Any advice from someone who’s got passed the groinal response?

It’s like a spike of a sensation :/

@Anonymous Sorry if this is too graphic, but mine was like... “a pulse”?

@missbluesky It’s okay! And maybe? Because it’ll only happen once. So like a single pulse. I’ve seen people say that it feels like a pulse.

@Anonymous EXACTLY. one pulse!

@Anonymous I worry because I got these responses very young and thought it was arousal...now that I’m older I know that it’s not and that arousal is other things besides a single pulse lol

@missbluesky I wish I knew that 😭 (like in my head becuase of the OCD lol)

@Anonymous Well I don’t actually know that lol or I wouldn’t be compulsively asking other people what their groinals felt like lol

@missbluesky Sometimes I really just want to give up and stop caring but because I keep getting scared about how ill feel once my boyfriend comes back down (he’s in the Air Force) I want to figure literally every question out. And the groinal response affected me the most. I just don’t want to lose my relationship because of this

@missbluesky True I’m sorry 😭

@missbluesky Just wanted to say I also experience it as a pulse, sometimes a single pulse, sometimes a few and I have no idea if that’s real arousal?

@b13 Yeah like how are we supposed to tell if it’s real arousal or because of anxiety?

@Anonymous Here’s my predicament: I got these “pulses” before I even started testing myself. They just, like, appeared one day and then HOCD started. they’d happen to literally every woman, clothed and in non sexual situations. I thought it made me gay and I still obsess and worry that it’s real arousal or it WAS and now I just suppress it.

@Anonymous Are you guys there?

@missbluesky I’m here! :)

@Anonymous Did you see what I said?

@missbluesky Just saw it! The same thing has happened to me too!

@Anonymous I have no idea if it’s anxiety or real arousal.

@b13 About me or you, b13?

@Anonymous It’s so scary! I know that I like men. I know I do. But there are so many lesbians who were CERTAIN they liked men and then ended up just having comphet. It doesn’t help that I’ve only had sex 2 times and I didn’t really like the boy I had sex with.

@missbluesky Me sorry, I was answering Anonymous’ question to me

@missbluesky Yeah it is :/ and I’m still a virgin so I know what you mean

@Anonymous How old are you?

@missbluesky Almost 22 lol

@Anonymous That’s ok! People have sex at different times

@Anonymous I lost mine to a random guy from tinder lol I regret it

@missbluesky I use to want to wait until marriage but I changed my mind

@missbluesky I’m sorry you regret it :(

@Anonymous It’s okay! It’s not serious, I wouldn’t take it back but I would have waited for someone I loved.

@Anonymous I’m really worrying now because I have a lot of stereotypical bi traits :(((

@missbluesky I know it’s hard but I don’t think you should worry about it. There’s so many people in life that seem a certain way but actually aren’t

@Anonymous But it’s like...I’ve had this obsession since I was 12 and then coincidentally grew up to fit bi stereotypes? Like that doesn’t seem like coincidence

@missbluesky Have you ever seen a therapist?

@Fruitsbasket Why do you ask???

@missbluesky Because maybe it would help you to talk to someone about it or do ERP :)

@Fruitsbasket Like talk to someone about it like you think I’m gay

@Fruitsbasket ??

@missbluesky Omg I’m sorry no! Talk about it because it sounds like you have OCD and you should talk to someone about it so you can understand what’s going on and hep lesson symptoms

@Fruitsbasket I’m so sorry I’m just having a rough go of it lately

@Fruitsbasket I’ve been diagnosed and in and out of therapy since I was 16

@missbluesky It’s okay I get it!!! Have you ever done ERP?

@Fruitsbasket I was in an ERP program through here in the winter but I couldn’t do it...never stopped doing compulsions.

@missbluesky How long were you in it?

@Fruitsbasket 2 months

@missbluesky Like it only lasted 2 months or you left after 2 months?

@Fruitsbasket Left

@Fruitsbasket I’ve had this off and on for 7.5 years