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also we’ve been together for about 2 and a half years and sometimes i feel a weird sensation of not knowing him somehow and that he’s a stranger which is very triggering. i’m scared he’s not the same as when we started dating and that means maybe i love him less because it’s been so long and my brain says “i don’t know him”. i can’t even explain the thought or the sensation because it’s so weird and makes absolutely no sense. this is so hard
i don’t want to give you reassurance but i have these same thoughts and feelings. it’s very helpful to know we aren’t alone. advice i will give you is once you start labeling these thoughts and feelings as what they are (ocd) then it begins to get easier. and the thing about not knowing him i literally get the same feeling. it is so hard and rocd sucks so bad but you’re not alone.
I am literally in the same exact boat! My bf and I are long distance and ever since he left to go back home after our most recent trip, I've been feeling numb and it's been bothering me because when I get like this, I feel like it's affecting my relationship and makes me believe that I'm losing feelings. These types of things tend to come in phases though, at least for me they do. I just have to remind myself of how I feel when I'm with him and all the things he does for me that made me fall for him in the first place. My bf and I have been dating for almost 10 months and I've definitely created some rough patches with my ROCD and insecurities, but I think if you find the right person to talk to, like I hope your bf is for you, then they can hear you out and help you through whatever you're feeling without getting mad or upset.
just want you to be careful, recalling good memories to make the anxiety go away is a mental compulsion :( I do this too
@Daria Alexandrovna wait how come?
@amberellal Because everything we do to get rid of the anxiety is considered to be a compulsion, as it never truly helps, only gives a short time relief, but new obsessions come and it makes things worse in the long run
@Daria Alexandrovna oh okay that makes a lot more sense now. thank you~
how long should my obsessive thoughts last about my boyfriend if i have rocd ? usually i have a bad period where i think i have lost feelings for him and then it comes back but i’ve been feeling anxious and having these constant thoughts for days now. i’m trying not to do my compulsions but even when i do i don’t get the feeling of loving him back i just don’t get the constant thoughts and anxiety. is this rocd or do i actually just not like my boyfriend ? i’m not formally diagnosed with rocd but i have done so much research and my habits and thoughts sound exactly like examples of those suffering from rocd. i thought that i had it and now i’m scared i don’t and i just don’t love him. but then i also know that that’s another symptom of rocd that the ocd convinces you that you don’t actually have rocd and you just don’t have feelings for them so now i’m scared and confused. can anyone tell me if they think that i have rocd please
it feels like im drowning. i feel trapped. ***rocd vent*** my rocd has made things difficult in my relationship with my boyfriend, and i’m frightened that it’s the end i cant breathe without thinking it’s the end of him and me, i cant eat at all and i cant stop living with fear it’s been rocky lately with him, but i’m determined to keep going i want to because i truly cherish him, and love him yet my brain keeps asking me if i really do want to keep going, if i really do love him, and if i’m really okay with spending my days just dreading the end im obviously not, i want things to be okay again, but my ocd keeps haunting and haunting me and i’m so scared that these thoughts are my real ones, that these are my true feelings ive been open about my ocd with him, and this has contributed to the rocky patch it doesn’t help that i’m not formally diagnosed, and it also doesn’t help that i’ve been doubting whether or not i have ocd. (i have what i believe are a lot of the symptoms, but even then i doubt myself) i just feel like i’m drowning. i want peace in my head and in my heart. i want things to be back to normal with him and me, and i want to be happy. it just doesn’t feel the same, and i feel like it’s my fault for starting us on this rocky path. the last thing i want is a breakup, yet my thoughts tell me that i’d like freedom. they chant that i need to escape and run far far away. they make me feel like the only way out of the way i feel is by ending it, and i don’t want to end it. the only things moving me forward is the knowledge that i’ll get to speak to a professional soon (in two weeks), and the hope that things get better in time. thank you to whoever reads my rant, and i’m sorry if this is triggering. i just needed to write how i feel somewhere. reassurance has been driving me downhill, so please don’t reassure me. if possible, just give me advice on how to cope with feeling this way.
My rocd flared up around the time my girlfriend and i were starting the process of getting an apartment. At the start, I was very excited and so happy to be moving together. then my mind kept thinking “she’s not going to let you have any say in anything, she doesn’t want you decorating, you guys don’t like the same things” and i started to believe that, which eventually led to me saying all that. and from there on, it gradually got worse. I started having thoughts like “do i even love her? am i in love with her? having i been faking it this entire time? do i have feelings for anymore? etc” and then i would have thoughts of breaking up and i’d get so anxious. now i wake up every morning thinking “i don’t love her, i don’t want to be in a relationship with her” and i get sooooo anxious. i know i love her, i know i don’t want to break up with her, i know the apartment is something i genuinely want, i just can’t feel any of it right now. every time i think of breaking up, i try to imagine my life without her and it doesn’t seem right. i genuinely can’t imagine not being with her. my feelings and thoughts before all this were very much happy and healthy, like i was smitten but now my thoughts affect me everyday, they’re all i think about. it’s all i research, i talk about it too much to other people, the thoughts are making me feel like i’m faking everything. does anyone have tips. i just want to feel like i used to feel
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