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Make loving gestures, like sitting close, by him a card for fun, and mail it to him, take him on a date, do the things , you'd wish he do for you, not only is it fun, ita rewarding, even if you don't get anything in return. Feelings are just that... feelings. Like a hang nail. Some days it's there and someday it's gone. , relationships are a roller coaster, no one loves the same way everyday , every minute of every year. You'll be fine. Try to smile and say .. Just Kidding... then that breaks the ice. Good luck
I'm so sorry... its just rocd. It makes you believe things that aren't true. Just try to explain that to him
I would take a moment to tell him that you didn't actually mean that and that you had a relapse in your ocd and that you are really sorry that was something you said. Don't do/say this to him again.
It is so hard. Cause ya know deep down you love him, but its like how does this happen... its so confusing
My partner understands why I am going through this. Since Iāve been going through this for 9 years out of 10 1/2 years of our relationship. But itās bad this time. I cried to my friend a lot and talked to her for an hour. I feel like I donāt deserve my partner anymore.. š I have a good partner. Heās been beyond patient and loving. I told him I still love him. I cried the whole time I told him thatā¦ I am gonna join the BetterHelp app. I am worried my partner wonāt trust me anymoreā¦ i told myself things over and over again and I started to believe it. Been on Reddit too much looking if someone is going through the exact same thing as I am.
I am scared heās gonna break up with me nowā¦ š
I hate hearing love is a choiceā¦ when I constantly feel nothing for himā¦ it hurtsā¦ when I am loving him itās like I am faking it and leading him onā¦ I avoid sex completely bc of itā¦ I want to love him like before. I want to cuddle and hold him tightlyā¦ itās everyday nowā¦ itās like if I talk to him about this itās like I am gonna break up with himā¦ I just want to love him peacefully again. Iāve had mild ROCD for years and NEVER did it feel like thisā¦ Itās like I gave into and just want to give up but I know I donāt want to. I know if I leave I will wanna be with him again. Itās like my brain has flatlined when it comes to himā¦
I really need someone to talk toā¦ just to ventā¦ if not.. i just need get this out and everything can ignore if they want.ā¦ I donāt know what to doā¦ I know Iāve been severely obsessing for 2 year about if I truly love my partner or not for 2 yearsā¦ I am severely saddened about how I feel right nowā¦. Before I knew I wanted to love him and stay.. it felt genuine like I was really mentally sickā¦ but nowā¦ my partner looks like a stranger to me, I get annoyed at him easily even if heās just sitting stillā¦ itās like heās a different person to me and I hate itā¦ I wanted so badly for me to know if I love him or notā¦ and itās like our time together never happenedā¦ I donāt cuddle talk or do much of anything anymore with him and it bothers meā¦ I feel no emotional connection with himā¦ maybe his flaws are too much for meā¦ š¢š¢ I donāt knowā¦. I want to love him again like before but I completely feel like Iām lying to him and myselfā¦ I donāt wanna end my relationship I really donāt want toā¦ I do t know how badly ROCD can get butā¦ this is the worst Iāve ever hadā¦ my relationship is gonna dieā¦ š¢ Iām sitting here quietly crying while he is asleepā¦.
I donāt think I have ROCD anymore.. I believe I have fallen out of love with my partnerā¦ š I still do compulsions and try to test myself but it doesnāt work anymore. I think about my happy moments and cry bc I want that to be the true meā¦ I am just at this point convinced I donāt love him the same way anymore.. that ROCD just tricked meā¦ I donāt feel numb but I am unhappy.. I cry randomly but not as much. I justā¦ believe in am with him to avoid hurting him.. Iām just worried I donāt wanna admit it.. š Can ROCD do this? Or can a relationship be saved even if I fell out of love!? I just know I am mentally exhausted. I even wanted to say I love you to him but didnāt bc of how bad this isā¦ felt that I had no rightā¦
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