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Hey, how are you? I know it is difficult but a step that I think would be helpful for you, and your family, would be to discuss with your parents about your ocd and thoughts. Although your mom may have covid at the time, if there’s something I know about parents, it’s that they care for their children in the end. I think that her and your dad will help you through what you are going through and you can help your mom as well. I’m glad to hear you are doing erp, and know that these intrusive thoughts may not be true. Thoughts are just thoughts!
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my dad doesn’t believe in mental illness and has hurt me mentally and physically because of that so i can’t really talk to him. I will talk to my mom about when she’s feeling better. Thank you for the advice.
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@Rey ⚜️ I’m sorry to hear that. I hope the situation gets better, I can pray for you if you would like as well. I understand that the situation could be difficult to manage on top of your ocd. I’m here if you need to talk!
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I haven’t much advice to offer, but I know there are resources out there as wel that could help you find healthy ways to cope with OCD and suicidal thoughts (the National Suicide hotline being one). Of course the community on here supports you as well! I’ll keep y’a in my thoughts and send some good vibes/extra strength your way. I believe in you! Please take care
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I think a psychiatrist when you can finally get to one will be life changing for you. Medicine has helped me so much in my anxiety, mood swings and rumination .
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Insurance is a good thing to have, I would discourage that. Sometimes you have to leave the parenting up to the parents.
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I wouldn't discourage that*
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I'd also leave diagnosing to the professionals ofcourse we can find peace with knowing we share symptoms but until we get diagnosed we can't thoroughly know. For example for the longest time I thought I had bpd! Everything felt spot on. Then I got to be with a therapist and psychiatrist pretty long term and found instead I have GAD & PTSD, which explains what I was experiencing. Point is, alot overlaps. You deserve to get the care you need and im sorry your mom is facing hardship . As long as you all stay supportive of eachother, you will get through this.
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The problem is that I'm noticing that we don't have the privilege of actually getting a diagnosis. I've notice with things coming in the mail that we're going through some financial problems and my mom told me it may take a really long time to even see a psychiatrist or specialist. I'm very scared of seeing a therapist because of the subtypes I have and what cause them. The only thing I can really do is talk about it to my mom only but I'm sure she won't believe me.
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@Rey ⚜️ I think explaining what you are now to your mom could help her understand more of what you are going through. I wasn’t too excited seeing a therapist either but it got so bad that I had to talk to someone who had experience in the subject and I’m almost positive they have heard what has caused your subtypes etc. I watched videos on YouTube on how to do ERP and it helped me (this was when I wasn’t seeing a therapist or psychiatrist).
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You are not a burden on your mother. You are not a burden in general.
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Personally I don't disclose my subtypes to my family members, I do disclose that I struggle with intense anxiety& shame and or when I felt suicidal thoughts and that sometimes I need help and I needed treatment. that's all they truly need to know and they can help you out that way just as much imo.
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There's online support groups for ocd please join those they are free group therapy.
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I’m feeling kind of sad cause today was not a really good day in terms of my ocd. I was feeling kind of foggy/numb and that send me to spiraling. I’m 21 years old currently studying but my family has been having trouble with money for the last couple years(we’re just me and my mom) and I kinda want to get a job but everything is far from my home and I wouldn’t be able to return back at night, also it’s either way more expensive to move or the schedule wouldn’t let me take my classes. The point is that because of that every time my mom is stress tends to treat me bad, she speaks to me like I’m stupid or she just screams to nothing cursing all life and everything and that actually makes me feel soo bad and guilty for not doing anything, I know it’s hard for me to get a job that actually helps us without quitting school but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m a burden. I want to help, I want to maybe hug her or something but I know she will be angrier and probably will reject it. So that’s it, I just feel like she punishes me for the stress she’s carrying and I get it but one day is happy and it feels like all love and the next is treating me like that, Idk it’s hard (also I feel like I shouldn’t be saying this cause it’s all my fault) 🫤
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I cant do anything anymore without my brain dregdging up proof from my past that I was actually trans and didn't know it, and it all seems so plausible. like I said in my last post its unearthing memories that I didn't even know I have. ik this is just ocd tricking me but I feel like I need to review every moment thoroughly bc I have questioned my gender in the past but always concluded that'd I'd happier as a girl (which is true). everything feels so real and it feels like I am just super in denial. also, how do I tell people about this? I made the mistake of confessing to a teacher on a note and only a couple friends of mine understand the thoughts I get, but I don't tell them everything. however its very hard for me to do basic responsibilities like school work and I always end up overwhelmed, so I'm thinking I may need accomdations. I need to get in touch with my counselor but i'm unsure how to explain all of this to her, being that I don't have a diagnosis....also I feel like I can't talk about this with the majority of my friends because gender ocd is rare to have (increasing my doubts) and, at least school-wise, i'm in very accepting environment for lgbtq and I'm afraid they're just gonna tell me to accept myself. I'm scared of doing erp for this because what if I like it (also cant afford therapy). ive also felt very apprehensive around some of my trans friends and classmates because my brain is going crazy asking "what if you're like them?" and I feel so bad and transphobic for these thoughts. i'm genuinely so tired. one of my closest friends died last year, but my father pointed out that my recent mood has been even worse than it was during that time. i tend to bottle up my emotions a lot, so everyone's just telling me to "let it go" and tell people, but if I do that I feel like i'll end up confessing. i'm so tired and lost.
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My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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