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SOOCD can not make you gay. It is impossible. There are some cases of people getting into same sex relationships as a result of the OCD but not because they are actually attracted to the same sex. They do it in order to break free from the anxiety and the intrusive thoughts. Living with OCD can makes ones life miserable. Don't worry. The fact that the thoughts don't bother you anymore it doesn't mean youre gay it means youre getting better. Thats the point. You can't simply make the thought disappear. First you need to break away the anxiety that come with the thoughts and after the thoughts will slowly fade away. Also don't try to fight or remove the thoughts as they become stronger. Just live with them.
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Wow I love you for that reply that made me feel so much better
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Such a common worry with HOCD, and no - having an obsession regarding orientation will not change your orientation, in the same sense that obsessing about being ‘evil’ (with harm OCD) won’t make you evil. Not at all saying that being gay and being evil are the same, but you understand what I’m trying to say. And what you’re describing is something called the ‘back door spike’. It’s essentially where the anxiety that always accompanied the thoughts, starts to leave. This inevitably causes you to go... ‘well maybe I was just anxious about something that was true!! That means I’m gay!!!’ You can’t stop the thoughts automatically with ERP, and your aim shouldn’t be to stop thoughts - because that is impossible. The thoughts aren’t the problem, it’s the way you respond to them. OCD causes repetitive & intrusive thinking, which results in anxiety - ERP treats the anxiety!
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This is back door spike. Keep doing your erp and not doing compulsions
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Is anyone here actually gay and has/had sexuality or religious ocd? I don't have it at all haha I'm a lesbian myself without socd or religious ocd but I'm just curious: what's it like and how did you deal with the whole "biggest fear coming true" thing?
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