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My false memory is about when I felt aroused when I picked up a 2 year old or 3 year old I can’t remember how old she was. I was probably 14 or 15. When I was about 19 I started having harm ocd in nursing school and then one day (three years ago) the thought popped in my head “ what if you touched that child” and I remembered feeling aroused and i got so scared that maybe I did and I was severely depressed and anxious and thought I was going crazy and losing touch with reality. I remember feeling aroused once or twice before then and thinking how maybe it’s just my body saying that you want a baby etc and obviously I just let it go until this awful thought “what if” came into my mind and then once I started ruminating and worrying about past memories that maybe proved it was true etc it got so much worse. Eventually my mom took me to the doc because I had “anxiety” and I sat in the doctors office thinking I was a P. The more you feed into the ocd the more you can’t figure out what is real and not real. My best advice for you: Try to stop ruminating. The intrusive thoughts “what if” can come in but tell ocd oh yeah maybe I did do that maybe I didn’t but I’m choosing to accept the uncertainty. The best thing that has helped me is to think “confidence over certainty” I’m not certain I didn’t touch that child because certainty is never attainable and especially as a ocd sufferer, but I’m confident that I would have the moral code to 1/ not do that 2/ just “forget” and move on I’ve came a long way and medication has helped a ton.. currently in therapy and learning how to combat the rumination and intrusive thoughts (about false memory) and it is helping... hope you can recover
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Also practice compassion and be kind to yourself
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I am going through this right now. A few weeks ago I wanted to kill myself because of this, I know exactly what you feel. I have improved a lot since then, a way to go but I have a bit of hope now.
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I was like that a few months ago, I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s horrible I am trying ACT, it’s accepting that its my False Memory OCD. It’s been working very well for me. I have a ‘mantra’ that I repeat every time I have the thought.
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I’m glad you are doing better Lewis
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Thank you so much everyone for your kind words. I have had this type of OCD for 30 years and each time an intrusive thought has come up I have always felt this way and tried to get certainty to no avail. In the end these other thoughts which crippled me back then no longer do that. This thought just seems so scary as it is saying what if when I was asleep?! Daft I know! I know 100% that I would never do anything against my morals but this one seems to be twisting it. I know this never happened at all but the OCD makes it seem so real. If I wouldn't do something like that whilst awake why the hell would I when I was asleep?!!! It is just a crazy disorder and the anxiety this time round is the worse I have ever felt. I used to tell my Mum all my thoughts and can't now she isn't here. I have told friends who just think it is ridiculous which I know it is but it just won't leave my head alone. I do get some days where I can see it for what it is....the lying OCD but I need to be able to cling onto that. Last week I felt much better but like I say I got so upset about my Mum again it just takes me back to square one.
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I’m so sorry about your mum girl any amount of stress can make ocd ten times worse. It can feel so very real. Are you in therapy?
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I am in therapy but over facetime. My counsellpr has known me for 10 years and knows me very well. I start to get over it but then i just get upset about my Mum again out of nowhere and it makes the thoughts seem real again. I feel sick all of the time and have lost weight. I have started to go jogging but today has been the worst day and I was in bed.....
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I’m so sorry. You sound like me when it started and my relapse. Food tasted awful and nothing seemed to be worth it. I promise it gets better with help. Is it an ocd specialist tho?
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He is an OCD specialist. We do theory a and b and erp. He is lovely. He has got me through all of the other OCD obsessions and they crippled me like this one is now. I know I will eventually look back at this obsession and realise how ridiculous it was. The other obsessions I have had have been truly awful compared to this mild one! It's just crazy how your mind creates all of these things in your head and won't leave you alone. I get so scared when I have OCD. X
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Lewis thank you for your help. What is your mantra? I haven't tried ACT. Perhaps I will ask my counsellor x
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Yes it’s pocd is the worst because it’s so scary and against our morals. It feels so scary but you can do it! You take away the rumination and response to it and once ocd, like a bully, recognizes it can’t win will back off until it fades away into the background
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Thank you so much for replying to me today. It has meant such a lot. I know EXACTLY what I have to do to get the OCD to stop bullying me but this one for some reason is just so hard. Probably because everything that has happened over the last few years is now hitting me. I know when this one has gone that I hope I don't have as much stress as I have had 3 years ago......I lost my step dad friend and uncle in three months.......found out my husband was having an affair with a friend,I moved 4 times in the Space of 18 months . My divorce came through 3 weeks before my Mum died. I had to argue over the settlement whilst looking after my Mum. I had to sell my Mums house and empty it all out on my own as my brother wouldn't help. All he wanted was the money then tried to accuse me of holding money back. It was awful. I have a lot of my mum's things still as I can't bear to part with them. Even writing this is making me cry xx
