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Listen I think that the trauma of losing that son is what's bonding them rn. Once the healing gets over with they won't really be in contact anymore because she will be busy with her life and you two will be busy with the life with your child.
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Itd be good to you to share this with a therapist. There is also erp practice in this app you can do alone without a therapist
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For rocd, it includes a hierarchy and certain uncomfortable practices like drawing a picture of them together and so forth
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What I’ve learned in therapy so far is that our brains don’t like uncertainty - in your case, your brain doesn’t like not knowing for sure how important his ex is to him, what the future holds for them, etc. We have to train ourselves to be okay with the uncertainty though, because there’s no way to predict the future and trying to “figure it out” constantly (AKA ruminating) never works and is exhausting. Try telling yourself (as much as it sucks) “There’s no way to know what the future holds for their relationship, who knows what’ll happen”
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it’s called retroactive jealousy ocd! i’m battling it right now. what i’ve been doing works for me, though i don’t know for others. i brought it up right away with my s/o, told him everything i think about (mental images, videos) so he could understand. i tried to replace every mental image of him x his ex with then me x him. i acted as my own “therapist” in the mirror and tried to ask myself questions like “why do you get jealous over x?” “why is it important to you?” been getting better
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My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
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me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
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