Having bad relationship/ jealous based ocd My husband recently lost his son that he raised with his ex since he was 3, the son committed suicide last month. The ex is also engaged. However they have been reunited and have a friendship now and communication on and off these passed month and a half and I’m starting to feel really insecure to the point where he doesn’t tell me certain things because he feels like I will get upset because I freak out on him. He said he considers her family and that I need to accept that but I’m ruminating on this and feel like he doesn’t love me. I’m 8 weeks pregnant and he just bought us a house but my thoughts are spiraling out of control , what do I do?

Listen I think that the trauma of losing that son is what's bonding them rn. Once the healing gets over with they won't really be in contact anymore because she will be busy with her life and you two will be busy with the life with your child.

Itd be good to you to share this with a therapist. There is also erp practice in this app you can do alone without a therapist

For rocd, it includes a hierarchy and certain uncomfortable practices like drawing a picture of them together and so forth

What I’ve learned in therapy so far is that our brains don’t like uncertainty - in your case, your brain doesn’t like not knowing for sure how important his ex is to him, what the future holds for them, etc. We have to train ourselves to be okay with the uncertainty though, because there’s no way to predict the future and trying to “figure it out” constantly (AKA ruminating) never works and is exhausting. Try telling yourself (as much as it sucks) “There’s no way to know what the future holds for their relationship, who knows what’ll happen”

it’s called retroactive jealousy ocd! i’m battling it right now. what i’ve been doing works for me, though i don’t know for others. i brought it up right away with my s/o, told him everything i think about (mental images, videos) so he could understand. i tried to replace every mental image of him x his ex with then me x him. i acted as my own “therapist” in the mirror and tried to ask myself questions like “why do you get jealous over x?” “why is it important to you?” been getting better