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The rumination is the compulsion and the way to break it is to do nothing with the thought. When it pops up, don’t engage with it. Look at something next to you or name 5 things you can see. Always redirecting the brain to see or do something else
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Yes. When u start to notice your mind drifting in the direction of ruminating the thought..:redirect yourself to do what you need to focus on like ..oh I’m going to ruminate, imma finish reading my book. Or there goes that thought again I’m going to watch a show.
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Your ocd is a tantruming child and giving It attention by engaging with it makes it stronger and scream louder
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Mine was based of something real too then OCD likes to twist it around and make it lie on me. In a weird way it’s trying to protect me. It’s exhausting. All I can do is refocus and redirect my thoughts. Like bumpers on a bowling lane. The ball is the throught and it wants to go all over to the next lane (aka rumination ) so all I can do is but those bumpers up and redirect myself back to whatever game I need to focus on.
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Oh my god mine sounds so similar. Honestly, even though this sucks so much, I’ve grown so much as a person. I developed a mediation habit, mindfulness, great exercise routine and all and I’m hella motivated. And i genuinely feel peaceful and happy at moments. I honestly feel in a few years I might look back and think this was like the best thing that happened to me, albeit incredibly draining and scary at the moment, because it’s shaped me into a more calibrated, peaceful and focused person.
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Yes they’re called intrusive images! I have them too
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They seem so damn real, it’s scary. And like the effect of ignoring a summons is also bad - like not that bad cuz it can be reversed. But then I’m like what if I get the other one instructing me I should vacate a default and forget about it? I’m basically just driving myself crazy thinking I’ve been summoned to court and forgetting about it, when I don’t recall anything.
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@abx850 I have intrusive images and obsessions regarding legal stuff as well. The best thing to do is to not ruminate. If you read dr Michael Greenberg’s website he talks about it. It’s really helpful.
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As in don’t give the thought credence, focus on the present moment, recognize that I’m ruminating and all and refocus on something important to me?
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This is great thank you so much! Are you someone that has recovered from these legal fears and all that - mine is based on a real legal event (I won handedly thankfully) from like 2 years ago I just keep getting stuck on and being unable to move on. Even though like everyone is like “chill bro, live life, move the hell on”, but I’m like what if the Karen tries to find something stupid to get back at me again.
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I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s something that changes you as a person since it was kinda traumatic. Maybe talking with a therapist who can do trauma work with that event and rumination could be helpful.
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@flore122 Honestly I did that and it’s worked out great actually. I’ve even gotten into so much mindfulness, mediation and yoga stuff and I’ve been wanting to get back on social media and do all my exposures. But every time I feel like I get a handle on this stuff, I can control compulsions, and I genuinely feel at peace, a new fear pops up. Before it was about getting sued, now I’m not scared of that. It’s not knowing when someone comes to my door that I’ve been sued, which is so scary bc then I’m afraid of forgetting and all. It definitely was traumatic but I feel I’m not scared as much anymore. I’m just scared of it coming back that’s all... and I’ve even accepted uncertainty in that anyone can be sued, etc etc. but now this thing ugh.
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@abx850 I get it. Totally trauma based. Have you ever looked into EMDR therapy?
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@flore122 Oh my god, I have not but it looks amazing and also hella expensive haha. Thanks for sharing! Have you tried it?
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@abx850 Yeah I did . Specifically for the legal event that happened. It helps reprocess the memory and put it to rest.
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Initially I read your post to tell you that you are not alone, which you aren’t. Many OCD sufferers can have intrusive images as a part of intrusive thoughts. But now I only think it’s fair to let you know you have triggered me. I am named Karen. It has been hard to have my name turned into a derisive term for hateful, bigoted, racist, willfully ignorant women. It is also very distracting from the serious issues for which the women in questionable events of such negativity and hatred are called “Karen”. As in, hearing my own name despite the perpetrator of hate not being named Karen, naturally distracts me from the important issues at large. I don’t want to report this post because all the actual Karens I know are caring and understanding. However, I do think it’s right to stand up for ourselves. If letting you know how triggering it can be can help another Karen from losing sleep, then it’s worth it, even if I do sound like “I want to speak to the manager.” (And that last part is my coping mechanism to try to make light of the situation to counteract the sadness and distress.)
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Hi All, just wondering if anyone here has any tips with dealing with uncertainty? My OCD centres on my being worried that I have committed a crime and can’t remember doing so, I was out last weekend and my mind is telling me I attacked somebody as I got an intrusive thought to do so when passing them in a bar, my therapist says I need to sit with the uncertainty that maybe I did and maybe I didn’t and have to be ok with that But if the answer is yes then how can I be ok with committing a crime and going to jail??, it’s affecting my relationship and I’m going on holiday on Friday and I’m worried it will ruin that, any tips would be greatly appreciated.
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What is it called when with ur ocd lets say if ur ocd theme happens like when you watch videos and ur mind comes up with something or your hypeaaware, but you feel like u cant tell ur therapist cus the video is proof because no one else would’ve thought that, and you know its not true anyways you just had intrusive feeling, but i know compulsions wont do anything but ur finding it hard to sit with this really scary thing like ohm ur accepting being this bad thing or if you have reassurance at least you’d know for sure,how can u live without knowing for sure even tho uknoe its deffo just ur ocd idk if this makes sense and what you call it ?:) if anyone could help me out
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Hello everyone. I have been posting a lot on here lately and I shouldn’t be really. I feel like my OCD is different then everyone else’s. So that obviously worries me. Essentially mine is randomly convincing me I have done X,Y,Z things. Everyday is a new What if. And despite my fear around it. My brain seems to be like “yeah, this is factual” I know these could be called false memories. As I have no recollection of doing them. Though my constant rumination is making me imagine doing it.. but when I first had the thoughts I had no “memories” And don’t know why I’d do that. Even if it’s giving me a reason “Why” I feel I would be way to scared and appalled to do that- it also doesn’t make sense given my past fears. My mind has sort of shifted to try and fit them in with my other memories regardless. However my only explanation. Is during reassurance seeking googling. I came across stories similar to what my brain is convincing me I have done? Perhaps I picked it up from there. But there is still the fear that i actually did this. And didn’t remember which is terrifying. Because how would I not remember something like that. What else could I have done and forgot? Anyway. I never see anyone post about false memories for like the more taboo stuff. Or maybe my mind just makes me think mine is the worst regardless. Like the accusations my mind has against me is worse then anyone else’s on here. And so I’m a monster and don’t deserve you all. My only hope. I never had these concerns until after this triggering thought that started all this. Before I seemed content. Like I knew I was doing nothing wrong. But who knows anymore. My brains to far gone now. I don’t think it comes back from something like this..
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