Anyone else experienced loss of attraction with this theme? I can’t even tell what attraction feels like anymore, as whenever I see a guy now who is relatively good looking I overanalyse it and worry I’m just experiencing comphet. Does anyone have any good tips about how to do exposures with this?

Yeah you’re right, I don’t know why comphet and the master doc scare me so much, I guess it’s the thought of “what if I am gay/bi” and I genuinely don’t know it and I have to come to terms with it. I guess it doesn’t help that whenever i leave my house now I’m constantly checking to see if I like the women I pass, or if a woman’s kind to me or dresses nice I always think it means something. How have you been dealing with this theme? Have you gotten any better? :)

@Melodyocd I've struggled with it for about 2 years now and a few weeks ago I completed my NOCD treatment. Erp has helped a lot with just being able to stay motivated and continue to make efforts to enjoy my daily life even when ocd tells me not to or that I dont deserve to be happy. That is so key. However I am still really triggered a lot and still struggle with doubt everyday. I havent gotten to a point yet where I am consistently doing erp everyday but when i have tried to in the past, it made a huge difference.

@Whatabtme I’m in the exact same sitauation as you I haven’t had this theme a few years ago for about a year, then it went away for like four years and popped up again in January. I’ve also finished therapy with nocd a few weeks ago and I’m in support now because I didn’t feel ready to not have a therapist anymore, I don’t do erp everyday either, I do it about 5 times a week roughly, I need to get better at it but I’ve developed obsessions over erp :/

It’s terrifying isn’t it. It’s scary because I asked my therapist about it and they just say to accept the uncertainty, which I’m trying so hard to do, but comphet just feels like so much proof that it’s all real for some reason, something I can’t seem to get over :(

@Melodyocd same it's the thing i have been latching onto the most these past 3 days, especially because i had had crushes on guys before, and when i actually got with one i lost interest so now it's scaring me i was rather young and tbh i didn't enjoy kissing him(he was an awful kisser, didn't think much of it back then)but now it's scaring me because it's like proof and comphet as well because everything i have been taking as proof i'm straight could be interpreted as comphet and it's driving me CRAZY

@Nour04 Omg I had the same experience, was dating a guy and he was such an awful kisser (kept pecking me rather than like properly kissing), and now I’m worried it means something that I didn’t like feel a huge spark when I kissed him. And yeah I think that’s what scares me about comphet too, like I’ve had crushes on guys, but then I get scared that I actually just wanted their attention like comphet says, and then I try and reevaluate and remember how I felt when I was crushing on them. Ugh it’s exhausting

@Melodyocd i don't mean to reassure you or even reassure myself, but if back then you didn't think much of imuwhen you were "normal"(without ocd)then it probably means nothing i used to get super reddish whenever his name was mentioned, whenever he appeared or whenever he texted me, never thought anything of it he was narcissistic and egoistic and thought himself above everyone else lol that's what made break up with him, BACK THEN i nnever thought anything else of it, so it probably means nothing why would it mean something now, especially that now you have this specific theme, so just give this a quick thought, it may reassure you, which i didn't mean to do, but it is logical too i am able to say this rn because i am calm and not panicking LMAO just wait until i'm spiralling and all of this will sound like bs to my ears

@Nour04 Hahah yeah I’m the same when I’m calm it all makes sense but the second I’m in a panic it all seems so real. I’ve just left my house to go to the shops for the first time in a while, every women was triggering me :( I kept checking to see if I fancied them or found them attractive, the worst is when I see a girl wearing really nice clothes or has nice hair bc then I’m like omg do I fancy them or jus fluke their outfit :(

@Melodyocd remember that now that you're out try shifting your focus on the sky, the trees, maybe flowers i know ans understand how difficult it is, every time i go out it happens to me too, just try to shift your focus and breathe

@Nour04 Thank you for the advice, I’ll try that! I worry I’m avoiding when I don’t check if I fancy them but I also know checking is a compulsion haha, it’s like one big cycle of not know what to do 😂

Thank you, I hope so :(

I hope so, thank you so much, this has theme has been going on since end of January now :( luckily I have a lovely therapist which helps but it’s the putting in the work myself I struggle with

@Melodyocd I have suffered with various themes. They don't go away easily. I still suffer but I am better. Do you feel better when youre with people? When I am by myself i get so much worse

@Nik07 Oh yeah for sure when I’m with friends I guess my brain is more occupied, however I still do checking compulsions whenever I’m around women which sucks, even like my mum and cousins :( I also worry because this had been my only theme really, I have a bit of relationship ocd and some magical thinking tendencies but other than that it’s always been soocd, which makes me scared it’s not ocd and just denial