girlwithocd..
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AnonymousAnonymous
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this is me too. i am so comfortable with being a lesbian or bisexual and would accept that about myself, so it doesn’t make sense to me why i would obsess over it like i have been for years. ocd is a strange thing and makes us question everything we know about ourselves, so try to remember that you know who you are deep down.
girlwithocd..girlwithocd..
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Yes thank you for commenting! I know I want a guy, but I have never experienced a relationship because I have never wanted it or felt comfortable enough around the guys. I always want guys that are unavailable and whenever they like me I don’t want anything to do with them - I hope this is just an avoidant attachment style. I am so confused about so many things with dating and stuff. I just want it all to be over
AnonymousAnonymous
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@🥰 of course! and yeah it most likely is a coping mechanism that you developed over the years. i found that being in a relationship can make your obsessions worse, but they are only worse because you are doing what your mind doesn’t agree with. the right guy is the one that you can be comfortable being yourself around and he will come around when you least expect it
missblueskymissbluesky
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How long have you had this theme, if you don’t mind me asking?
nikkiinikkii
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i feel like our comfort level just explains it and our desire for the same sex isn’t there
AnonymousAnonymous
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exactly! the only thing that keeps me sane to be honest
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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facts dawg and on some real junk that's what makes me happy right now
girlwithocd..girlwithocd..
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* my sexuality hasn’t changed, I meant that I don’t understand how sexuality just change suddenly after years of feeling straight
ewaedbewaedb
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Yeah don't worry it's just your OCD. Obviously you wouldn't mind if you were comfortable because you're not homophobic but right now it bothers you because deep down you know it's just not you. And obviously you can't feel comfortable with anything that contradicts your true identity.
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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Yeah I feel you because if I was I'd probably would've came to terms with it and if I was I'd be comfortable with it because I'd be the only thing I knew and on top of that if it changes I'd know and I'd be okay with it but the thing is I'm just not. Like no matter how many images, scenes, or thoughts come in to my head I'm not gay at all and I just don't feel that attraction towards dudes
CassandragothCassandragoth
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Just FYI... saying things like “I don’t feel that attraction towards dudes” could be triggering for people who experience false attraction. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t say it, but just keep it in mind because it’s not helpful for everyone :)
tobious Glovertobious Glover
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@Cassandragoth I apologise and to be honest I've had false attraction before and it scared the heck outta me. I've had hocd as my theme for about 9 months now and I'm starting to understand it a lot more and I'm outta the worrying part now and I'm on recovery. I never meant it in a bad way and I apologise to anyone who gets triggered by this
CassandragothCassandragoth
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@tobious Glover Yeah all good! I’m not upset about it, and i think it’s important to still have open and honest conversations on here! Just acknowledging false attraction helps.
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