Advice appreciated! I’ve been struggling with what likely is ocd for the past year, with a sexual orientation theme. It recently got kinda bad again so I’m thinking of telling my therapist. Since before ocd hit me, I’ve known I’m bi and I feel like if I were to tell my therapist about HOCD then I should also tell them I’m bi, but idk if I feel comfortable telling them yet. So I don’t know what to do! Should I suck it up and keep managing it myself, should I come out to them or should I not tell them about my sexual orientation and just ask about the OCD?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Date posted: 4y

I think u should tell them that you are bi and facing sexual orientation ocd. There are 2 ppl u should never lie to, your therapist and your doctor. I regret going to therapy and not telling my therapist what I was truly struggling w bc it only hurt me in the end. U r paying them for their time and help so it is only in your favor to tell them the truth. Whether or not you tell them won’t make a difference to them but it could largely benefit you!

lor

Date posted: 4y

thank you sooo much for this insight! I actually hadn’t even thought about it this way but you’re totally right. Thanks again!!

Date posted: 4y

@Liz Ofc (: hope all works out well

Date posted: 4y

Plus therapists are usually some of the most accepting ppl out there so they could care less whether you come out to them or not, they just want to help you

Whatabtme

Date posted: 4y

I agree it's good to be transparent with ocd therapists. I am also bi, I dont really use a sexuality label but used to, and I addressed this first thing with my NOCD therapist and there was no judgment whatsoever. People of all orientations deal with sexual orientation ocd, what really matters is the erp work you do and accepting uncertainty. They will help you with that!

lor

Date posted: 4y

aaahhhhh yes thank you! I’m pretty sure I’ll end up telling them, I just hope I don’t chicken out lol

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

I have this same problem right now! I too am bi and struggling with HOCD

lor

Date posted: 4y

Lol being bi sometimes just adds an unnecessary layer to HOCD! Hope you’re able to have it all under control :)

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

How does it work when your bi and have sexual orientation ocd. I was straight and I have been diagnosed with severe ocd to a point where I have been told I might need to go into a clinic. They have told me this is ocd and j am not Gay and this has destroyed my 10 years relationship with my girlfriend but now so far down the line I feel I know j am Gay and scared out of my wits.. all I was ever told was it’s was ocd and I wasn’t and scared

lor

Date posted: 4y

Hey, I can’t really answer your question without giving you reassurance but just know that you’ll always have this community to be by your side when you need it

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