Ihateocd83
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Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Do you “test” your attraction to both sexes like anyone you see? Or do you imagine what it would be like to be with the same sex so you can figure out if you would like it? Or do you go on this app to ask for reassurance or read other posts to see if other people feel the way you do? Or do you google sexuality questions like “how do you know you are gay?” Or “is this hocd or denial?” Or any kind of questions that can give you a better answer? Or (this one is the hardest one for me) do you ruminate about your sexuality for long time trying to figure out if your one way or another And lastly do you go into your past to find “proof” that you are or are not gay?
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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There are a lot more compulsions like masturbation to gay porn and then straight porn to check your arousal or even going into Reddit for gay communities to see if you felt the way they felt when they came out etc.
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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I would start with reducing first so you can get some momentum going and build yourself up to the harder erp stuff
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Hey I’m so sorry you’re suffering so much, I’ve read some of your post and I know you are going through a hard time right now. Have you tried erp? Or maybe reducing your compulsions a little?
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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I don't even know what they are. Feels like I want the thoughts and feelings. I don't feel the same when looking at pictures of women
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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@Ihateocd83 Okay well I’ll tell you some of my compulsions and maybe that way we can pinpoint some of yours
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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@Legallyocd OK great ....
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Regardless you don’t have to tell me which one of these you do but if you do them try to either reduce them or stop them so you have start starving the ocd monster
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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I do all those things I think. I feel numb when looking at the opposite sex like diddly squat it's horrible
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Okay, and not to reassure you because am sure you know that’s not good but let’s think about this, you are going through a really hard time emotionally and mentally right now so ocd or not its going to be very difficult for your arousal to come back when you’re in fight or flight mode. So I know it’s easy for me to say but for right now don’t focus to much on your attraction to either sex and focus more on exposing yourself to your triggers and resisting the urge to do compulsions and promise that once you get that going and you can start to feel better you’ll have more of a chance of your attraction to come back but right now you are really really stressed and with all reason because this stuff is hard and it’s scary. But you can do it
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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@Legallyocd I'm on tinder but I like going on there for a distraction. I've been in a really loveless relationship for a long time and I think it's made things worse. Like I could probably count on 2 hands how many times we had sex over 8 years. So I have been in a really crappie relationship aswel
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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@Ihateocd83 Okay well then it might be a blessing in disguise that you to separating and it will give you the opportunity to find someone that can give you the love you deserve
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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I keep saying stuff in my head like I want I boyfriend I prefer boys. And I'm looking at women I can see there pretty but the desire has gone 😔
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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It’s okay but keep in your mind that all thoughts including the ones that we like are thoughts. The same goes for feelings. Neither thoughts nor feelings are facts. So when you say in your mind I want boyfriend teach yourself to say thank you brain okay. Every time you get triggered it’s an opportunity for you to beat this thing
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Again I know it’s super hard but try something different at least for two weeks and see how it goes. Or if it works better for you say maybe I’m gay maybe I’m not but I’m going to do x right now. Or say okay and get right back to what your were doing
Legallyocd Legallyocd
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Ocd is a malfunction in the alarm system in your brain. Your brain has learned that anything gay to you is a threat and is very important so the brain to protect you sends you all of these thoughts sensations messages etc so that you can reassure it. The problem is that by reassure it you negatively reinforce this vicious cycle so the most affective way to stop the cycle is by changing your response and except the uncertainty.
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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OK brilliant thanks for your support 👍. Really appreciated. God bless you 🙏
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No no worries! Trust me you are never alone in stuff. We really all go through the same thing, but our ocd always makes us feel like we are that one person that doesn’t have ocd !
Ihateocd83Ihateocd83
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@Legallyocd There was something else but can't remember what it was. This really does feel like a sexual orientation crisis tho. But I know I loved women so much.
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@Ihateocd83 Regardless of what it is you have to accept the uncertainty and not engage. With ocd every time feels like it’s the one or that it’s different so you have stay firm and not engage
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