Possible TW? Also TMI Sorry, this is really a TMI, but I have been so incredibly anxious ever since last night because I remembered that last year (I was 19 at the time) I watched porn that had a 17 year old guy in it. It was from the UK, so I guess it's legal over there, but I'm freaking out about it. I'm scared because I'm worried that if I watched it now, when I'm 20, I would still be attracted to the guy? I know 3 years isn't much of an age difference but I'm scared that because of the fact that I might/probably would get turned on by it means I'm a pedophile. I also worry a lot that I will never stop being attracted to teenagers? Again, I know I'm only 20, but the thought terrifies me.

A pedophile is an exclusive attraction to a prepubescent child. Not a 17 year old. American culture is so ridiculous in thinking that an attraction to anyone under 18 means there is something wrong with you. What if they were 17 years old and 364 days! One more day until it would be ok? I’ve seen American porn where the girls are 19 but look 15/16. In fact most porn in America has girls that look like this. Double standards from this country.

I also think that the American porn industry needs far more regulation, the stuff that’s being made now is terrible!

I agree. Porn is too available and too ‘creative’. Guys are starting to look at really dodgy stuff that isn’t their thing but becomes part of their arousal map. It creates massive conflict in them for understandable reasons. I’m learning to go off natural fantasy now and honestly? It is way better. It’s fast food for your sexuality.

That desperate need to apologise is entirely misplaced. You have not attacked anything so challenge why you think you have. This is so automatic you probably don’t realise. Practice not apologising for having an opinion, understand it will be uncomfortable at first and then slowly it will be more natural.

@T it didn’t sound like that, I just felt sorry for you because you are having a hard time over something that’s trivial. OCD will do that, my obsessions are porn related. Girl is acting a bit young, guy is creepy etc. What was my reaction to this etc etc. I get it I really do.

@Tally Ho I totally agree, I'm sorry if it sounded like I was trying to attack the UK porn industry, I wasn't! I just realized it probably sounded like that, I'm sorry

Our porn industry is the same as yours. No need to apologise.

17 is legal in most other countries. Depends on the person. Now 12 or under..... That's a horse of a different color. Lol

I get this allllll the time too and my mind is like 25 and older, that’s what you’re allowed to be attracted to. I’m 28, but I’ve settled on the number 25 because that’s when the human brain is fully developed. All of this because of ocd so I mean, it sucks.

What if someone is 25, but looks, 17?

I had that problem too! My ex bf, we only dated three months, he was my age at 26 years old, and the first time I saw him naked he looked like a child and i ran the fuck away from him lmao I felt soooo bad but in my mind I was like no he looks like a child I can’t do it.

I still think about him sometimes, hardly any body hair (I think this is also one of indicators, but also people shave so ??‍♀️) and I think about whether I could’ve gotten over myself because I really liked him but I couldn’t get past the fact that he looked like a teenage boy with no clothes on and I was not about to have sex with that. Like I said it sucks.

How do you think we feel, most girls have no body hair, and what about the small girls! Small boobs etc. And teddy’s bears, cuddly toys in the bedroom, and an ex of mine had cuddly toys and often did child cutsie speak. Now I have OCD this seems so so wrong. Shudder! I can’t even watch the film Labarinth anymore!