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I know EXACTLY what you mean - and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m still trying to figure it out myself. I get so obsessed with my boyfriends past and ex girlfriends- with paranoia that they are better than me, or that he’ll leave me for them. What helps, and what my therapist has suggested, is instead of asking for the reassurance, have him distract you by having you describe something you know well. Such as your favorite blanket, your pet, his face, etc. Along with that- and this may sound silly, but whenever I have an OCD thought of paranoia, I have my boyfriend tickle me!! It changes the mood around the thought, and makes me realize how silly I’m being! My therapist loves that strategy as well. Best of luck- and remember! Just breathe and remember how much you two love one another.
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I’m Sure you know/have studied that Affirmation seeking is in fact the same as reassurance seeking. Reassurance seeking is a compulsion that provides Temporary relief of anxiety. We should learn to live w anxiety/uncertainty of “forever” as the uncertainty of “Everyday”. They say r-ocd is healed the same way as other ocd themes. E R P :). How did u cure the other rituals? Do the same! :) hopefully w guidance of a therapist or coach you trust :-). Sending you love!! I know this must be hard to deal w. I’ve lived it (from the other side ) and it’s no picnic. But worth it definitely ! If we love our partners !!!!
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akali (Geneva)- I’ve been experiencing ROCD for a year now too. This is my first relationship, probably why my OCD has ramped up. My boyfriend is my soulmate but of course ROCD causes me to doubt that. I don’t have sexual thoughts with my OCD currently but I’m always here to help :)
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Geneva- you’re awesome! Thank you for taking the time to reply. I like your ideas. I’ll have to bring them up to him. How long have you been experiencing ROCD?
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starfire- thank you! And I think the only thing that has helped me is challenging the thoughts and “quitting” the ritual. I guess I’m just struggling because now someone else is in the picture, not just me. My boyfriend is my partner, and when I suffer, he suffers. He wants to help me through it, and my OCD tricks me EVERYTIME! He understands my OCD, but he does get impatient sometimes... rightfully so! It’s such a frustrating thing to deal with. How long have you been on the other side of it?
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I have this same problem. I constantly think my partner is going to cheat. She has not shown any signs of it. But I just CANNOT trust her. And it makes me hate her! I hate this feeling :(
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(It’s me Geneva again! I changed my username and avatar) I’ve been experiencing ROCD for about a year now! My ocd is mainly sexual- which as I’m sure you can imagine can definitely amplify my ROCD at times.
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j289l- If she has not shown any signs of cheating on you, focus on the reasons WHY you should trust her.
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- 18w ago
I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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hi! i often fear im going to lose my job because i made a “mistake” (not really) that my manager caught and is waiting to tell me about or i fear im going to be kicked off the roster of a team im on for small mistakes that everyone makes. this often compels me to ask those people if i did good or not and gauge their reactions to see if theyre going to remove me and i fall into a cycle of asking and asking. how do you guys deal with these feelings / compulsions? when im flaring i often just spend as much time around these people as possible to gather “evidence” of their opinion on me, but then i get nervous that they hate me for being clingy. i also abandon other duties / tasks so i can spend time with these people to make sure they like me. what do you guys do? anyone else experience the sentiment?
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