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- 4y
I sometimes run into this. Others may have different convictions and beliefs than we do. We show grace and love to those around us as Christ did to us. Remember that intrusive thoughts do not define us. It may help to remember as well that even Christ was tempted, but He did not sin. We are in control of our actions. Our thoughts? Not so much.
Thank you. I am just so scared that they aren't intrusive. I am really anxious that they are true desires and I can't quit ruminating on it. And it comforts me knowing Christ was tempted but it also scares me because saying I am tempted to become like that makes it sound like true desires
@Anyonomous Do what you value doing anyway. And you might have to just be scared for a while. It sounds like you kinda want reassurance, but that won't help. Sit with uncertainty- I know it's really difficult, but God's got you.
@squidney Okay. I kind of do want reasurance. I want to know that all of these thoughts are ocd and move on but I can't quit thinking what if they arent?
@Anyonomous We are tempted at all times but some temptations are easier to fight off when we aren't focused on them, I used to be deeper in sin and for some time I was enjoying pleasure with no bad feeling attached to it until God showed me I was leading a bad life, now I get intrusive thoughts from time to time about my past sins but guess what, God forgave me from those sins and even thought the temptation might be there an stronger on some days, I haven't sinned like that again and continue to fight back, God sees this and knows I'm trying, He knows it all, even if you doubt that they are intrusive thoughts, God knows so trust in God don't trust your ocd nor your feelings when you're anxious, temptations aren't sin, you're a child of God and God loves and protects His children, don't listen to the lies of ocd trust God's truth." I will never leave you nor forsake you." Seek therapy and fight back don't be afraid God is on our side
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. Okay. I know God will always forgive me in my shortcomings, I just don't want to fail Him. And are you saying I am really tempted to do these things? I didn't think intrusive thoughts were temptations but maybe I'm wrong
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. Or are you saying that they are just temptations not desires? Sorry if I sound dumb š just trying to understand
@Anyonomous Temptations are not desires nor are they sin, they're just temptations. Intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts we can't control them nor stop them but we can react to them we can disregard them and not listen to them, we can choose to just let them go as they mean nothing, they're harmless, the problem comes when we attach meaning to them and overthink them when all we needed to do was walk away from them. God is not out to get you the minute you fail, Hes all merciful and loving and knows us more than we know ourselves, Hes with us during this suffering of ocd, trust Him with all your heart, think of this John 3 16, while we were sinners God loved us so much He gave us His only Son, thats how much He loves us, don't be afraid, the thoughts are brain facts and God knows everything, leave it to Him to fight our battles when we can't ourselves. God bless you
Which things
Like getting drunk, hooking up with people, heavy cursing. I am a Christian and I don't want to do those things but I keep getting intrusive thoughts about it
@Anyonomous I understand you, as a Christian we are called to walk with them not sin with them but walk with them, understand them, not judge, we are all sinners, also understand that intrusive thoughts are not under our control, they are not our desires therefore we can ignore them. I recommend this amazing site called Scrupulous Anonymous, it has helped me a lot, pray to your Heavenly Father for grace and understanding, know that God loves us all even those people you mentioned. That's how amazing God's mercy is.
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. Thank you ⤠i want to follow God so much. It's just when someone talks about stuff like this, I get really anxious and get itneusive thoughts that I want these things too. Its awful and then I feel like a judgmental person when I'm not trying to
@Anyonomous I know how you feel, I have felt like this before and sometimes still do but it's part of ocd, you have to accept you have ocd and that the thoughts will be there no matter what just as any other person has intrusive thoughts but don't engage in compulsions like we do, trust God, if the therapist know that these intrusive thoughts mean nothing and that we have ocd then surely God knows this and more, God knows what these thoughts make us feel and loves us so much that he sent us therapist and all these tools to help us, all we need to do is trust in Him and His help and mercy, dont rely on the intrusive thoughts don't wait on any order from the intrusive thoughts, just live life, follow God as best as you can, we aren't perfect, the Saints weren't perfect, but they knew they wanted to follow Jesus so they did, we must do the same, and when we fall, we get picked up by the Lord again with love to pick up where we left off.
