can ROCD make you feel like you don’t love him? i do love him and even on good days there’s always has anxious feeling in me that brings on the what if’s and makes me feel like i don’t want to be with him. i have been diagnosed but i still question if i want to be with him. there was a time in my life where this was not even a question and i knew that he was the one i wanted to be with but my theme switched to ROCD a couple months ago and it feels like i’ll never be the same

Relationship OCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

this was me and it’ll attack when i’m with him and it is hell. but i know just sitting with it was hard but it helped! i’m not going to lie, my boyfriend and i HAVE had some issues so i didn’t just dismiss but now i can decipher which is ocd and which is i’m genuinely upset rn but your feelings don’t magically changes in one night! and ROCD is a hard one! it’s very tough but you can do this! don’t forget, love is a choice. NOT A FEELING!

itwillbeokay💛

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

thank you for the advice ❤️

getwellsoon

Date posted: 4y

i get worried because it feels like my feelings are hardly there for them lately but they also are the only person who gives me comfort and i can’t seem to stay away from them. i just feel out of it and my emotions and sense of self feel gone. i also keep going over interactions between me and them all the time to see how i’m feeling until i feel right about it

itwillbeokay💛

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

i totally get this and do the same thing. you’re not alone

getwellsoon

Date posted: 4y

@ anonymous it’s so hard knowing whether it’s rational or irrational and it breaks my heart because all i want to do is feel the way i felt about them before. this all happened out of nowhere. how do you cope with it

itwillbeokay💛

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@getwellsoon literally same exact thing with me. happened out of no where and all i want is to go back to the way i felt before. i had a different theme then and it feels like that one was so much easier than this one

getwellsoon

Date posted: 4y

@ anonymous me too. this one just came so unexpectedly that it’s hard for me to tell if it’s an intrusive thought or not but i know deep deep down i don’t want to give up on them.

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Yes, very much so. I have had this happen to me where you question the relationship n ocd makes you obsess

cheyras

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Absolutely. When I was dating my (now) wife I had that kind of ROCD really, really bad. It took a very deliberate choice. Marrying her had more to do with a firm choice than it did about how I felt all the time. I just knew that when I wasn’t anxious, things were good, and that when I was, I couldn’t connect. Obsessions often focus on things that are important to you, so no big surprise that it has latched onto your relationship! Just know that when you’re analyzing how you feel about someone it basically makes it impossible to feel positive emotions. I will tell you that as soon as I made a “final” choice (getting engaged) my anxiety didn’t disappear but it did reduce by a significant degree.

itwillbeokay💛

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

thank you so much, that gives me so much hope

Anonymous

Date posted: 4y

Glad we are here to talk to each other about this.

getwellsoon

Date posted: 4y

feeling very drained

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