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Make loving gestures, like sitting close, by him a card for fun, and mail it to him, take him on a date, do the things , you'd wish he do for you, not only is it fun, ita rewarding, even if you don't get anything in return. Feelings are just that... feelings. Like a hang nail. Some days it's there and someday it's gone. , relationships are a roller coaster, no one loves the same way everyday , every minute of every year. You'll be fine. Try to smile and say .. Just Kidding... then that breaks the ice. Good luck
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I'm so sorry... its just rocd. It makes you believe things that aren't true. Just try to explain that to him
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I would take a moment to tell him that you didn't actually mean that and that you had a relapse in your ocd and that you are really sorry that was something you said. Don't do/say this to him again.
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It is so hard. Cause ya know deep down you love him, but its like how does this happen... its so confusing
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My partner understands why I am going through this. Since I’ve been going through this for 9 years out of 10 1/2 years of our relationship. But it’s bad this time. I cried to my friend a lot and talked to her for an hour. I feel like I don’t deserve my partner anymore.. 😞 I have a good partner. He’s been beyond patient and loving. I told him I still love him. I cried the whole time I told him that… I am gonna join the BetterHelp app. I am worried my partner won’t trust me anymore… i told myself things over and over again and I started to believe it. Been on Reddit too much looking if someone is going through the exact same thing as I am.
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I am scared he’s gonna break up with me now… 😞
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- 18w
hi! I broke a short period of doing well without compulsions because I got triggered again. Before this, I had about two calmer days where I didn’t spiral so much, but now everything feels worse. I’m scared that I don’t love my boyfriend as much as I used to, or that this relationship is making me feel stuck or sad. He’s a wonderful person, and I hate thinking this way. I smelled a perfume that used to make me feel calm and in love, and now it just makes me question everything. I spent hours last night searching Reddit, especially on r/ROCD, trying to see if someone is like me or if anyone has answers. I keep rereading posts, hoping I’ll feel certain about what I should do. But I just feel more confused. I keep thinking, “What if I heal and then realize I don’t love him?” or “What if I’m only staying because I feel safe with him or I’m used to him?” I feel numb sometimes, or like I’m pretending, and I hate it. I want to feel love and clarity again. I don’t know what’s real or what’s ROCD anymore. I just feel lost and afraid. I talk to hi. now and i feel so strange like i dont want to force myself i want to like him i dont understand what i feel i feel so weird in my chest
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- 17w
I’m in such a dark place right now. No matter what I do with my boyfriend — kissing, hugging, cuddling, talking — I feel nothing. Absolutely nothing. And every time, my brain says: “That’s it. It’s the truth. You don’t love him anymore.” I keep thinking I’m forcing myself to act like I still like him just because I can’t accept the truth — that maybe I fell out of love and don’t want to admit it. When he calls me beautiful, when he’s kind to me, when he holds me… I feel numb. And that numbness makes me feel like a stranger in my own life. Like I’m faking everything. Like I’m lying to him and to myself. It feels too real. I used to have moments — even during intrusive thoughts — where I would relax in his arms and feel safe and reminded that this is ROCD. But now… even those moments feel gone. Like the thoughts aren’t lies anymore — they feel like the truth. And I don’t know what to do with that. My therapist made things worse. She told me things that made me believe I’ve mentally “decided” I have to be with him, and that I’m wrong for thinking it’s bad to walk away. Now I feel like I’ve built my entire relationship on an idea that I should stay, not that I want to. I feel like I’ve changed. I remember moments of deep love, warmth, and closeness… but now I can’t feel them anymore. And all I hear in my head is “you’re different now. It’s over.” I’m exhausted. I feel like I’ve hit a wall. I’m not even crying anymore — I’m just… empty. What if this is the truth I’ve been avoiding all along? What if I just can’t accept that I stopped loving him? What if this relationship is no longer right, and I’m just pretending? This is the worst it’s ever been. I’ve never felt this far gone before.
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- 14w
I feel like I shouldn’t be with my partner anymore, but I have no clear reason why. I feel sad every single day, I have a constant heaviness in my chest, I cry often, and I start arguments with him. I can’t remember the good memories. Everything feels distant, fake, or tainted. I don’t know why I love him — and all my thoughts tell me that I never truly did, that I only wanted to feel something, and now I finally see the truth. The worst part is that it all feels so real. I feel lost. I feel numb. I feel guilty. I can’t feel love right now, but some part of me still wants to hold on, still wants help. I don’t want to make any decisions right now. I just want to know I’m not alone. Has anyone else gone through this?
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