I'm obsessed that I look gay ? 😔

I just laughed out loud because I can relate. I have TOCD and sometimes think the way I hold the steering wheel or text without emojis is “manly.” -___- SO OVER IT.

@EC Hahah. The worst part is when the thoughts get real. I get so scared

@Anonymous I know. Just saying them out loud sometimes or hearing someone say them helps us realize how absurd they are.

I feel like that’s not true though

@missbluesky I think some people dress certain ways/ look certain ways which do indicate their sexuality but it’s doesn’t always correlate for everyone, like not everyone woman with short hair is gay for example

@MelodyMoo I need help... I get really anxious around men and it feels like a butterfly feeling but feels like fear. And a gay guy walked past and I said in my head he's nice😔

@Ihateocd83 Don’t fall down ocds trap! Anxiety is a complicated emotion, as it often feels very similar to excitement (a lot of the same bodily reactions if you think about it!). Don’t overthink your thoughts or try to work them out, you’ll never get an answer. Instead accept the thoughts as being there and don’t try to push them away, pushing them away will only make them come back more (like the whole pink elephant thing I’m sure you e heard of).

@MelodyMoo It feels as tho I've been suppressing this and its all come to a head. Nothing feels good and right about this. I make comments in my head about having a bf and how I would like it. This has ruined my life 😔

@Ihateocd83 I know how you feel, it’s horrible and it’s scary but the only way out of it is to accept uncertainty. It takes a long time to do this, and it can be hard, but you can do it and get better I promise. Accept the possibility that it could happen, but also the possibility that it might not happen!

She obvs just made a silly comment, think I’ve told you before that one girl tol me “you’d make a great lesbian” had me freaking out for days, but now I realise that what she said doesn’t define me, she doesn’t know me like I know me! She just made a passing comment

Getting the “real” feeling is classic ocd! I get it all the time too. The best way to combat this is to accept the possibility that it could happen but also accept the possibility that it might not happen! Accepting uncertainty is the way forward, it is really difficult and takes time but you can do it!

@MelodyMoo Thanks buddy. My head is just a mess and always feels heavy 😞

@MelodyMoo Such good advice!