Anyone getting a lot groinal responses from HOCD also i keep getting thoughts in my head, "im gay im gay im gay" also moat of these thoughts aren't triggering a ton of anxiety and that makes me worry. I also keep feeling like im feminine or act like a gay dude. I hate it so much. I hate the groinal responses, it makes it feel real and not only that HOW DO I SIT WITH THE FEELING? HOW DO I DO RESPONSE PREVENTION? I don't want to accept this as truth this isn't me at all.

Let me ask you a question now, does being with the sex you are concerned or fear about give you comfort? I know your mind tells you to do it and your body may react like you’re actually attracted, but does it make YOU comfortable? When you’re attracted to someone, you want to be around around them, their presence gives you comfort and you generally enjoy being around them without questioning it. Now everyone is different and I don’t want to give you assurance that what I’m saying is a guaranteed truth. But, for me, when I have struggled or do struggle with “my mind is telling me I want to be the same sex, I can’t stop having thoughts about it, it feels like I get aroused by men, I don’t feel the same about the opposite sex like I used to” I’ll ask myself, “can you honestly be yourself and enjoy wanting to be with the same sex?” And even though my mind will try convincing me that I do, I know if I am in that situation, I would react the same way I would BEFORE my ocd began, because that’s my normal response, I would decline it.

I go through the same thing. I sit with it then picture myself with my eyes open how I want to be.

I feel you, I’ve dealt with groinal sensations a lot the last year. My therapist told me the science behind a groinal and how it’s not a real arousal, I wish I would’ve written it down and remembered what she said. It’s frightening, and I still deal with it, I personally don’t want to feel an erection towards the same sex because I’ve always been attracted to the opposite sex and never questioned it the first 24 years of my life. And it’s where I still feel comfortable to this day. To combat it, it’s much easier said than done, but it’s apart of exposure response/imaginal response therapy. I don’t want to tell you exactly how to expose yourself, because you should never do it on your own or without the advice of a licensed professional. So I can’t tell you sadly what that looks like for you, but the end result basically is when you do exposures that have been mapped out for you, you will be able to train your mind to not tense up, feel uncomfortable, or worry about how your body will react to whatever sex it is that you fear you’re attracted to.

Thank you guys for the comments im going through this process again and this time anxiety isnt high at all its all groinal and intrusive thoughts