Is anyone free to talk?

That’s true, I guess anytime a woman has made a move on me I didn’t like it, especially if I considered them a friend. But I just don’t know what’s real

@mann99 Exactly :/

Thanks that really helps make this all make sense too! If any of my friends would've made a move on me I wouldn't have been about it

I saw a thing about how a gay person realized their past hetero crushes were not real after they came out and I’m so scared that maybe my past crushes were not real.. they felt so real though but what if I’m just in denial? These thoughts keep bothering me

Going back to try and remember how I felt, and compare them to how I feel now. Context - I’m a bi woman but I’m terrified of my attraction to men going away since I do wanna date men

@mann99 I can relate to your story. I am also bi, and haven't been diagnosed, but I'm constantly like, "am I gay?", "am I straight?" " or both? or neither?"... and then I Google stuff to try and find an answer, just to do it all over again....

@mann99 Continue to explore those thoughts and really do some self inventory as to the success you have had with either gender. And when I say success I ' m not speaking of sexually or finacially. I mean your self love for you and how grounded and true to you that you were with each gender.

@Nobody123 Yeah googling and using Reddit are my compulsions too :/

@sdwms70 Thats fair - I just don’t know how I felt, I feel like I am so confused and over analyzing everything. It used to feel so easy and true when I had a crush on a man and now I just don’t know anymore.

@mann99 Tbh, I only found out about this term yesterday, but as soon as I heard it I was like, "woah, that's me!" I thought that's just how normal people question their identities... but, then this app and the internet made me realize it could be ocd...

@mann99 it's good u over analyze things thats an Indicator that you haven't found what really defines you. That means more inventory needed on you working on u.

@sdwms70 This is an OCD cycle.

@Ope.0 Yeah I am just constantly over analyzing, whether based in reality or not. It’s always the “what if” thoughts that get me the worst, and ruminating on the past.

@mann99 I get that because I often do the same. I often find myself overthinking and then blowing things way out of control. So then I have to stop my thinking process and ask myself how is this effecting me. I have had to implement grounding tools to help me redirect my thinking. I generally will reach out to my support system team and they help me to get out of my head and redirect that energy. Learning how to live in the moment is hard but I have to work on it daily and remind myself that I can only control my actions and then sit with my thoughts and ask are these thoughts healthy ones.

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