I have OCD around being a bad or a āweird,ā person. I use to be in therapy twice a week for two hours at a time because I was in such bad shape with it. Eventually I moved to once a week at two hours at a time, and now Iām down to just once a week, an hour at a time! I was also put on Lexapro, stayed on it for a year and just weened myself off in Nov. I do feel proud of myself, but today someone said something that was pretty triggering and Iām feeling funny now. Since I was a little girl, if I find someone I liked a lot, I wanted to know everything about them. This typically only happened with older adults and always women. It was always very harmless. I just lived in my head a lot with them always on my mind. Then Facebook came out where you could find out anything about anyone. I could go on to someoneās Facebook page, scroll through their page, pictures, and if I was really interested in them, could find out who their family was through their friends list, etc. Then Iād visit their families FB pages all the time out of just interest (or I guess you could call it being nosy, I donāt really know.) If I really felt interested in them, Id google them, look up their house, just weird stuff like that. I could end up knowing everything about them or their family. It had never caused me any harm or them any harm. I never really thought about it being weird or anything. But one day I woke up and was like, āwhat if Iām a stalker. What if this person knew that I knew who their parents are, their siblings, etc., etc.?ā I got in to an absolute downward spiral about it and felt like such a weirdo, a creep, a freak. Seriously, Iām a pretty normal person. Iām married, kids, husband, stay at home mom, have the same friends Iāve had since middle school, high school, whatever. My therapist didnāt think this was a big deal and I was always scared she was just being nice. I made her promise me to tell me if anything I told her sounded off. Anyway, I was on the phone tonight and the person I was talking to, was talking about someone else and she said, āyeah, I mean she just looks people up and needs to know everything about them. Thatās why she could be so good at being a private detective, or something like that. Sheās kinda stalkerish.ā It hit me hard. I felt like I needed to tell her that maybe she wouldnāt like me either because I can be the same way. I didnāt though. I didnāt get off the phone or do anything with it. If this was a year ago, Iād be in the bathroom vomiting, pacing the floor, taking my anti anxiety med. Today, I just dealt with the uncertainty of her not knowing that I can be the same way. Iām doing ok, but Iām so curious, is it just me that does this kind of thing? Is there anyone else that does this kind of thing? Is this abnormal? I know that it is what it is, but my phone conversation tonight kinda opened up that stuff for me a little bit and now Iām feeling like a freak. Thank you if read this and if you respond.š
Idk anymore it feels like being on here is a trigger. Every time I see a minor post on the app, my intrusive thoughts go haywire and then my brain says maybe you should comment something inappropriate and i literally don't wanna fucking do that. It's the last thing I want to do. And now im scared that I commented something crude on someone's post. obviously, when I went to check there was nothing now my brain is saying "you commented and then deleted". I want to think it's something I wouldn't do, but why are the images in my head so real. Children should be safe. I feel like I need to be locked away. Someone please help me.
iāve been having this theme pop up recently where if I see people either criticize or be a hater and spread misinformation or seeing old controversies about my current interests/hyper-fixations i find myself having a crazy anxiety attack about if itās āmorally okayā to be interested in my interests anymore. i feel really singled out and like im doing something wrong because im watching a youtuber or listening to a specific musical group. in all of these specific situations the people involved have talked about the situations and have changed accordingly but seeing it makes me feel like i shouldnāt be allowed to like my favorite things. to be clear none of these things are dramatically evil or bad. itās either misinformation/uneducated people influencing someone opinion and then they learn and change. it just makes me feel like im not allowed to like my favorite things anymore because of people criticizing it??? if that makes sense??? also this is a little off topic but also not really because iām 99.99% sure im autistic because of MANY things but with this specifically i have very strong interests and i feel very deep feelings about them and any and all criticism or hateful comments towards my favorite things trigger me deeply and make my ocd act up and make me feel uncomfortable and uncertain and anxious and it causes physical discomfort to me. i really donāt know how to calm myself down about this specific theme itās brand new and makes me feel really anxious. not trying to look for reassurance but does anyone else understand what i mean??? does anyone have any advice on how to not give into the negative comments??? any suggestions on how to ease this specific anxiety???
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