- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hey!! I Identify as sexually fluid or pansexual, and I’ve been dealing with ROCD and SOOCD for quite some time now. Just because you have same-sex attraction does not mean that it’s not OCD. Also, it’s helped for me to just tolerate the idea that “maybe I am gay. If I am, and I have to leave my husband, I will cope. I will survive.” Just constantly saying “maybe!” has been a huge turning point for me. It’s also helped for me to address my core fears of abandonment and loss of connection, because I think that for me, those are at the root of why these specific intrusive thoughts feel so scary.
- Username
- Gosu123Gosu123
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I can’t relate personally but i have seen a few people on the app that can
- Username
- pluererpluerer
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes meeee! Sexual Orientation OCD can affect anyone of any orientation. Go with uncertainty! Maybe I'm really gay. Maybe my past attraction to men was false. Maybe I will end up with a woman. I wish I could label myself with a perfect box or be certain about this but I can't. Oh well. Happiness is on the other side of uncertainty
- Username
- WhatabtmeWhatabtme
- Date posted
- 3y ago
You're not alone! I dont use labels anymore cause it just fuels the ocd but used to call myself bi. It makes the ocd like 100x more intense when you're not one or the other ya know? It's hard cause I've had real attraction to women but always since a kid was into guys (I'm a girl). I'm with a guy, my partner for like 4 years now and this theme just makes me constantly doubt I've ever been attracted to guys. Like the OCD is just not okay with my sexuality being complicated and not clean cut. But I'm working on accepting the uncertainty for the sake of ocd recovery
- Username
- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
ah yes! It’s so hard as well because of the anxiety it can be really difficult for me to actually get aroused enough to have pleasureful sex because I’m freaking out about whether or not this specific incident will prove whether or not I’m gay :(
- Username
- WhatabtmeWhatabtme
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Oh I know just what you mean! ! It's awful sometimes. I actually havent been able to bring myself to have sex in almost a year now bc of it.i avoid intimacy so much. I'm working on desensitizing to the fear so my partner and I can be more intimate again but I've had so much shame and guilt and impatience around it. You're not alone
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- Username
- nicky310
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Is it normal for even straight people to question their sexuality at times? Before HOCD I was like I’m probably bi or whatever based on NOO CONCRETE EVIDENCE bc in real life I was only attracted to men and am in a stable relationship with a boy...but I got these random thoughts and they didn’t bother me as much that’s until HOCD hit :( and now I’m like NO IM STRAIGHT STOP ?
- Username
- garden
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Okkk! So basically, part of me has accepted that I might be bi, and I’m ok with that because it’s not the worse thing ever. A few of my friends are bi, and being bi ultimately means I can love a wider range of people, which is great. So I don’t mind if I am. However I really really don’t wanna be a lesbian, and today I’ve had thoughts about being one. I’ve suddenly loss all attraction to guys which sucks. I feel like this is HOCD, but how do I know for sure if I don’t mind being bi?
- Username
- mariaxx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I’m so exhausted. Been having HOCD since May & had it once before when I was 15 - both times began as me genuinely thinking I was questioning my sexuality, then it became obsessive and that’s when I landed on HOCD. It was more like HOCD that actually questioning. But I will say I do find women attractive, and have always watched lesbian porn & in my mind I guess I do find women’s body’s somewhat sexually attractive. This being said - I have always had boyfriends, always fell for boys and not once have I ever been genuinely interested in a girl or fallen for one. I’m 20 too, so it’s not like i’m only 14. In very open about sexuality and accept everything and everyone, so the idea of being lesbian or bi isn’t alien to me. Some of my friends are gay and lesbian . Earlier this summer I even started coming out to people as maybe being bi, and i was almost pushing that label onto myself to try and accept myself - but it still didn’t feel right and I am still unsure and uncertain. Just want some advice - is this similar to other people’s stories ? Not looking for reassurance, just genuinely wondering wether it is HOCD or maybe I am just abit gay hahaha (which would be okay, just doesn’t really feel right)
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