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Hey!! I Identify as sexually fluid or pansexual, and I’ve been dealing with ROCD and SOOCD for quite some time now. Just because you have same-sex attraction does not mean that it’s not OCD. Also, it’s helped for me to just tolerate the idea that “maybe I am gay. If I am, and I have to leave my husband, I will cope. I will survive.” Just constantly saying “maybe!” has been a huge turning point for me. It’s also helped for me to address my core fears of abandonment and loss of connection, because I think that for me, those are at the root of why these specific intrusive thoughts feel so scary.
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I can’t relate personally but i have seen a few people on the app that can
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Yes meeee! Sexual Orientation OCD can affect anyone of any orientation. Go with uncertainty! Maybe I'm really gay. Maybe my past attraction to men was false. Maybe I will end up with a woman. I wish I could label myself with a perfect box or be certain about this but I can't. Oh well. Happiness is on the other side of uncertainty
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You're not alone! I dont use labels anymore cause it just fuels the ocd but used to call myself bi. It makes the ocd like 100x more intense when you're not one or the other ya know? It's hard cause I've had real attraction to women but always since a kid was into guys (I'm a girl). I'm with a guy, my partner for like 4 years now and this theme just makes me constantly doubt I've ever been attracted to guys. Like the OCD is just not okay with my sexuality being complicated and not clean cut. But I'm working on accepting the uncertainty for the sake of ocd recovery
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ah yes! It’s so hard as well because of the anxiety it can be really difficult for me to actually get aroused enough to have pleasureful sex because I’m freaking out about whether or not this specific incident will prove whether or not I’m gay :(
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Oh I know just what you mean! ! It's awful sometimes. I actually havent been able to bring myself to have sex in almost a year now bc of it.i avoid intimacy so much. I'm working on desensitizing to the fear so my partner and I can be more intimate again but I've had so much shame and guilt and impatience around it. You're not alone
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I’ve had hocd for around 11 months now. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just convinced that I am bi. I still like boys like I always have, but I feel like I like girls too. I have no anxiety either or active thoughts. It’s just kinda there like yep I’m bi and ok with it. Anyone else? Just curious.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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