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Make loving gestures, like sitting close, by him a card for fun, and mail it to him, take him on a date, do the things , you'd wish he do for you, not only is it fun, ita rewarding, even if you don't get anything in return. Feelings are just that... feelings. Like a hang nail. Some days it's there and someday it's gone. , relationships are a roller coaster, no one loves the same way everyday , every minute of every year. You'll be fine. Try to smile and say .. Just Kidding... then that breaks the ice. Good luck
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I'm so sorry... its just rocd. It makes you believe things that aren't true. Just try to explain that to him
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I would take a moment to tell him that you didn't actually mean that and that you had a relapse in your ocd and that you are really sorry that was something you said. Don't do/say this to him again.
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It is so hard. Cause ya know deep down you love him, but its like how does this happen... its so confusing
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My partner understands why I am going through this. Since I’ve been going through this for 9 years out of 10 1/2 years of our relationship. But it’s bad this time. I cried to my friend a lot and talked to her for an hour. I feel like I don’t deserve my partner anymore.. 😞 I have a good partner. He’s been beyond patient and loving. I told him I still love him. I cried the whole time I told him that… I am gonna join the BetterHelp app. I am worried my partner won’t trust me anymore… i told myself things over and over again and I started to believe it. Been on Reddit too much looking if someone is going through the exact same thing as I am.
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I am scared he’s gonna break up with me now… 😞
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I struggle with rocd, and a big intrusive thought that I have is that I’m no longer in love with my partner. I am going through a depression right now, and I am struggling to feel any kind of passion towards anything at the moment. I am withdrawing from the people I love because I just feel like I want to be alone. When I’m with people I just feel exhausted by it. I guess my question is, has anyone ever felt like this from depression? Does it take feelings of love and attraction away? I can’t tell if this is my ocd or depression or a combination of both. But it’s starting to impact my relationship which makes me panic because losing it is my worst fear.
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Really struggling today so far. I have partner-focused ROCD so I’m constantly picking apart my partner and looking for warning signs that he doesn’t love me enough and doesn’t want to be with me or care for me. Valentine’s Day is really hard for me because it’s not a huge holiday for the two of us but of course my ROCD takes it and runs with it. It tells me that he doesn’t love me, things won’t get better, he doesn’t care, he’s lazy, he’s the worst boyfriend, etc. This sucks so much because I just want to accept the fact that my brain wants to tell me these things…it is just so hard!!! :(
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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