ anymore- just direct statements sometimes ‘you don’t love him’ sometimes ‘I don’t want to be with him’. I can’t see any hope of feeling better- I don’t even know if this is OCD. This isn’t how love is supposed to feel- how do I know if my partner just isn’t the one? I did have really intense anxiety but could still feel that love and desire to be with my SO but now- it seems to be fading away. No more anxiety, intrusive thoughts feel a bit muddled up rather than loud, aggressive, specific thoughts. Help :(
I am struggling a lot right now with ocd convincing me I want to hurt my partner when I know deep down I don’t. It’s more so a feeling then a thought. I’m just scared that one day I’ll be convinced or give in into the thought. I don’t want to feel like I would hurt my partner anyone else ?
I’m starting to be convinced it’s not ROCD and I don’t know what to do anymore 😔 I’m very irritable around my partner now and extremely overly critical of his social behaviours and the way he talks and acts and just everything. And I keep seeing other people talking about their symptoms and their intrusive thoughts and how they know they don’t believe those things, and I feel like those things are real flaws that genuinely bug me and it feels real and I’m worried it’s not OCD anymore and I’m scared. I feel like I’m losing touch with reality because of how much I spend in my head worrying and trying to figure out if what I’m thinking is bad.
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