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I think u should tell them that you are bi and facing sexual orientation ocd. There are 2 ppl u should never lie to, your therapist and your doctor. I regret going to therapy and not telling my therapist what I was truly struggling w bc it only hurt me in the end. U r paying them for their time and help so it is only in your favor to tell them the truth. Whether or not you tell them won’t make a difference to them but it could largely benefit you!
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thank you sooo much for this insight! I actually hadn’t even thought about it this way but you’re totally right. Thanks again!!
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@Liz Ofc (: hope all works out well
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Plus therapists are usually some of the most accepting ppl out there so they could care less whether you come out to them or not, they just want to help you
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I agree it's good to be transparent with ocd therapists. I am also bi, I dont really use a sexuality label but used to, and I addressed this first thing with my NOCD therapist and there was no judgment whatsoever. People of all orientations deal with sexual orientation ocd, what really matters is the erp work you do and accepting uncertainty. They will help you with that!
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aaahhhhh yes thank you! I’m pretty sure I’ll end up telling them, I just hope I don’t chicken out lol
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I have this same problem right now! I too am bi and struggling with HOCD
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Lol being bi sometimes just adds an unnecessary layer to HOCD! Hope you’re able to have it all under control :)
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How does it work when your bi and have sexual orientation ocd. I was straight and I have been diagnosed with severe ocd to a point where I have been told I might need to go into a clinic. They have told me this is ocd and j am not Gay and this has destroyed my 10 years relationship with my girlfriend but now so far down the line I feel I know j am Gay and scared out of my wits.. all I was ever told was it’s was ocd and I wasn’t and scared
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Hey, I can’t really answer your question without giving you reassurance but just know that you’ll always have this community to be by your side when you need it
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I cant afford therapy which is why i’m not diagnosed with ocd. The first time i had heard what ocd was truly abt was 6 years ago when i overthinking my sexual identity and it fit. Additionally, i struggle with debilitating health anxiety and when i was in a rlt i was extremely anxious that i might not love my partner. This is the third year i experience distress around my sexuality but this year it feels real. And it could also explain my rlt anxiety. Comphet is a concept that really scares me. I dont want to be with a girl. I would rather die than discover i was lesbian. I cant accept uncertainty cz i dont want to be homosexual. Chat GPT told me it wasnt ocd + the thoughts dont distress me anymore. I experience 3 intense weeks of anxiety prior to now. Maybe its internalized homophobia. Maybe its comphet. I do find women to be attractive but i dont wanna be with them. Maybe i’m in denial. Idk anything anymore. I’m remembering times where i would find an actress attractive and try to shift my focus towards the man cz it would make me anxious. I’m not well at all.
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I cant do anything anymore without my brain dregdging up proof from my past that I was actually trans and didn't know it, and it all seems so plausible. like I said in my last post its unearthing memories that I didn't even know I have. ik this is just ocd tricking me but I feel like I need to review every moment thoroughly bc I have questioned my gender in the past but always concluded that'd I'd happier as a girl (which is true). everything feels so real and it feels like I am just super in denial. also, how do I tell people about this? I made the mistake of confessing to a teacher on a note and only a couple friends of mine understand the thoughts I get, but I don't tell them everything. however its very hard for me to do basic responsibilities like school work and I always end up overwhelmed, so I'm thinking I may need accomdations. I need to get in touch with my counselor but i'm unsure how to explain all of this to her, being that I don't have a diagnosis....also I feel like I can't talk about this with the majority of my friends because gender ocd is rare to have (increasing my doubts) and, at least school-wise, i'm in very accepting environment for lgbtq and I'm afraid they're just gonna tell me to accept myself. I'm scared of doing erp for this because what if I like it (also cant afford therapy). ive also felt very apprehensive around some of my trans friends and classmates because my brain is going crazy asking "what if you're like them?" and I feel so bad and transphobic for these thoughts. i'm genuinely so tired. one of my closest friends died last year, but my father pointed out that my recent mood has been even worse than it was during that time. i tend to bottle up my emotions a lot, so everyone's just telling me to "let it go" and tell people, but if I do that I feel like i'll end up confessing. i'm so tired and lost.
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I need too know that I'm not insane, really. I am 16 and for the past two weeks, this has been completely ruining my health and happiness. I only recently came out as a lesbian like 3 months ago after a lot of confusion about my attraction since I used to think I liked men. At first, I felt so sure that I liked women, but lately, I've been having these unwanted thoughts about the possibility of liking men. I never used to feel this way, but now, every time I look at a man, my brain obsessively fixates on it. It forces me to imagine kissing him, loving him, things I don’t want, and then tries to convince me that I do. It’s painful. The thought of this fills me with fear and anxiety, leading to panic attacks and breakdowns. I don’t want these thoughts. I hate them with every fiber of my being, but I’m terrified that one day I’ll act on them and somehow like it. I used to think I liked men, but back then, I was in a very unhealthy space in a time of escapism and something deeply parasocial. I’ve only ever liked the attention and validation a man could give me, but these experiences are somehow treated as further proof that I’m "bisexual." I’ve never been in a real relationship with anyone, which makes my brain constantly challenge me—telling me, “You don’t even know what love feels like.” It won’t shut up. It keeps obsessively trying to make me prove that I’m a lesbian, testing my reactions and questioning my certainty. Is this normal?
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