hey guys could someone help me or relate to this? im a female and i’ve always been straight. i just love guys and i’ve never had any feelings towards girls. but recently the past month or two i’ve started thinking oh shit what if i’m gay and i don’t really know what caused me to think this but i can’t get it out of my head and it makes me so grossed out and i just start crying because i can’t stop. i don’t have anything against gays i just personally don’t like it for myself. i know that this is just a obsession but i have panic attacks about it almost every night and i just don’t know what to do. can someone please help.

i relate to that so much. i’ll see a girl and think omg she’s gorgeous and then i’ll start to fear that i’m attracted to her but then i’ll see a picture of a guy and i’m like wowww and start to think i’m attracted to him then just get anxious and start freaking out and worry that i’m either bisexual or gay and i hate it

I relate but as a guy. I deal with panic attacks all throughout the day, my mind is a literal hell. At times when I feel I have myself again, it finds a way to get me back into the loop. I feel the same way with you. It feels like our thoughts are VERY convincing too...

i get that 100%. our minds can do amazing things and they can also trap us in unpleasant thoughts. i don’t want to have them anymore but everytime i think about it i google it and i know that is the worst possible thing you can do because im just looking for closure and i know it makes it worse but i can’t stop it because i just want to go back to “normal” but i just can’t seem to

i can relate but i obsess and fear that i am bisexual. my thoughts say stuff like “you think boys are cute and girls are pretty so you must be bi” is so convincing and feels so real i hate it so much

i know and it’s so hard to not think about it like i just want it to get out of my head!!

In my case, I feel relief after seeing a beautiful girl, especially my girlfriend like I should be, BUT THEN, it wants to say “Stop it, you don’t like that anymore” and that’s when I really believe it’s me and I’m super frustrated and sad all over again. Anybody have intimacy issues?

EXACTLY!! i don’t know what caused it though and i know you can’t just randomly change sexuality but i just can’t stop thinking about i and it drives me crazy. i like guys but then i get this thing where i just think like oh no what if i don’t like guys but i know i do and it just repeats itself. i hate it so much

I get that, and I experience “groinal responses” (I hope) around guys. I get emotionally depressed when my brain bullies me and tells me I don’t love women anymore. I love women and I respect them, and that’s where it traps me at.

yes exactly!! HOCD is the worst and it’s crazy how real it can feel

I had this years ago and it's an unanswerable question. There is no certainty. Once you accept that and just let the thoughts be and don't engage with them they start to lose their power. Give up looking for an answer, take the anxiety, when the thought comes to mind don't engage with it.