- Username
- Sher
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Listen I think that the trauma of losing that son is what's bonding them rn. Once the healing gets over with they won't really be in contact anymore because she will be busy with her life and you two will be busy with the life with your child.
Itd be good to you to share this with a therapist. There is also erp practice in this app you can do alone without a therapist
For rocd, it includes a hierarchy and certain uncomfortable practices like drawing a picture of them together and so forth
What I’ve learned in therapy so far is that our brains don’t like uncertainty - in your case, your brain doesn’t like not knowing for sure how important his ex is to him, what the future holds for them, etc. We have to train ourselves to be okay with the uncertainty though, because there’s no way to predict the future and trying to “figure it out” constantly (AKA ruminating) never works and is exhausting. Try telling yourself (as much as it sucks) “There’s no way to know what the future holds for their relationship, who knows what’ll happen”
it’s called retroactive jealousy ocd! i’m battling it right now. what i’ve been doing works for me, though i don’t know for others. i brought it up right away with my s/o, told him everything i think about (mental images, videos) so he could understand. i tried to replace every mental image of him x his ex with then me x him. i acted as my own “therapist” in the mirror and tried to ask myself questions like “why do you get jealous over x?” “why is it important to you?” been getting better
Guys helppp!! I had a very bad day due to Ocd... I have been betrayed by both of my parents, they completely ignored me as their child after they broke up and never ever showed me love or help in anything since then. Then my father suddenly died last year of a serious illness and now I feel more lonely and hurt than ever. Because of these traumatic events i cannot show trust to anyone whether its a friend or my husband. I am having a terrible time in my marriage because i cannot trust my partner, i doubt everything every day i think "what if he is lying?", "what if he doesn't really love me?". It is so awful and i cannot enjoy anything now. No matter how stupid or fake my thoughts are i believe so much in them that it is like i am experiencing these fears. Today i cried and felt extremely bad because of these thoughts...any advice would be helpful! Thank you all!
So I have been working with exposure therapy for the past couple days and I think it's going good. But I have a question for those that suffer from relationship OCD. Now the thought "I don't love him" isn't about my husband... I'm gonna feel terrible for saying this but it's about my own son. He's my only baby and he's 7. I know deep down I love him more than anything but small things trigger me and makes me think I don't. Like tonight I'm forgetting some good memories and some things I feel like good mothers would never forget. Is this common? I'm freaking out here.
I have been with my SO going in 13 years now. We met in college and have been together ever since. We got married in 2021 and welcomed a baby girl in the world last year. I had a severe mental breakdown in 2013 that landed me in the hospital because I was contemplating suicide. That breakdown nearly destroyed our relationship. I had severe intrusive thoughts and felt the need to tell him all of them. I felt like if I didn’t tell him, I was lying. I destroyed his self esteem, telling him all of the mean thoughts I had about him. I would feel the need to tell him anytime I saw an attractive guy in public, I questioned our relationship and told him I wasn’t sure if I loved him anymore. It was bad and very dark. Fast forward to now and I feel like I’m letting him down in different ways. I don’t feel the need to tell him every thought I have now but since having my daughter my OCD and depression seem to be getting worse. I just feel like I’m no longer happy and my daughter should’ve had a mom that wasn’t damaged like me. Didn’t have the abusive childhood like me. Wasn’t broken like me. I feel so much guilt. It’s putting such a strain on our relationship and I feel like my husband deserves someone better. Someone whose happier.
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