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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Username
- Nik07Nik07
- Date posted
- 3y ago
SOOCD can not make you gay. It is impossible. There are some cases of people getting into same sex relationships as a result of the OCD but not because they are actually attracted to the same sex. They do it in order to break free from the anxiety and the intrusive thoughts. Living with OCD can makes ones life miserable. Don't worry. The fact that the thoughts don't bother you anymore it doesn't mean youre gay it means youre getting better. Thats the point. You can't simply make the thought disappear. First you need to break away the anxiety that come with the thoughts and after the thoughts will slowly fade away. Also don't try to fight or remove the thoughts as they become stronger. Just live with them.
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- ewaedbewaedb
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Wow I love you for that reply that made me feel so much better
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- bluebellbluebell
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Such a common worry with HOCD, and no - having an obsession regarding orientation will not change your orientation, in the same sense that obsessing about being ‘evil’ (with harm OCD) won’t make you evil. Not at all saying that being gay and being evil are the same, but you understand what I’m trying to say. And what you’re describing is something called the ‘back door spike’. It’s essentially where the anxiety that always accompanied the thoughts, starts to leave. This inevitably causes you to go... ‘well maybe I was just anxious about something that was true!! That means I’m gay!!!’ You can’t stop the thoughts automatically with ERP, and your aim shouldn’t be to stop thoughts - because that is impossible. The thoughts aren’t the problem, it’s the way you respond to them. OCD causes repetitive & intrusive thinking, which results in anxiety - ERP treats the anxiety!
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- JustmesadlyJustmesadly
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is back door spike. Keep doing your erp and not doing compulsions
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- nicolep123
- Date posted
- 5y ago
my ocd has been really convincing lately. it’s convincing me that i’m just questioning my sexuality and that i’m bi and just don’t know it yet. i can’t help but think “what if these thoughts and feelings are real” i’m so lost i just feel like all of this has changed who i was. the worst part is that i barely have a reaction to these thoughts so it’s hard for me to tell if it’s ocd or not. how do i know if it’s ocd or i’m just questioning my sexuality??
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- ocdumbass
- Date posted
- 5y ago
i think i might be developing sexual orientation ocd because i identify as a lesbian but when i was a kid i only ever crushed on guys. im starting to wonder if i just had hocd the entire time and believed the thoughts so hard that i tricked myself into thinking im gay. but i really don't wanna be straight ?
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- mariamaria
- Date posted
- 34w ago
Sexual Orientation OCD
Hi! I am genuinely so happy and attracted to my boyfriend but cannot stop having extreme anxiety trying to figure out my sexuality. Some days I think I am sexually attracted to women and other days I don’t feel this way. How can I accept the uncertainty? Another part of this OCD is I obsess over what the queer community will think of me since I have limited experiences with women. I am so happy with my partner but the OCD is keeping me in fear of missing out. I keep constantly comparing myself to others and getting down that they have had more sexual partners. Seeing if I’m alone in this.
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