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- 4y
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 4y
A compulsion is any behavior that is intended to stop the anxiety, or to convince yourself the thoughts aren’t real. So if you find yourself researching, checking, generally trying to give yourself “proof” that you’re not a bad person, etc… that would all be compulsions that you want to avoid. Most of my compulsions are mental - repetitive prayers, trying to reason things out in my head, rumination, etc. They can be hard to avoid because you can’t exactly turn off your thoughts. The thing that helps me is to basically just tell myself that it is OK to feel anxious and panicked right now, that I don’t need to solve it right now, and then to just do my best to get involved in something else - be that work, a video game, watching YouTube videos (unrelated to what I’m worried about obviously,) etc. Or even just mindfulness meditation, focusing on just regular physical sensations like how breathing feels or the weight of my body contacting the chair I’m sitting on, helps.
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I've watched a video where it says not to do any relaxation techniques, like deep breathing, because it can make ERP less effective. What do y'all think about that? I just want to make sure that I'm going to do this right.
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- 4y
Also, they say to sit with the anxiety... I like the idea of shifting my attention to something else, I feel like that would be less uncomfortable. There's just so much information out there.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
Keep in mind that by shifting your attention to something else, the goal isn’t to stop the anxiety (which won’t happen right away) it’s basically just a powerful way of saying “I can tolerate these uncomfortable feelings, and I’m going to go live my life whether I’m feeling anxious or not.” I find things like mindfulness meditation helpful not because it removes the anxiety, but because it makes it easier to feel grounded and take my brain off of attempting to do mental compulsions (most of my compulsions are mental, so if I literally just sit with the anxiety and don’t do anything else it’s hard for my brain to not go into those mental checks and ruminations.)
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- 4y
It can be super hard to stop mental compulsions, especially at first! It gets easier with practice. One thing that helps me is the option to “spoil” a compulsion after the fact. For example, if you tell yourself “I would never do xyz,” you can spoil it afterwards by saying “actually, I might do xyz.” Ask your therapist about this technique to see how it might apply for you. Also, remember to take time to relax and rest outside of exposure time! Starting ERP is exhausting, so you might need more sleep than usual.
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- 18w
If your mind purposely keeps fetching a repetitive word, and you’re afraid it will never go away, is the ERP therapy to STOP the mind from doing it? Or ALLOW the mind to do it, and not react? Also, is repeating a word in your head a mental compulsion? Or would that be the obsession? So then what’s the compulsion? Posting on here? Lol
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- 15w
What would I do for ERP if my OCD says because I didn’t do something correctly or remember something I will have panic attacks that don’t end?
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- 14w
I read about ERP and have seen information about it on here. One of the goals is to say, "maybe I am this or that...ect." That terrified me. The thoughts and images that go in my head are disturbing and upsetting. I don't want to even think about saying, "maybe this or that." It's devasting to have these thoughts and question why you're having these thoughts. Doesn't the "maybe" make it worse? The one thing that helps me is that is to remind myself that these are just thoughts and I know I'm not a monster, even if I feel like one. Is ERP not for everyone? Has anyone else had a problem with the techniques used in this kind of therapy? I had cognitive therapy for years with an OCD specialist and that seemed to help a lot. Writing out the worst case scenarios would make me suicidal. Im having a difficult time not obsessing over the "maybe" after intrusive thoughts now. It doesn't make it better.
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