Being around my niece and her friend is really freaking me out right now I don’t know what to do. I keep getting false feelings like groinal response and intrusive thoughts. I thought I was at a point where it wouldn’t bother me and it really is. I feel so disgusted

POCD

hope

Date posted: 4y

i’ve been there, when i went to visit my best friend and her nephew who practically is my nephew too bc i’ve known him since birth, but suddenly i had intrusive thoughts and gronials. my best advice is try and move on with ur day the best u can and let the thoughts and gronials not bother u. it’s easier said than done, but you’re NOT UR THOUGHTS!!! ur intent and action. :) you’re okay, breathe, just enjoy ur day and stay in the moment. if a thought pops up, just let it go with no reaction as uncomfortable and hard as it may be because everything passes with time. :)

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

Thank you so much. I’m going to try my best to get through this. I feel so overwhelmed

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

@G>/\\/🙏🏻❤️ I’m so scared that the arousal is real and I hope it’s not

hope

Date posted: 4y

@G>/\\/🙏🏻❤️ it’s the worst feeling, i know. i literally felt horrible and when i got home i cried and felt so disgusted and scared. but that’s OCD, we worry so much about being what we fear and what disgusts us that we turn on ourselves. we start worrying about “WELL WHAT IF I AM THE THING I FEAR!?” so our OCD will try and prove it and create intrusive thoughts to make us more uneasy and anxious and gronials bc we’re scared so we’re focused on our bodies. it’s horrible. it’s hell. i know. but the fact you’re disgusted and hate the thoughts should tell you enough that it’s OCD. our intrusive thoughts can not make us do anything we don’t want to do. remember that. WE ARE IN CONTROL. not ur thoughts, not ur gronials, not ur anxiety. YOU! you’ll get through this, just keep being you and don’t let those ugly thoughts tell you any different.

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

@hope Thank you so much for your help 😭

hope

Date posted: 4y

@G>/\\/🙏🏻❤️ of course! i wish i had someone to help me when this happened to me as well. <3

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

@hope I totally understand. I don’t feel so alone anymore!

booba

Date posted: 4y

I know just from this post that you are someone I would absolutely trust around children. The fact that you care so much about their well-being and keeping them safe from harm, especially sexual abuse, which is arguably the worst harm that can be done to child, tells me everything I need to know. Your disgust and anxiety and fear let you know how you really feel about these awful thoughts. Real predators seek out children and groom them. They love the nasty thoughts and fantasies that pop into their head, and they actively dwell on them and seek pleasure from them. They don’t care about hurting kids and they don’t feel disgust. They only worry someone will catch them and they won’t have access to kids anymore. You’re one of the good ones. You understand how deeply evil this type of abuse is and how harmful it is to children, and it is so distressing to you that your OCD has taken over to try to keep you and children around you safe. I’m sorry your brain is doing this to you. OCD needs to trust you. You are a safe person

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

Thank you so much that’s so nice of you. I would never In my entire life ever hurt anyone especially a child. I love my niece so much and it breaks my heart that I keep getting these thoughts and feelings. Thank you for understanding. Ocd has really been rough...

booba

Date posted: 4y

@G>/\\/🙏🏻❤️ 🥺 I am so sorry darling. This type of OCD is one of the worst to deal with. People in general barely understand OCD at all, let alone this complicated subtype. I have POCD too and I am a survivor of childhood SA. My mind has forced me to have horrible thoughts about children in my life too. I had to really take a step back and remind myself of my values as a person. I had to take a really close look at how REAL predators act, think, and feel. It’s okay to have a sexual thought you don’t like. It’s okay to have a disturbing image in your head. You are not doing anything wrong. Your thoughts are NOT you, they are a very small part of what makes up who you are. When you have a disturbing image of your niece in your head and it causes a physical reaction, that is totally normal. Bodies respond to all sorts of stimuli. A response does not mean sexual arousal. People have physical reactions that resemble arousal when they’re afraid and highly emotional as well. Your niece is safe around you. She can’t see the thoughts that pass through your head. She sees a grown up in her life who loves her. She sees the real you, the things you CHOOSE to do for her, the things you choose to say and the way you express yourself.

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

@booba This helps me so much. I’ve felt horrible this past year because of Pocd but you explained it so well. Thank you thank you thank you. I feel much better now 😭

booba

Date posted: 4y

@G>/\\/🙏🏻❤️ I am so so happy to hear that. You deserve that baby! Keep reaching out for help when this stuff comes up, keep reminding yourself of the truth! I am so proud of you for being the caring, thoughtful person you are. You can do this!!

Magzzz

Date posted: 4y

@booba Thank you!!

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