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Make loving gestures, like sitting close, by him a card for fun, and mail it to him, take him on a date, do the things , you'd wish he do for you, not only is it fun, ita rewarding, even if you don't get anything in return. Feelings are just that... feelings. Like a hang nail. Some days it's there and someday it's gone. , relationships are a roller coaster, no one loves the same way everyday , every minute of every year. You'll be fine. Try to smile and say .. Just Kidding... then that breaks the ice. Good luck
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I'm so sorry... its just rocd. It makes you believe things that aren't true. Just try to explain that to him
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I would take a moment to tell him that you didn't actually mean that and that you had a relapse in your ocd and that you are really sorry that was something you said. Don't do/say this to him again.
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It is so hard. Cause ya know deep down you love him, but its like how does this happen... its so confusing
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My partner understands why I am going through this. Since Iāve been going through this for 9 years out of 10 1/2 years of our relationship. But itās bad this time. I cried to my friend a lot and talked to her for an hour. I feel like I donāt deserve my partner anymore.. š I have a good partner. Heās been beyond patient and loving. I told him I still love him. I cried the whole time I told him that⦠I am gonna join the BetterHelp app. I am worried my partner wonāt trust me anymore⦠i told myself things over and over again and I started to believe it. Been on Reddit too much looking if someone is going through the exact same thing as I am.
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I am scared heās gonna break up with me now⦠š
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- 19w
I donāt understand why I donāt feel happy, why my mind keeps making me think so negatively about him. Nothing makes me feel joy anymore. I keep thinking that heās stupid, that I donāt like him, and when he speaks kindly to me, I feel nothing. The worst part is that I feel completely numb, like I have no emotions at all. And that makes me think that maybe I really donāt like him, that I will eventually reach a point where I realize my worst fear is true. I keep fighting with him because of my attitude. I treat him badly, and I know itās because of my thoughts. I canāt see the good in anything. Today, he told me that I would be better off without him because I always seem so sad. He moved to my city for university just to be with me, and instead of making his life better, I feel like Iām making it worse. The thoughts donāt stop, even when Iām with him. I see people posting about how they feel calm when theyāre with their partners, but I donāt. I canāt look at him without having intrusive thoughts, and I canāt even kiss him. Today, he told me that he doesnāt feel loved by me anymore, that I treat him poorly. I am constantly afraid because I feel nothing when he says things to me, because I donāt feel like I care. When I look at pictures of us from when I was in a better place, I feel like I was a completely different person. I start thinking that Iāve āmaturedā and thatās why I donāt feel anything anymoreālike maybe I only liked him because I was young and naĆÆve. Everything he does and says irritates me, but he loves me. What if Iām only with him because I donāt want to hurt him? What if Iām just used to him? I feel scared all the time. I donāt understand whatās happening. He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesnāt work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I donāt need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I donāt feel the same way. I feel like Iām hurting him, and I donāt know how to get out of this dark place . He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesnāt work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I donāt need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I donāt feel the same way. I feel like Iām hurting him, and I donāt know how to get out of this dark place
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- 17w
I feel like I want to break up with my partner and go off and experience things like falling in love and butterflies and magic again. My partner is my home and my family and my rock and weāre compatible but sometimes it feels like I have these unfulfilled needs. And then ocd comes in and SCREAMS about these things and pulls me away from my partner. Weāve been together ten years. It says leave leave leave leave leave. And I feel like deep down I donāt want to stay. But I know love is a choice. How can I choose to stay when my body is screaming rub. I know I have ocd, and this is what ocd feels like, and I also have a lot of trauma regards to attachment. Am I being a coward??? Will this ever end?
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- 17w
Lately, Iāve been feeling so disconnected from my boyfriend, and I donāt understand why. When I look at him, it feels like Iām looking at a stranger, and my mind keeps telling me that I donāt like him, that I never really loved him, or that I was just attached and comfortable. It feels real, and that terrifies me. I know logically that ROCD makes me overanalyze every little feeling, but it doesnāt make this any easier. I keep waiting to feel somethingālove, excitement, even reliefābut instead, I just feel numb and distant. When we talk, I feel weird. When he kisses me, I donāt feel much. I keep thinking, āIf I really loved him, wouldnāt I feel something?ā And the fact that I donāt just fuels my anxiety even more. It scares me that I canāt remember how I felt before ROCD took over. I look at old pictures, and my brain tells me, āThat wasnāt real, you were just excited to have a relationship.ā And because I canāt access those feelings right now, it makes me doubt everything even more. I also feel guilty because my boyfriend is so loving and patient, but I feel like Iām hurting him. He tells me he doesnāt feel loved by me anymore, and I hate that I canāt just snap out of this and be the way I was before. Itās exhausting. I donāt know whatās real anymore. I keep checking how I feel every second, and it just makes me feel worse. I know thatās a compulsion, but itās so hard to stop. I keep searching for certainty, but no answer satisfies me. Even when I try to accept the uncertainty, my mind screams, āBut what if you donāt love him? What if youāre just lying to yourself?ā I want to be present with him. I want to feel love naturally again. But I donāt know how to get there, and itās terrifying.ā
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