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Idk. Girls never liked me growing up. They tend not to like me now. I always found haning with boys/ men easier. I very rarely have female friends. I’ve been told I’m pretty. Could that be it? In some cases I believe so. But I also have a very strong personality and am outgoing and loud so maybe that too.
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Yeah, I have lost all hope in finding someone who is genuinely kind to me. I don’t know if I am too sensitive or just a girl that people get jealous of. I notice that a lot of girls know so much about me, and I don’t even know them. Today a girl knew where I studied, what I will study and knew things about my family, and I have never talked to her. She knows some girls that I studied with and I was so shocked at how much they know about me when I never talk to them
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@🥰 I mean that’s one of my biggest problems with females is that they love to gossip. I’m not into it. I read your post to my husband and he asked if I wrote it! I wish I could say it gets better but it doesn’t. You just have to find one or two people to connect with. I know when I hang out with a group of women there will most likely be some form of dislike and I’ve accepted that.
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@anonymous Yeah thank you for replying, it helps a lot to know that other goes through this too. And thank you for these tips it helped a lot! I am going to focus on meeting people that share the same energy as me! It’s hard but I think I will achieve it soon.
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I tend to hang round with other girls because I don't want to loose their friendship (I literally had no friends a few months ago) but find boys far easier to talk to and get along with.
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I feel like I need to see how you are, bc that’s based on personality. But I’ve experienced that too, which led me to have a small circle of close friends, who have more going for them, that they don’t focus on looks. Like, people who are busy and have lives focused on positive things in life, not clubbing or any superficial things, will be better people to have in your life. Idle hands are the devils playground. The more free time you have and not being focused, there’s time for negative emotions like jealously to come up. When someone’s happy w their life and busy and successful, they don’t really get jealous about that. They’re secure people.
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I truly feel like I am a nice person but maybe a little bit closed. I am very outgoing but also an introvert, I am a very supportive friend and I am a very emphatic person. I don’t know why I don’t connect with any female friends
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@🥰 Well where do you meet friends? That’s really important
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@Anonymous I spent almost every day at home where I studied now because of corona. So I didn’t make a lot of friends there but now I meet people at parties. My only friend invites me with her boyfriend and his friends at these parties and I think many of those people are bad for me. They are not my type of people so I guess i should look for friends other places?
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@🥰 Exactly lol parties. Yes, set yourself up in higher vibe places. Stay away from people who drink do drugs etc bc they do not share the same morals rn as people who are doing positive things w their life
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@Anonymous Thank you for asking me that question, it made me realize that I probably have grown from that party and drinking state. Going to parties is something I am used to and therefor it’s been hard to realize that I actually don’t like it anymore but i don’t have anything else to do because I feel stuck in that place. I am going to take some time for myself and my growth now and stop drinking so much because I don’t really like it anymore.
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Girls can be MEAN! That’s nothing about you or anything you can control other than not letting it get to you or feeding your intrusive thoughts. Unfortunately, you’re at an age where everyone wants to look like they’re having more fun than the people around them and that creates a toxic environment. Look for the people who don’t need to get drunk every time they drink and can just casually have one while you’re out to dinner. I have more fun at Wednesday night bar trivia than I do a party or a club!!
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Thank you!! I have learned so much from your comments!
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