I know with other themes similar things can happen, but with SOOCD is it possible? If someone says a scenario that you've never been in and asks how would you react? (And its a scenario you logically don't want to be in usually) and as you think about it you could see yourself having a good time/enjoying the scenario (when in reality you probably wouldn't). Is this a thing SOOCD does or is this just overthinking? My example: Someone on this app said to another person they should go on a date with a girl to learn if they were bi or not. I am a straight woman. I have always had crushes on boys, thought of being with a boy, dreamt of having a husband, I even have a boyfriend of 8 years. When I thought of the scenario of dating a girl to see what it's like at first I sort of laughed to myself cos I was like that's never going to happen because that's not me. Then in less than a second doubt came in and I could picture myself sitting across the table from some girl and laughing with her, wanting to know her. Now in this picture I never wanted or got the feeling that I wanted to have any sexual relations, yes she was attractive, but I didn't want to do anything with her. So after this I realised the whole wanting to know her and maybe even a hug could come from the fact I have no friends at all, I only have my bf. The female friends I had were so b*tchy that I cut myself off from them and also I'm not into "normal" things like drinking and clubbing, I also don't have as much money like them to hang out. I'm more into nature and reading etc. Then I used to have a group of male friends, which also had my old crush, and we would hang out almost every day playing football, chilling in the park, cinema, bowling etc. But then they told my bf to dump me out of jealousy and started becoming more his friend than mine (they did apologise months later but damage was done and they become people I didn't recognise). Sorry, kind of went on a bit there. Is it possible the potential of me liking going on a "date" with a girl is ocd? Not having female friends and possibly missing having a friend? The fact I've never been on a date with a girl so it would be that giddy nervous thing of trying something so out-there cos it doesn't align with who you are? Or is it my absolute worst fear come true? I understand no one knows for certain. I just wanted to know if it was a part of SOOCD really. I've also seen some people that have deliberately triggered others with their comments and did it on purpose. I'm asking those doing it deliberately if you could not do it? I'm doing better and don't want to backtrack right now, and it's also torturous to others.

Sexual Orientation OCD

Justmesadly

Date posted: 4y

Sit with the uncertainty. No one on this app is inside your mind to know so you have to learn to sit with the uncertainty of what it means or could mean otherwise you’ll never get better

Nour04

Date posted: 4y

not to reassure you because by doing this i am myself seeking reassurance, but i guess it's SOOCD? because i get it too, i would be imagining scenarios to see how i would react and sometimes i don't mind it, or it feels like what i want and feels so real but like OMG I DON'T WANT THAT i don't want to be with women so i guess it's ocd, actually i hope so because i fear that i'm in denial but then i have seen so many other peoole on here with this theme and plenty of others saying that their fears sometisomes seem so true and as if it's what they really want so yeah i guess it's ocd

Nour04

Date posted: 4y

people*** sometimes***

bluebell

Date posted: 4y

As a person with SOOCD, this is definitely something I have done before, and it creates so much uncertainty and anxiety that you get stuck, and any attempt at rationalising leads to nothing, and you’re still stuck on whether you would like to go on a date with a girl. I can conceive of a reality where I’m happy and enjoying something that in actual reality, I wouldn’t, for example - I don’t like running. (Of course I can learn to like running, but for the sake of this example - I don’t like running). I can imagine myself running in a field in complete bliss, but in reality, I would not like to run through a field, at least in this point in time. Your imagination can create anything, but that doesn’t mean it’s reflective of reality. And with my example, I don’t feel like testing it out if I would like to run through a field. Of course, there is a slim chance that, if I test it out right this minute, I could find that it IS blissful, and I do really love running through a field. But, I’m gonna live with that uncertainty, and that’s okay. Hopefully that was helpful!! And yeah, the thought could have something to do with the friend situation.

Anonymous2020

Date posted: 4y

Thank you so much!! It really does help!!

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