im getting false attractions to dicks and it’s horrible, i’m a guy. i get this tension when i see one and it makes me feel like i want them. anyone else with some fixation like that? its horrible

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you’re gay and have false attraction to men?

@anto007 Sorry I meant I'm a lesbian

@Alice1837 I think what’s frustrating too is that attractions with your preferred arc aren’t as strong as the false attractions and that is what really gets me suck.

did it happen to you before the obsessions?

@anto007 Yeah I may have gotten a mild case of hocd when I was younger but I just thought I was questioning because I had no idea what hocd was. Now though I experience what you do but with female parts because I like men so my ocd is the opposite. It’s really hard to deal with because you feel like you want it. But I actually read something really helpful from an advocate from here, she had said that there is a term called arousal non concordance. Where your genitals may be aroused by mentally you are not and vice versa. Either way the best route to take is just to accept the the thoughts or feelings that come up and let them pass

@Legallyocd damn, i understand. yeah that’s what ive been trying to do but it is really hard when your mind uses those false attractions as proof that you are what you fear, i’ve been doing compulsions like crazy lately and my anxiety is at an all time high, this is really hard but i’ll try to resist de urge to do more compulsion and accept the uncertainty, hope you do well too.

@anto007 Thank you, I totally understand how you feel. I have been doing compulsions like crazy to but I actually attended a group session for sexual thoughts today and the therapist had told me to not beat myself up for it. I recommend the same to you, what we are going through is super difficult, so take it hour by hour. There’s still time for you to have a good day, and if not there’s always tomorrow too

@HSP Today was my first time attending one specifically for people with sexual intrusive thoughts and it was really great. You have a therapist that proctors the zoom meeting and everyone shares what they are going through and offers support. The session is free and it’s an hour long. It’s just nice to be around people that have the same theme as you that know what you’re going through.

@HSP I feel the same way ! But we will get through this. Try the groups they help a lot especially if you’re having a hard day