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I don't know your mum's situation but this is a good quote. I am not religious but it helps me with OCD it's from AA really. 'God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference' OCD led me down the AA path for a while as I couldn't stand it. Needed something just to make it disappear. It only made it worse! Happy Birthday!
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Happy Birthday?
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Happy birthday!! ?? and yeah I get the feeling the urge to fix people. It just means we have a good heart and want everyone to be happy! The problem is we tend to make everyone else’s problems our own problems which is very exaausting. What needs to be realized is we can only do so much for a person and in the end it’s ultimately up to them to help themselves. Sometimes all you can do is just be nice to someone and that encourages them
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Thank you everyone ^☺️☺️
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- 25w
Background: I'm 18 today. I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy S( which I now cut contact with) months and months ago, I came clean to my boyfriend and he forgave me but that's when this all started. I'm not diagnosed with Ocd yet but jm seeing a local counselor. Now: In the past months I've been having thoughts like " what if I love S" "What if my boyfriend is just a friend to me" "I'd rather S did that * insert sexual thing or normal romantic thing*" " S wouldn't do that" "What if I secretly love S" "I love S" and I kept imagining scenarios with S to test how I'd react physically. These thoughts are there everyday for me 24/7, some days it's worse some it's better but I cry about them everyday because they build up and I just explode. I don't want to have them but they get worse and worse with time and I'm scared they reflect some kind of truth because of my past. I finished to have a crisis now, lasted at least 1 hour and I cried my heart out, my mind was like " I dont want anyone else to touch me like my boyfriend does" but then it said back " I love S" " I want S to do that" ecc ecc, got so bad I need to refocus during sex and I need to see my boyfriends face to be sure it's him because I'm scared S is gonna come into my mind and I'm gonna get turned on for him thing that scares me to death. I don't want these thoughts. I don't want them. I had the same with pedo like thoughts, for a while I had to avoid children because I was convinced I was a pedo. This comes and goes but the theme it's most in my mind it's this S theme around my relationship. I love my boyfriend and I don't want any of this, can someone please suggest me what to do? I'm really desperate can someone help?
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- 23w
I don’t know if I forgot my good memories or just didn’t have them to begin with. My parents are good people. They are really laid back and understanding. They help whenever I need it and always support me financially. I can only remember one good memory with my dad from when I was 5. Everything else is blurry besides the stressful memory’s . This made me wonder if I had a good childhood. They were pretty busy with there full time jobs growing up so I don’t remember seeing them after school most days. This could explain why my memory is so blurry. I can’t recall specifics but I can remember my overall state of mind. I remember being 5 and feeling happy and stable when my family lived in Florida. When we moved to Georgia I remember feeling more restless and frustrated. I was a very talkative child and I would try to talk to everyone but I never really had friends. I had undiagnosed ADHD so I was pretty annoying as a kid unlike my brother who was polite and smart and even a child model. As a child I would pick fights with him all the time. I think my mom favored him but I also think my dad favors me so ig that a win. I remember hitting my brother a lot because I knew my dad would kill him if he hit me back. My mom would call me a brat all the time to make my brother feel better. It feels like at the time she might’ve resented me for what I did to him. She didn’t really do anything fun with me one on one I think but I really can’t remember . She put me into a bunch of extra afterschool things that I’m sure costed a ton of money. I was never really good or talented at anything tho so I wasn’t really enjoying myself. This is already a lot of word so imma rap this up. I later find out that my brother and my mom would talk everyday when she came home from work before he went to sleep. He says she treated him like a therapist and he didn’t appreciate it. But I feel jealous because I remember trying to talk to her when she came home from work but she would lose her patience after o few sentences of me talking. Now that I’m 18 my brother doesn’t answer her calls and im going hiking with her tommorow. She changed when I got older and nows she’s desperate for my attention because she feels like a bad mom. I love my mom and looking forward to our hike tomorrow.
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- 19w
it’s my birthday tmrw and i’ve been reflecting a lot about what 21 has meant for me and what 22 looks like ahead. this past week has been reflective and restoritive for me. my partner and i took a week long break and came back feeling better. i realized i have t been showing up for myself and occupying my mind or time with anything else but worry or guilt or shame about my relationship or my rocd. my relationship is switching from a more college-esque style of you will, where we have flexibility to see eachother whenever and we can just play plans by ere, and now we want our time to be more structured because we’re transitioning to full time roles or for me, graduating college. any advice is always appreciated. i realized that ive always wanted more independence in my relationship, but i always thought that it was a bad thing. but i realize now it’s just who i am. though this new ability to figure out myself and what i like and want is scary and discomforting because of my attachment style, ultimately i feel that it will be for the better. this past week ive been having visions and getting scared of loosing her and breaking up. songs have been hitting differently, things felt real. but i was finally able to see through the fog of ofc and my anxiety and understand what causes it. i realized i really want this relationship and that it was unfair to my partner for me to stop doing the work and for me to not show up as my best self. it was unfair for me to be caught up and feel ashamed for at one point for not being sure if i was committed or in love, to know i am and still feeling scared and ashamed. i didn’t allow or open up to deeper more profound connection. some people say that’s effortless to a certain extent and should t require anything and its natural and that’s true to a certain extent because ROCD is a beast for those with trauma and relationships or abuse. i often question myself and everything i do and feel. i have bits of magical thinking hoping for just one second i can tell myself that things will work out and ill be okay. i saw photos of myself the other day from middle school and i realized for my entire life i havent liked myself because no one told the girl who was just trying to fit in that she was cool enough or just worthy. well i see that now-she always was. my partner told me one of the biggest reason why she loves me the other day during our talk was because i know who i am and im confident. and i agree with her, ive just lost myself to ocd for so long and im finally getting myself back. things aren’t as bad as i think they are. in fact my world is full of love and so am i. i still feel anxious but i feel it grow smaller and the thoughts become more manageable as i reconnect with my perspective. i don’t need to focus on the future or marriage or anything that tells me ill have other people. the right people have stayed and will and no matter what, i always have me. 21 has been the most profound year yet, and im ready to step into 22. ready to commit to truly being in love. with myself, truly loving my partner and truly being grateful and accepting of what comes my way. i think im going to be okay and i think we will all be too. happy birthday to me🪷💗
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