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Idk. Girls never liked me growing up. They tend not to like me now. I always found haning with boys/ men easier. I very rarely have female friends. I’ve been told I’m pretty. Could that be it? In some cases I believe so. But I also have a very strong personality and am outgoing and loud so maybe that too.
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Yeah, I have lost all hope in finding someone who is genuinely kind to me. I don’t know if I am too sensitive or just a girl that people get jealous of. I notice that a lot of girls know so much about me, and I don’t even know them. Today a girl knew where I studied, what I will study and knew things about my family, and I have never talked to her. She knows some girls that I studied with and I was so shocked at how much they know about me when I never talk to them
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@🥰 I mean that’s one of my biggest problems with females is that they love to gossip. I’m not into it. I read your post to my husband and he asked if I wrote it! I wish I could say it gets better but it doesn’t. You just have to find one or two people to connect with. I know when I hang out with a group of women there will most likely be some form of dislike and I’ve accepted that.
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@anonymous Yeah thank you for replying, it helps a lot to know that other goes through this too. And thank you for these tips it helped a lot! I am going to focus on meeting people that share the same energy as me! It’s hard but I think I will achieve it soon.
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I tend to hang round with other girls because I don't want to loose their friendship (I literally had no friends a few months ago) but find boys far easier to talk to and get along with.
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I feel like I need to see how you are, bc that’s based on personality. But I’ve experienced that too, which led me to have a small circle of close friends, who have more going for them, that they don’t focus on looks. Like, people who are busy and have lives focused on positive things in life, not clubbing or any superficial things, will be better people to have in your life. Idle hands are the devils playground. The more free time you have and not being focused, there’s time for negative emotions like jealously to come up. When someone’s happy w their life and busy and successful, they don’t really get jealous about that. They’re secure people.
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I truly feel like I am a nice person but maybe a little bit closed. I am very outgoing but also an introvert, I am a very supportive friend and I am a very emphatic person. I don’t know why I don’t connect with any female friends
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@🥰 Well where do you meet friends? That’s really important
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@Anonymous I spent almost every day at home where I studied now because of corona. So I didn’t make a lot of friends there but now I meet people at parties. My only friend invites me with her boyfriend and his friends at these parties and I think many of those people are bad for me. They are not my type of people so I guess i should look for friends other places?
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@🥰 Exactly lol parties. Yes, set yourself up in higher vibe places. Stay away from people who drink do drugs etc bc they do not share the same morals rn as people who are doing positive things w their life
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@Anonymous Thank you for asking me that question, it made me realize that I probably have grown from that party and drinking state. Going to parties is something I am used to and therefor it’s been hard to realize that I actually don’t like it anymore but i don’t have anything else to do because I feel stuck in that place. I am going to take some time for myself and my growth now and stop drinking so much because I don’t really like it anymore.
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Girls can be MEAN! That’s nothing about you or anything you can control other than not letting it get to you or feeding your intrusive thoughts. Unfortunately, you’re at an age where everyone wants to look like they’re having more fun than the people around them and that creates a toxic environment. Look for the people who don’t need to get drunk every time they drink and can just casually have one while you’re out to dinner. I have more fun at Wednesday night bar trivia than I do a party or a club!!
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Thank you!! I have learned so much from your comments!
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The other day I made a post about being kind and supportive and not being judgmental when commenting on other people’s posts because someone made a comment on my post insinuating that I don’t have ocd and i’m actually just a bad person. At first it didn’t really bother me because I know i’m not a bad person but now my ocd is latching onto their comment and it’s making me feel horrible. My post that they commented on was about how whenever I think things to myself like how my pre teen daughter is blessed to have slim legs and not chubby thighs like mine and she’s growing up into a nice shape or my teen son has a nice shape jawline and neck and it’s good that he’s slim but he’s too slim or how all of my adult kids are so handsome/beautiful my ocd turns my random normal mom thoughts into something inappropriate. I know I don’t think of or look at my kids or any kids or young person in an inappropriate way. My ocd says I do and I was seeking support. That persons comment was so damaging for me. I tried to think maybe they have never had dark disturbing intrusive thoughts with their ocd themes and maybe they just don’t understand or maybe they have never had pocd theme or maybe they are not a parent but even if all of that were true, their comment was still so judgmental and damaging. I am struggling even more now because my ocd is latching onto that persons comment and making me feel like a horrible person. Has anyone else had this happen? How did you get through it?
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Hi, I’m new here!! I’m praying I don’t get judged for this. But, back in late May of 2022 ( literally right before I graduated high school), I added this one random girl from my school on Snapchat. She posted something about a graduation party , so I swiped up on her story basically saying how I can’t believe we’re almost graduated. She replied and we had a really short and simple conversation. The next day ( i believe) , we started talking a lot , and I just so happened to see her at the highschool when we were grabbing our graduation outfits and doing the rehearsal. When I saw her irl, I kinda got turned off ( I heard she was kinda crazy) , and on top of that , she was a little ugly irl. I remember seeing her Snapchat bio , and she was close friends with my female cousin ( a year younger than me) , who I happened to experiment sexually with when I was 10-11 years old. I remember going to work later that day and having sort of a lightbulb flick thought ( it wasn’t a good thought though) , what if my cousin told her about what happened when we were younger? So I started to kind of panic and immediately distanced myself from that girl. I also experimented sexually with one of my female friends when I was 10-11 , and from that day onwards, I’ve been pretty much living in paranoia and a little bit of guilt about someone finding out and my life being ruined . On top of that, It’s gotten worse to now sometimes I wonder if a girl I added off of quick add ( Snapchat) is underage even if they told me they were 18+ or had 18 and above in their bio, and I get so much guilt and anxiety about that. I even had a quick thought last February on what if I did something inappropriate with my younger cousin when I was 15-16 but I just can’t exactly remember when it happened , and it still eats me alive when I think about it, because I don’t know if it happened or not. I’m sorry for the long vent, I just wish I felt normal again. No matter how much I try to do things that old me used to do, life always feels “ off”. I always kept the top part about when I was younger a secret up until early (ish ) 2024, then I vented to one of my best friends and he told me that that’s a normal thing to do at a young age. Since then, I have told multiple friends and they all say they did similar stuff, but my brain just can’t accept that. Please help me, I quite literally overthink everything nowadays. 2021 was the last full year that I felt normal ( coincidentally, the best year of my life so far) . It’s not just about sexual related things either, sometimes I’ll wonder if I messed up something at work or hit a car while driving/hit someone and drove off. I just wanna live my life how I was supposed to live it after highschool ( carefree and happy) before whatever it is ( I think it’s ocd) hit me unexpectedly. Thanks to anyone who read this , I just needed to pour it out regardless of how negative I felt typing this, I hope someone can relate , because I feel so alone in my head at times.
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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