is anyone in the same position as me?? I’ve 100% felt sexual attraction to both men and women but there’s just a part of me that’s so convinced I’m gay even though I’ve felt attracted to men so many times. I always hear people talk about being exclusively straight or gay with HOCD, but does anyone else exist on the bi spectrum who also has HOCD?

Hey!! I Identify as sexually fluid or pansexual, and I’ve been dealing with ROCD and SOOCD for quite some time now. Just because you have same-sex attraction does not mean that it’s not OCD. Also, it’s helped for me to just tolerate the idea that “maybe I am gay. If I am, and I have to leave my husband, I will cope. I will survive.” Just constantly saying “maybe!” has been a huge turning point for me. It’s also helped for me to address my core fears of abandonment and loss of connection, because I think that for me, those are at the root of why these specific intrusive thoughts feel so scary.

I can’t relate personally but i have seen a few people on the app that can

Yes meeee! Sexual Orientation OCD can affect anyone of any orientation. Go with uncertainty! Maybe I'm really gay. Maybe my past attraction to men was false. Maybe I will end up with a woman. I wish I could label myself with a perfect box or be certain about this but I can't. Oh well. Happiness is on the other side of uncertainty

You're not alone! I dont use labels anymore cause it just fuels the ocd but used to call myself bi. It makes the ocd like 100x more intense when you're not one or the other ya know? It's hard cause I've had real attraction to women but always since a kid was into guys (I'm a girl). I'm with a guy, my partner for like 4 years now and this theme just makes me constantly doubt I've ever been attracted to guys. Like the OCD is just not okay with my sexuality being complicated and not clean cut. But I'm working on accepting the uncertainty for the sake of ocd recovery

Oh I know just what you mean! ! It's awful sometimes. I actually havent been able to bring myself to have sex in almost a year now bc of it.i avoid intimacy so much. I'm working on desensitizing to the fear so my partner and I can be more intimate again but I've had so much shame and guilt and impatience around it. You're not alone