- Username
- GittyKitty
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Well I would love to say that I cut them out of my life, but I live with them so....but yes it hurts. My sister and my mom have both purposely triggered me (not OCD I have a sound processing disorder too).
Yep. My mum will do something she knows triggers my ocd, even when I hint that I don't want her to
My neighbors currently do this. I have tried to get my parking space changed by my apt complex said no because theyāre awesome like that. Itās part of the reason Iām doing ERP. When I eventually move, itād be nice to not have such public compulsions. To give any other advice, Iād have to know if itās a family Member or an acquaintance, like someone that knows you have it or doesnāt. My neighbors know something is wrong but not exactly what, and I feel that if I went up to them and gently explained āIām seeking treatment for OCD and I know youāve noticed me doing things, but theyāre harmless and Iām actually trying to stop and itās really difficult and debilitating. Can you cut me a break?ā But I havenāt had the courage yet. If itās a family member or someone who knows you have OCD, Iād stay as calm as possible and go to another room to calm down. Later Iād ask them why, and ask them not to do it. If they continued, Iād cut ties. If not possible, Iād report their behavior to another more responsible family member and an outside source like a doctor or counselor.
Thanks for the tips!
Sure! I know itās not the best but itās all I could come up with and trust me, Iām trying to take my own advice!
And I know itās hard not to argue or get upset with someone when youāre already feeling OCDish and they exacerbate it but try for your own sake and not theirs to breathe and just say to them āFine okay, I need some airā and go away for ten. Then maybe try to explain that you care for them and want them to care for you, and that you believe youāre suffering from this (show them a website etc) and it would mean a lot to you if they could change their behavior a little to help not make it worse. If they donāt let you get some air if you need it even if youāre being calm with them, or if they respond poorly if you explain you think youāre dealing with something difficult and need them to be decent, now we are starting to talk about a little abuse instead of misunderstanding and before things get out of hand, try to think of someone who may be able to step in and help somehow. Like I said, a counselor, therapist, other older relative they respect, etc. Nobody should have anyone making their mental illness worse, plus you actually need help and support. But also try to remember that non OCD have nothing to compare their own mind to, they canāt understand how our brain works and itās not their fault. I donāt know your type of OCD, but consider your mom and sis an exposure and understand that staying calm through that and breathing and taking time to work through it is actually ERP, plus itāll keep you safer and itāll make them be more willing to listen to you about all this. Good luck friend.
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