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That’s not a problem! I’m happy to help. So my Mantra was advised by my Therapist and Ali Greymond (YouTuber I highly recommend) Every time the thought comes in my head “From this moment on, I am no longer going to pay attention to this thought. This is False memory OCD. I’m going to live my life and not deal with it anymore” It doesn’t matter if you believe it or not, you are making the choice not to believe it. Then after you say it, focus on something else. If it comes back a second later, repeat again. The less attention you pay the thought, the less you ruminate, the more you think “I can do this” - don’t fall into the trap of feeling a little better so it’s safe to go back and think/figure it out. Ali explains better in videos! :)
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Thank you Lewis. I know about Ali Greymond and was going to book some sessions with her in fact. She explains false memory ocd exactly how it is. I do have her morning and evening affirmations and was doing them last week but haven't this week. I think I have done what you said not to do......when I feel slightly better I do go back and think about it to make sure !!! It's a never ending cycle at the moment. I am talking with my therapist tomorrow and I am going to get back on track no.matter how hard it feels. I know this obsession will go and I will feel silly but that's OCD for you. I have been bullied a lot of my life and I am not going to be bullied by this disorder.....Even writing this it is saying to me "well it isn't ocd is it?" It is such a wicked disorder. Xx
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Let me know how she is. I’ve been considering booking some sessions with her too. She understands it exactly! Do you notice how when you follow what she says it does get better. Then you get distracted or if you get tired later on in the day, or think it’s safe to go back and reassure yourself then it goes back to being worse right? OCD will make you think it’s not working, but it does. If you hear it say “well it isn’t OCD is it?” Repeat the mantra, move on, repeat etc
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You are so very right Lewis. When I follow what she says it gets easier and the mist clears but then you go back and check and reassure yourself like you said and it gets worse. I have to learn to say the mantra to myself. We will get over this lovely xx
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Yeah, write it down. Keep it on you. Learn it, if we stick to it, it gets easier. Who knows what’s beyond that, let’s find out haha!
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Hi NOCD community, I was hoping to get some advice from fellow sufferers. In December we welcomed the first baby into the family, my beautiful niece. Since then, my POCD has been awful, which I know is probably very normal. Last week, in the middle of a very high stress day in my family, I was changing my niece and as usually happens, I got intrusive thoughts about awful things people do to babies when changing them. The thoughts were so harrowing to have as I was also changing her at the exact same time, and I felt my hands just quickly want to finish patting her dry before putting her nappy on, and for some reason, my heart dropped with that hand movement, because I was afraid that I had acted out the awful thoughts in my head, in a moment of mania because my morals, values and heart do not align with abuse of any kind, especially to children. My niece is my everything, and I know I would never want harm to come to her in any way, shape or form. I love her endlessly. I am having therapy, but have only had a couple of sessions. But, I cannot shake the 'what if'. I am tortured over trying to remember what it was I did that made my heart drop, but I can't, and its getting fuzzier and fuzzier the more I try to remember. Could anyone offer any advice on this please? Thank you.
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Hello 😭, so uhm I’m kind of in the point of my POCD where I’m just tired. I just need to get it all out and get some sort of instruction of how to just idk live? So for me my childhood is pretty blurry. I have a few real event blended with false memory events there but other than that I’m a csa victim. And the way I tried to cope? By fetishising nyself, making CP of myself, seeing my life goal as being used, raped and a prostitue. Self destructive behaviour through talking to pedophiles and seeing my only worth as if I was sexually attractive. Which made me kind of numb to CP as a coping mechanism I guess. And heres’s where my main event of REOCD/false memory ocd comes in. I have a few events in my life when I’ve accidentally stumbled across CP ish mangas or just plan abuse and not had a big reaction. Some of them I even liked the story. And my ocd LOVES playing with it, making me truly believe I enjoy and get of from CP. I’ve also had quite a few dreams. A few days ago I had a dream about me getting triggered by something I did in the dream. Which I now can’t figure out if it actually was a dream. But also moments overall where I’ve unintentionally touched my private part while my siblings are in the room or when I found a guy 2 years younger than me pretty in 4th grade. Or a few of my only friends who turned out to be younger than me, and I had talked about sexual things (like fan fictions, my trauma ect) with them. AHSHB I absolutely hate ruminating and I’m tired so so so so so so tried 😭 idk help me? Please TT
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Im sorry I have to come on here and ask for advice once again, but as some people on here know I have been suffering with ocd since I was around the age of ten, which only got worse as my beautiful children came along. or nearly 60 years Ive had every type of ocd there is, they always come down to the same thing , not wanting to ever harm the people I love more than anything. I had got on top of this and was managing well, I know I would never harm anyone I love ever and would never ever want to, no more of the hypothetical scenarios for reassurance either , but its like every time I try to stop the mental compulsions intrusive thoughts come back after a few days, As I was in between going to sleep and was half awake the horrible words ' hope ***** dies I cannot even write the name down who it was about. I do not know where it came from but I am constantly getting upset about this as it was about someone I would give up my life for. I think you can probably guess what I mean without me having to say it. I do read a lot of posts and ocd podcasts and once read someones story wher they used to wish bad things and I have never been able to stop worrying in case something like that happened to me . Could this be what it was that has caused it ? I think Ive also still held onto something from when I was a child when I used to worry that thinking something too much could make it happen,, Please, please give me some addvice and thank you,,, sorry for the long post.
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